Solo – The Single Person’s Guide to a Remarkable Life

Are You Dead? Going Solo in China

Tue, 28 Apr 2026 10:00:00 GMT

One in four Chinese households is now a single person. Pan Wang, Associate Professor of Chinese and Asian Studies at UNSW Sydney, joins Peter McGraw to talk about the “Are You Dead?” app, one-person hotpot restaurants, date-renting, AI companions, marriage markets, and how TV dating shows reshaped love and marriage in a single generation.

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Solo Thoughts 18: Welcoming Rough Seas

Tue, 07 Apr 2026 10:00:00 GMT

A high-achieving friend falls in love and suddenly finds himself in rough emotional seas. In this Solo Thoughts episode, Peter McGraw explores why calm, optimized lives can make us successful – but not truly alive – and why passion, uncertainty, and even heartbreak may be the price of a psychologically rich life.

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Lessons from the Hurt Business

Tue, 24 Mar 2026 10:00:00 GMT

Heavyweight boxer turned writer Ed Latimore joins Peter McGraw to talk about his new book, Hard Lessons from the Hurt Business—a raw meditation on violence, discipline, ego, addiction, and growth. Onwards!

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The Psychology of Solitude

Tue, 10 Mar 2026 10:00:00 GMT

Alone isn’t lonely. Psychologist Robert Coplan, author of The Joy of Solitude, coined aloneliness—the distress of not getting enough time to yourself. Psychologist Thuy-vy Nguyen, co-author of Solitude: The Science and Power of Being Alone, discovered the “deactivation effect”—just fifteen minutes alone turns down the volume on your emotions. Peter McGraw talks to them about the science of solitude and answers questions, such as “What actually happens when you sit with yourself? And how much solitude is enough?” The answers might surprise you.

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Aromanticism (Again)

Sat, 28 Feb 2026 11:00:00 GMT

In this re-released episode, Peter McGraw asks the question, “What if you never felt romantic love – and didn’t need to?” In this eye-opening favorite, Peter sits down with Jessalyn Dean, an aromantic relationship anarchist living a remarkable solo life. They unpack what it means to be aromantic, how Jessalyn got off the relationship escalator, and why autonomy, not romance, is her guiding compass. It’s funny, sharp, and surprisingly relatable – even if you’re not aromantic.

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I Love You, Man (Again)

Thu, 12 Feb 2026 11:00:00 GMT

What happens when two charismatic creatives—and close friends—sit down with Peter McGraw to talk friendship, love, and the Solo movement? This intimate, funny, and thoughtful conversation with Chester See and Darwyn Metzger explores what it means to live remarkably, forge deep male friendships, and question the default path. A fan favorite, this episode returns for a new wave of listeners.

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Sick while Solo

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 11:00:00 GMT

Why are unmarried patients less likely to receive life-saving medical treatments? Peter McGraw talks to professor and author Joan DelFattore about how America’s healthcare system disadvantages those who are single or outside the nuclear family model. From TEDx talks to the New England Journal of Medicine, she’s sounding the alarm on a silent crisis. If you’re Solo—and especially if you live alone—you need to hear this episode.

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Aging Single #11: Third Acts

Tue, 30 Dec 2025 11:00:00 GMT

Whether you call it a Third Act, third season, or second life, one thing’s clear: middle-age and beyond isn’t the end. It’s a redesign. In this episode, as part of the series on aging, retiring, and dying single, Peter McGraw explores how Solos can turn aging, retirement, and reinvention into their most liberated chapter yet. Joined by Theresa Williamson, a city planner and Solo in her own second life, they unpack how mobility, flexibility, and optionality give Solos an edge—and why a fulfilling Third Act doesn’t require a fat bank account or a partner, just a little creativity (and maybe a plane ticket to Brazil).

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Solo Thoughts 17: Welcome to the Solo Economy

Thu, 11 Dec 2025 11:00:00 GMT

In this Solo Thoughts episode, Peter McGraw talks directly to you about how singles are reshaping work, housing, finance, and community. The rise of single living isn’t a passing fad— it’s a structural shift. Yet our institutions remain stuck in a world built for two. That disconnect is where the Solo Economy sits. Is the world ready? No.

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Diverging from the Relationship Escalator (Again)

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 11:00:00 GMT

New to Solo? Start here! This re-release from the early days of the pod covers a concept that comes up again and again—in the podcast and Peter McGraw’s book. The “relationship escalator” is the default path of dating, moving in, marrying, and merging lives. Amy Gahran, who coined the term, joins Peter to break it all down. We explore what the escalator is, why it’s so invisible, and how Solos step off it—through consensual non-monogamy, platonic partnerships, sexual friendships, or simply going Solo.

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Single at Heart, Singles Bill of Rights, and Singles' Day

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 11:00:00 GMT

It’s 11/11—Singles’ Day—and we’re celebrating Solo style. First, Bella DePaulo returns to talk about her new book Single at Heart, why solo diners are more influential than you think, and what it really means to thrive alone. Then, Christina Campbell (aka CC) joins to unveil the Singles Bill of Rights—a bold call for equality in a world built for two. Onwards!

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Intimacy Design

Thu, 23 Oct 2025 10:00:00 GMT

Sex educator and psychologist Lisa Dawn Hamilton returns to join Peter McGraw to build on Relationship Design and discuss Intimacy Design—the art of co-creating authentic, adventurous, and consent-forward sexual experiences. From sexual containers to eager consent, they explore how to make intimacy safer, hotter, and more intentional.

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Lucy Meggeson is Thriving Solo

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw talks with Lucy Meggeson—host of Thrive Solo and author of a new book Shiny Happy Singles (UK) / Thrive Solo (US)—about embracing single, child-free living as a path to freedom, joy, and reinvention.

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Rewind & Reflect: What Makes a Life Remarkable?

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 10:00:00 GMT

In this re-release of a popular early episode, Peter McGraw talks to guests Jill Cohen and Julie Nirvelli about what it means to live a remarkable life. They explore how to break away from societal expectations and design a life that aligns with your values. The conversation touches on autonomy, identity, and the joys – and challenges – of living remarkably as a Solo. If you are interested in how Peter’s thoughts have evolved on the subject of living remarkably, check out the later chapters of his Solo book to learn about the Foundation-Flourish model of well-being. Onwards!

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Episode 250: Looking Forward and Looking Back

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 10:00:00 GMT

In this milestone episode, Peter McGraw reunites with fan-favorite Julie Nirvelli to reflect on 250 episodes of Solo and the rise of the Solo movement. Together, they look back on how far we've come, celebrate the viral success of the TEDx talk Stop Telling People to Get Married, and look ahead to what’s next for a world built for one.

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Waiting (Again)

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 10:00:00 GMT

What does it mean to wait—especially as a single person? In this re-release, Peter McGraw is joined by guest co-host Iris Schneider, a fellow Solo and behavioral scientist, to talk with sociologist Kinneret Lahad about the overlooked power of time in singlehood.

They explore how the relationship escalator shapes our perceptions of time and adulthood—particularly for women, who are often left waiting hopefully... or hopelessly. They also discuss how waiting can strip people of power, and why having a family is so often equated with moral virtue. Plus, they ask a big question: If becoming an adult means giving up childish things—like Peter Pan—why are we so quick to abandon joy? Iris’s answer might just blow your mind.

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Defending Relationship Ideology

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 10:00:00 GMT

Why do so many people defend marriage like it is sacred – even when the data does not back it up. In this provocative episode, Peter McGraw talks to Martin Day about his paper on people’s committed relationship ideology – the belief system that says romantic partnership is the key to happiness, status, and success. With special guest co-host Iris Schneider, they explore how these beliefs are less about love and more about control and comfort in a chaotic world.

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Dignity

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 10:00:00 GMT

What if your life was built around dignity – not just yours, but everyone’s? In this episode, behavioral scientist and proud Solo Cait Lamberton joins Peter McGraw to unpack how dignity shapes Solo living, partnered life, and everything in between. They explore what dignity really means (hint: it’s not just self-esteem or being nice), the everyday moments we affirm or violate it, and how to design a life rooted in clarity, voice, fairness, and ownership. Onwards!

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Three Single Women Put Peter on the Hot Seat!

Tue, 01 Jul 2025 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw takes the hot seat on the Three Single Women podcast to celebrate their 6-month anniversary—and (boldly) speak for all men. This crossover episode dives into masculinity, femininity, dating, and personal growth. ✨ Special announcement: Peter’s new eBook on aging sexy is coming soon. Learn more and join the Solo community at petermcgraw.org/solo

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Masculinity and Manhood

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 10:00:00 GMT

Masculinity and Manhood: What are they, what are they not, and where we’re headed? To answer these questions, Peter McGraw is joined by two friends from a recent Men’s Wellness Day for a thoughtful (and fun) conversation on strength, vulnerability, relationships, femininity, and the state of manhood and masculinity. You can find bonus content about male role models and learn about the new Aging Sexy eBook at petermcgraw.org/solo.

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A Rich Remarkable Life (Again)

Tue, 03 Jun 2025 10:00:00 GMT

In this re-release of a thought-provoking episode, Peter McGraw is joined by Dr. Erin Westgate for a lively exploration of what it means to live a psychologically rich life. Moving beyond the usual narratives of happiness and meaning, this episode introduces a third path—one filled with novelty, complexity, and perspective-changing experiences. From solo travel to one-way tickets, Peter and Erin unpack how embracing uncertainty and pursuing the unconventional can lead to a more remarkable life. With so many new members joining the Solo community, this conversation is well worth revisiting. Tune in and start enriching your life—on your own terms!

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Meditations For (Single) Mortals

Tue, 20 May 2025 10:00:00 GMT

What if the key to a remarkable life isn’t doing more—but doing less, better? In this episode, Peter McGraw welcomes author Oliver Burkeman to explore themes from his latest book Meditations for Mortals. They dive into the beauty of limits, the folly of perfectionism, and why embracing imperfection might be the most productive thing you can do. Tune in for kayak metaphors, scruffy hospitality, and practical wisdom for the Solo life.

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Did The Covid Pandemic Fuel The Solo Movement?

Tue, 06 May 2025 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw is joined by Mary Dahm and Shane Mauss to reflect on how the pandemic disrupted everything—and unexpectedly liberated Solos. From lockdown revelations to pandemic breakups, we explore how COVID accelerated a shift toward independence, self-reliance, and living a life off the relationship escalator.

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Are You A Lone Wolf?

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 10:00:00 GMT

Are you a lone wolf? Live from the HiFi Homestead, Peter McGraw is joined by his good friend—comedian, science communicator, and self-professed lone wolf—Shane Mauss, for a deep dive into solitude, survival, and the myths we tell about ourselves.

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Friend Breakups

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 10:00:00 GMT

Everyone talks about romantic breakups—but what about breaking up with a friend? In this episode, Peter McGraw is joined in the Solo Studio by two community favorites: the perceptive and passionate Janice Formichella and the Solo OG Julie Nirvelli. Together, they dive into the often-overlooked world of friend breakups—why they happen, how to navigate them, and what makes a good friend in the first place. Expect real talk, a few laughs, and maybe even a Taylor Swift reference…

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Relationship Design (Again)

Fri, 28 Mar 2025 10:00:00 GMT

In this re-release of a popular episode, Peter McGraw welcomes Jessalyn Dean into the Solo Studio for a deep dive into Relationship Design—the art of co-creating intentional, customized relationships that truly work for you. Instead of following default scripts, Relationship Design encourages open communication, mutual agreements, and regular check-ins to ensure relationships remain fulfilling and adaptive over time. This conversation is too important not to revisit—especially with so many new members joining the Solo movement. Listen in and start designing!

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Listener Questions #2

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 11:00:00 GMT

In this AMA episode, Peter McGraw welcomes back familiar guest Julie Nirvelli to tackle questions from the Solo community. From Solo Salons and international moves to personality types and relationship design, they dive into thought-provoking topics about solo living, dating, and self-discovery. Plus, an update on Peter’s latest projects—including the Solo workbook!

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Creating Your Solo Space

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 11:00:00 GMT

Your space is more than just where you live—it’s a reflection of your independence and the life you’re building. Breakup coach and Sex and the Solo Girl host Janice Formichella joins Peter McGraw in the Solo Studio to explore how to design a solo space that supports your well-being, creativity, and personal growth. They cover everything from choosing the right location to adding personal touches, small luxuries, and routines that make your home feel like you.

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Creative Journeys

Sun, 09 Feb 2025 11:00:00 GMT

How can creativity fuel a remarkable Solo life? Writer and storytelling expert Carrie Osgood joins Peter McGraw in the Solo Studio to explore using storytelling to embrace unconventional choices, alternative narrative frameworks beyond the Hero’s Journey, and how art can be a tool for personal transformation. Listen now and start rewriting your own story!

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Valuing Yourself (Again)

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 11:00:00 GMT

How do you value yourself? This fan-favorite episode is being re-released for new listeners (or a reminder for seasoned listeners)! Peter McGraw welcomes Sarah Stinson and Lawrence Williams into the Solo Studio to explore what it means to truly value yourself in a world that pushes conformity. Packed with personal stories and practical insights, this conversation will inspire you to embrace your worth and live remarkably. Join the Solo community and tell us how you are valuing yourself in the new year: http://petermcgraw.org/solo

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Aging Single #10: Retiring Early

Mon, 30 Dec 2024 11:00:00 GMT

In this episode in the series on aging, retiring and dying single, Peter McGraw dives into the world of early retirement with Pete Adeney, aka Mr. Money Mustache, and Jessalyn Dean. They tackle the unique challenges and perks of achieving Financial Independence, Retire Early (FIRE) as a single person. Discover how Solos can navigate life's big financial decisions alone, find purpose, and embrace the freedom of early retirement.

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Aging Single #9: Retiring Abroad

Thu, 19 Dec 2024 11:00:00 GMT

We continue the Solo series on aging, retiring, and dying Solo with a look at expat living as a remarkable opportunity for singles. Kathleen Peddicord, a leading expert on living, investing, and retiring abroad, joins Peter McGraw to discuss the unique opportunities for singles to pursue a global lifestyle. With over 30 years of experience and having traveled to more than 75 countries, Kathleen shares insights about retiring abroad. The conversation explores financial considerations, social connections, and overcoming challenges to create a thriving life abroad—one uniquely suited for singles seeking adventure and personal growth.

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Solo Thoughts 16: Are You the Hero in Your Life's Story?

Thu, 21 Nov 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw reflects on the question, “Are you the hero in your life’s story?” After announcing a more spontaneous podcast release schedule, Peter dives into the idea of being the active protagonist in one’s life. Using the Hero’s Journey and Virgin’s Promise as frameworks, he unpacks the ways we can break free from domestication—society’s “rules” that hold us back from pursuing our dreams.

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Romance and Love as a Solo

Thu, 07 Nov 2024 11:00:00 GMT

How do you embrace romance while living a solo life? In this episode, Peter McGraw is joined by two special guests who crave romance without compromising their independence. They discuss navigating the complexities of love and dating, balancing autonomy with romantic desire and rethinking traditional relationship models. What do you think? Join the Solo community and let us know: https://petermcgraw.org/solo/

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A Party Of One

Thu, 31 Oct 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw talks with Meghan Keane, the founder and managing producer of NPR's Life Kit and author of the new book Party of One. They discuss the empowering message of being your own soulmate and navigating a world full of societal expectations. Meghan shares insights from her journey and advice for the mental and emotional side of single living in a world built for two.

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TEDxBoulder Recap: Stop Telling Single People To Get Married

Thu, 17 Oct 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Join Peter McGraw, fresh off his TEDxBoulder talk “Stop Telling Single People to Get Married,” as he sits down with Mary Dahm in the Solo Studio. They preview the talk, explore the process of crafting and delivering it, and share behind-the-scenes insights, including the challenges of speaking to a large, live audience.

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Aging Single #8: Family Love Letter

Thu, 03 Oct 2024 10:00:00 GMT

We continue the Solo series on aging, retiring, and dying single by continuing our exploration of end-of-life issues. Financial advisor Todd Engmann joins Peter McGraw to discuss the "Family Love Letter" – a tool designed to help organize and communicate vital information to loved ones in case of incapacity or death. We explore how this document, can be a lifesaver for Solos without traditional family structures, ensuring that their wishes are known and respected. More importantly, the Family Love Letter is an act of generosity that eases the burden on love ones putting your affairs in order.

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Coping with Loneliness

Thu, 19 Sep 2024 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode of Solo, Peter McGraw talks to Janice Formichella, a breakup coach and member of the Solo community, about the challenge of loneliness. Together, they explore the complex nature of loneliness—whether social or romantic—and practical strategies to combat it. Whether you're navigating the end of a relationship or simply seeking to better understand and cope with loneliness, this conversation offers valuable insights and actionable advice. There is also fun bonus material for this episode where Janice and Peter talk about their love of the show, Queer Eye. You can access bonus material by signing up to be part of the Solo community: https://petermcgraw.org/solo/

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Aging Single #7: Advance Directives For End-Of-Life

Thu, 05 Sep 2024 10:00:00 GMT

In this heartfelt episode, Peter McGraw explores the challenging yet crucial topic of end-of-life planning for Solos with Teri Ashley, a certified advance care planning specialist and hospice volunteer. Teri shares her deeply personal journey that led her to start Mindful Endings, which is dedicated to informing and empowering individuals to make thoughtful end-of-life choices that align with their personal values. Together, Teri and Peter explore the importance of advance directives, the unique challenges Solos face as they age, and the emotional realities of facing end-of-life without a traditional family network, including what to expect from hospice and palliative care. Teri provides invaluable resources and insights on how Solos can prepare for potential diagnoses, such as dementia, build supportive communities, and ensure their wishes are respected. Join the Solo community for more information and discussion of this important topic: https://petermcgraw.org/solo/.

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Single In Rio De Janeiro, Brazil

Thu, 29 Aug 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw welcomes back previous guest Monique (Murad) Da Cunha and long-time listener Theresa Williamson, both proud solos living in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. They discuss Monique and Theresa's unique experience of single living in Brazil, exploring cultural perspectives, personal journeys, and the vibrant solo lifestyle in Rio, one of the world's most dynamic cities.

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Truth Or Truth With Myq Kaplan

Thu, 15 Aug 2024 10:00:00 GMT

In this Solo episode, Peter McGraw welcomes comedian Myq Kaplan, known for his appearances on the Tonight Show, Conan, and America's Got Talent. They dive into a lively game of Truth or Truth, discussing the lone wolf nature of stand-up comedians, the prevalence of single scientists, and strong solo characters in media. What do you think? Join the Solo community and share your thoughts: https://petermcgraw.org/solo/

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Aging Single #6: Generosity And Legacy

Thu, 01 Aug 2024 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode, as part of a series on aging, retiring, and dying single (which airs on the first Thursday of every month), Peter McGraw talks with Shelby Radcliffe. She shares insights on generosity and legacy for Solos, discussing how they – with thoughtful planning and reflection — can make significant contributions and create meaningful legacies while living fulfilling lives.

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Listener Questions #1

Thu, 18 Jul 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Inspired by Peter McGraw's appearance on the SavageLove Podcast, he invites Julie Nirvelli into the Solo Studio to answer some listener questions.

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Aging Single #5: Aging Sexy

Thu, 04 Jul 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw continues his series on aging, retiring, and dying single. In this episode, he talks to Cindy Gallop about aging sexy. What do you think?

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Truth Or Truth With One Single Woman

Thu, 20 Jun 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw plays Truth or Truth with Pip Brown, the host of One Single Woman podcast.

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Aging Single #4: Moving Your Body in Old Age

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 10:00:00 GMT

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The Art Of Being Alone

Thu, 23 May 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw speaks to Renuka Gavrani, the author of "The Art of Being Alone: Solitude Is My HOME, Loneliness Was My Cage."

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Solo Thoughts 15: Solo Thoughts From Solo "Trips"

Thu, 16 May 2024 10:00:00 GMT

In this introspective episode of Solo Thoughts, Peter McGraw delves into the life-altering insights gained from a year’s worth of solo psilocybin trips, exploring themes of enjoying life more, connecting deeply, and embracing freedom. He also touches upon the challenges of overthinking and the quest for balance between vigilance and relaxation. Plus, don't miss the bonus material available exclusively to our Solo community members; signup at https://petermcgraw.org/solo/.

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The Science of Solitude and the Power of Being Alone

Thu, 09 May 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Is solitude just for introverts or monks? Think again. Heather Hansen, co-author of Solitude: The Science and Power of Being Alone, talks to Peter McGraw about how solo time is essential for our well-being. In this episode, they explore the history and benefits of solitude, why it's so hard to study, and how anyone can craft positive solitary experiences. From "complete olitude" to "public solitude." you'll gain a new appreciation for the power of being alone. Onwards!

Aging Single #3: Finances and Estate Planning

Thu, 02 May 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to another episode of "Aging Single," where Peter McGraw explores the intricacies of aging, retiring, and dying solo. This time, in episode three, he is focused on the critical topics of finances and estate planning, an essential discussion for singles navigating their later years independently. Peter is joined by two guests: Louisa M. Ritsick from Ritsick Law LLC, a seasoned lawyer specializing in estate and tax planning, and Kirsten Hollander, a certified financial planner with a wealth of experience in helping clients achieve financial independence. Together, they share their expertise on overcoming the unique financial and legal challenges faced by aging singles.

Unmarried Equality

Thu, 25 Apr 2024 10:00:00 GMT

This episode seeks to explore the singles advocacy movement with Gordon Morris, who is aiming to breathe new life into Unmarried Equality, a nonprofit at the crossroads of the singles' rights movement. Alongside guest co-host Christina Campbell, a fervent supporter of single living, Peter McGraw explores the roots and future of singles advocacy, from the pioneering "Singles Bill of Rights" to today’s push for societal acceptance. Discover how you can join this crucial cause for equality.

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Solo Thoughts 14: Reading, Writing, And Never Surrendering

Wed, 17 Apr 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw is concerned about his students and has been writing open letters to them. In this Solo Thoughts episode, he reads those letters to you with the hope of getting you to read more books, write more often, and never give up on your dreams.

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Ten Tips For Better Sex

Wed, 10 Apr 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Whether with a partner or solo, sex is fun--or at least should be. Peter McGraw and guest co-host, Laura Grant, talk to Justin Lehmiller, a sex researcher and author of "Tell Me What You Want" about how to have better sex. They discuss Justin's "Ten Resolutions for Better Sex."

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Aging Single #2: Longevity And Super Aging

Wed, 03 Apr 2024 10:00:00 GMT

In the second episode on the series on aging, retiring, and dying single, Peter McGraw talks to William J. Kole (aka Bill Kole), author of "THE BIG 100: The New World of Super-Aging." Kole shares insights from his extensive research on the phenomenon of people living to 100 and beyond, discussing the implications for society, relationships, and personal well-being. They explore the factors contributing to longer lifespans, the pros and cons of a super-aging world, and the importance of preparing for this new reality. Kole also offers advice on cultivating habits and attitudes that can help us live longer, healthier, and more fulfilling lives, with a special focus on the considerations for those aging single.

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Dan Savage on the Solo Movement

Thu, 28 Mar 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw recently appeared on Savage Love. In this episode, Peter continues the conversation with writer, journalist, and activist Dan Savage for a bold, unfiltered discussion of the Solo Movement. Dan, known for his direct approach to discussing sexuality and relationships, provides valuable insights that have been essential to the Solo project. Join us for a thought-provoking discussion that goes beyond the pod's usual "PG-16" rating.

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Family Estrangement

Thu, 21 Mar 2024 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Peter McGraw invites two guests to tackle the complex and emotionally charged topic of family estrangement, as requested by several members of the Solo community (sign up at https://petermcgraw.org/solo/). To delve into this important subject, Peter is joined by Dr. Kristina Scharp, who brings her research expertise on the topic to the conversation. They are joined by guest co-host Janice Formichella, who brings her unique perspective and experience in helping individuals navigate difficult relationships add depth and nuance to the discussion.

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Late Singlehood In Religious Zionism

Thu, 14 Mar 2024 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw speaks to Ari Engelberg about the growing number of singles (i.e., "late singlehood") in Religious Zionism. Ari shares insights from his new book, Singlehood and Religion: The Case of Israeli Religious Zionist Singles.

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Aging Single #1: Introducing a Series on Aging, Retiring, and Dying Solo

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 11:00:00 GMT

One question that often comes up for the life-long single is, "But who will take care of you when you are old?" This episode begins a series on aging, retiring, and dying solo. Topics will include the future of aging, estate planning, longevity, navigating end of life, and making aging sexy. Episodes will be released on the first Thursday of the month. In this episode, which begins the series, Jessalyn Dean joins Peter McGraw in the Solo Studio to talk about the series, raise questions, brainstorm topics, and share perspectives. If you want to request topics or raise questions, you can do so as part of the Solo community: https://petermcgraw.org/solo

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Solo Thoughts 13: Every Day Is A Big Day

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 11:00:00 GMT

In this Solo Thoughts" episode, Peter McGraw builds on his "Big Day Theory" to explore the concept of being ALIVE versus merely existing. He reflects on the importance of making each day count, influenced by a transformative trip to the HiFi Homestead in Joshua Tree. Peter discuses how ordinary days can be infused with extraordinary meaning, engagement, and positive experiences. What do you do to feel "ALIVE"? Share your experiences with the Solo community: https://petermcgraw.org/solo

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Dating App Help (Hell)

Thu, 22 Feb 2024 11:00:00 GMT

While many listeners of the Solo podcasts are "No Way" Solos who are not interested in dating (for now or forever), the "Just May" and "New Way" Solos are often navigating the dating apps in search of love or lust. Peter McGraw and Jessalyn Dean talk about best practices for online dating--from figuring out your goals to how to pick the best pictures. They finish the episode by doing a dating profile audit for two online daters.

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Single 101: An Introduction To The Solo Movement

Thu, 15 Feb 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw recently appeared on Lisa Dawn Hamilton’s podcast, Do We Know Things. A member of the Solo community suggested the episode would be a good primer for people new to the Solo movement. Here is that conversation for new listeners to help bring them up to speed on statistics, definitions, and Peter’s perspectives on single living–and going Solo.

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A Solo's Valentine's Day

Tue, 13 Feb 2024 11:00:00 GMT

It's that time of year. To discuss Valentine's Day, Peter McGraw invites Mary Delia Allen and Iris Schneider back on the Solo podcast. They have a wide-ranging conversation that includes the history of Valentine's Day and alternative approaches to the day. What do you think? Join the Solo community and share your opinion: https://petermcgraw.org/solo

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A 'Family Of One' With Kris Marsh

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Kris Marsh returns to Solo to talk to Peter McGraw about 1) her research on how singles are not a monolithic group, 2) the reaction to her new book, The Love Jones Cohort, and 3) advice for Peter about dealing with the "haters" who will surface with the launch of his book, Solo-Building a Remarkable Life of Your Own.

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Solo Love Letters, The Sequel

Thu, 01 Feb 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw and Kriss Rita present another round of Solo Love Letters from his new book, Solo: Building a Remarkable Life of Your Own. What do you think? Join the Solo community and join the conversation: https://petermcgraw.org/solo/

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Solo Episode 200: Book Launch!

Thu, 25 Jan 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw's new book (Solo: Building a Remarkable Life of Your Own) is about to come out. To talk about it and reflect on Solo's episode, he invites two familiar voices into the Solo Studio to talk about the Solo Movement. Join the conversation at: https://petermcgraw.org/solo

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A Solo With A Spouse

Thu, 18 Jan 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw speaks to Jen O'Donnell, a friend and early-reader of his new book, about being married and solo.

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Non-Monogamy With Lisa Dawn Hamilton

Thu, 11 Jan 2024 11:00:00 GMT

People think that people are either monogamous or non-monogamous--on or the other. However, emerging research reveals a new perspective on people's sexual and romantic desires. In this Solo episode, Peter McGraw speaks to a neuroscientist and Solo listener, Lisa Dawn Hamilton, about her research that shows the average person sits somewhere in the middle.

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Reclaiming Friendship

Thu, 04 Jan 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Friendship is essential to a remarkable life. Peter McGraw believes it is time to elevate friendship, and in that vein, he invites Marisa Franco to talk about the topic. Marisa is the New York Times bestselling author of Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends.

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Solo Thoughts 12: Do You Have A Watcher?

Thu, 28 Dec 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw speaks to you directly in this Solo Thoughts episode about the need to develop connections beyond traditional romantic relationships. In particular, he asks if you have someone to call in the middle of the night if you are sick or afraid, and if you don't, it is essential to develop new friendships or invigorate old ones. Finally, there is a bit of bonus material at the end about an experiment that Peter has been doing called "Monastic Mornings."

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A View Of The Modern American Family

Thu, 21 Dec 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw has found the research conducted by the Pew Research Center to be invaluable for his Solo Project. In this episode, Peter speaks to Rachel Minkin about Pew's report on Americans’ View of the Modern American Family. Get ready for an enlightening discussion where expert analysis meets deep curiosity. Nerd Alert!

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Truth Or Truth With A Breakup Coach

Thu, 14 Dec 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw invites a breakup coach and host of Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On into the Solo Studio to play Truth or Truth. Janice Formichella and Peter have a delightful conversation, discussing topics such as the "no contact" rule, overcoming loneliness, and being single during the holiday.

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Loss, Grief, And Growth

Thu, 07 Dec 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Many Solo listeners have requested an episode on loss – whether due to the death of a loved one, the loss of a beloved pet, a difficult breakup, or just the disappointments of everyday life. Peter McGraw invites Tessa Bringer and Jaclyn Foglio into the Solo Studio to examine healthy coping strategies, find meaning after loss, and discover the potential for post-traumatic growth. As part of the conversation, they discuss the unique challenges singles face when grieving and mourning.

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Being Single With Cancer

Thu, 30 Nov 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Tracy Maxwell, a cancer survivor and author of "Being Single, with Cancer," joins Peter McGraw in the Solo Studio to talk about the unique physical, emotional, and practical challenges singles face undergoing cancer treatment and how to respond to those challenges.

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Solo Book Club: How To Break Up With Your Phone

Thu, 16 Nov 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw invites Christina Martinez and Brandon Patrick back into the Solo Studio for a new book club. They discuss Catherine Price's book, How to Break Up with Your Phone. It's a fun, inspiring conversation that may help you live a more remarkable life by spending less time on your phone.

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Speaking the Unspeakable with Meghan Daum

Thu, 09 Nov 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw invites Meghan Daum into the Solo Studio to discuss her work creating a space for women to discuss challenging ideas and personal truths that go against the grain. As part of their conversation, Meghan discusses how women are beginning to speak out about an emerging crises of men and boys--one that is affecting women's dating and mating prospects.

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Flirting

Thu, 02 Nov 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Do you like to flirt? Do you like be flirted with? Peter McGraw speaks to Lucy Meggeson, the host of Spinsterhood Reimagined, about this fun yet challenging endeavor. They discuss what fliting is, why flirting is important, and give some tips to be a better flirt. What do you think? Join the Solo community and let Peter know: https://petermcgraw.org/solo/

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Solo Thoughts 11: Exploring Goals, Wants, Auditions, And A Call To Surrender

Thu, 26 Oct 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw shares his thoughts, solo, about an experiment he is conducting with his life. What do you think? Join the Solo community and share your thoughts: https://petermcgraw.org/solo/

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Where Would You Go And What Would You Do Alone?

Thu, 19 Oct 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw hosts a fun, inspirational discussion about solo travel dreams, fantasies, and realities. Returning guests Mary Delia Allen and Iris Schneider share their vision for where they would go and what they would do alone if given the chance. From a silent retreat in Joshua Tree, to swimming with whales, to volunteering in a war-torn country, Mary Delia and Iris indulge their wildest solo travel dreams. Tune in as they discuss their ideal destinations, upgrade their home space, and brainstorm how they would spend an unexpected three-day weekend at home. This wide-ranging conversation will have you dreaming up your own solo bucket list.

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Kerri Baillie

Thu, 12 Oct 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw talks to Kerri Baillie, a member of the Solo community, about her transition from single to Solo. Join the community at https://petermcgraw.org/solo/

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Solo Love Letters With Kriss Rita

Thu, 05 Oct 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Listen to Love Letters to Solo. Peter McGraw invites Kriss Rita to talk about the process of curating Solo Love Letters in his forthcoming book.

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Truth Or Truth With Bill Neil

Thu, 28 Sep 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw welcomes a member of the Solo community, Bill Neil, for a round of Truth or Truth. Sign up for the Solo community at: https://petermcgraw.org/solo

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Solo Thoughts 10 – Dancing with Bulls

Thu, 21 Sep 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to an early look at an essay that Peter McGraw has been working on about how to live a more engaged life in the face of boredom or anxiety. Using a bullfighting metaphor, he presents ways you can identify “bulls” in your life and dance with them with proficiency and panache. After he finishes sharing his thoughts, Iris Schneider joins him for a brief discussion of the idea. You too can share your thoughts as part of the Solo community, which you can sign up for at petermcgraw.org/solo. Finally, McGraw’s latest book is now available for pre-order: Search Amazon for Solo: Breaking the Rules in a World Built for Two.

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From 23 To 53: A Conversation About Manhood

Thu, 14 Sep 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter (age 53) has a conversation with Daniel (age 23) about sex, dating, and what it means to be a man.

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Solo Book Club: Sad Love

Thu, 07 Sep 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw welcomes back Amy Gahran and Laura Grant into the Solo Studio for the third Solo Book Club. They discuss Carrie Jenkin's book, Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning.

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Truth Or Truth With Iris Schneider

Thu, 31 Aug 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw plays "Truth or Truth" with return guest Iris Schneider. Prepare for some thought-provoking ideas from Iris.

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Solo Meets Solo Powered

Tue, 15 Aug 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Today's episode is a special treat as our host Dr. McGraw meets Ariana Dunne on her new podcast, Solo Powered. In this captivating episode, Ariana and Dr. McGraw discuss their passion for solo living and share stories from their own lives. Ariana's Solo Powered podcast embraces everything from solo travel to parenthood, solo entrepreneurship, and even some daring solo adventures like rowing solo across the Atlantic or embarking on Antarctic expeditions. Being single doesn't mean leading a lonely life; it's all about crafting a fulfilling, extraordinary, and fabulous life on your own terms. Tune in now!

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The Truth About Single Women In India

Thu, 03 Aug 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw talks to Sreemoyee Piu Kundu, author and advocate, and Dr. Ketaki Chowkhani, a social scientist, about the plight and resilience of single women in India. Good listeners, make sure you check out Sree's book: Single Status: The Truth about Single Women in India. Sign up for the Solo community at: https://petermcgraw.org/solo/

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Writing Solo: Breaking The Rules In A World Built For Two

Thu, 27 Jul 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Kym Terribile returns to the Solo Studio to talk to Peter McGraw about the writing process for his forthcoming book, Solo-Breaking the Rules in a World Built for Two.

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Five Wells for a Remarkable Life

Thu, 20 Jul 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw welcomes Clover Sharpe and Paul Shirley into the Solo Studio to discuss the intriguing concept of the "Five Wells" of Leadership, introduced by the scholar and former President of Morehouse College, Robert M. Franklin Jr. Dr. Franklin's "Five Wells" illuminate the attributes of an ideal graduate, a polymath: Well-Read, Well-Spoken, Well-Dressed, Well-Traveled, and Well-Balanced. If you want to talk about this episode with other proud Solos, please sign up for the Solo community at: https://petermcgraw.org/solo/

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Relationship Design

Thu, 13 Jul 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw welcomes Jessalyn Dean into the Solo Studio to discuss Relationship Design. Peter defines relationship design as the process by which two or more people intentionally engage in co-creating a customized relationship, in which all parties agree on the rules and regularly revisit the agreement, revising as necessary.

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The AI Revolution: ChatGPT And Friends

Thu, 06 Jul 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Generative Artificial Intelligence (AI), such as ChatGPT and Bard, have burst on the scenes. Peter McGraw brings Jamie Indigo and Rick Ramos (a member of the Solo community; petermcgraw.org/solo to sign up) into the Solo Studio to talk about the AI revolution.

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Beauty and Brains with James Warner

Thu, 29 Jun 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Stephanie McHugh a Denver-based comedian, returns as a guest co-host to join Peter McGraw in conversation with her friend James Warner. James is a remarkable Solo who, for his 40th birthday, participated in a stand-up comedy and bodybuilding competition in the same year.

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Supporting Non-Nuclear Families

Thu, 22 Jun 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw speaks to Diana Adams, the founder of the Chosen Family Law Center, Inc. and boutique LGBTQ family law and mediation firm Diana Adams Law & Mediation, PLLC. Both organizations serve primarily same-sex couples and non-nuclear families. Diana’s incredible TED talk "Why US laws must expand beyond the nuclear family" serves as the basis for the conversation. They suggest that, although the nuclear family model may no longer be the norm in the US. It's still the basis for social and economic benefits like health care, tax breaks, and citizenship. Diana contends that all families, regardless of biological relationship or legal marriage, are deserving of equal legal rights and recognition. Peter and Diana have a wide-ranging conversation that includes how Solos are affected by these laws – and present a call to action for aging Solos.

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Book Club: 4,000 Weeks

Thu, 15 Jun 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw welcomes Laura Grant and Amy Gahran into the Solo Studio for the second Solo book club. They discuss Oliver Burkeman's Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals.

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A Widower Builds A Solo Life

Thu, 08 Jun 2023 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Peter McGraw speaks to Steve Ainslie, a remarkable Solo, about how Steve put his life back together after losing his wife.

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Enjoy Your Solo

Thu, 01 Jun 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw speaks to Mary Delia Allen about her book Enjoy Your Solo.

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A Rich Remarkable Life

Thu, 18 May 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw speaks to Dr. Erin Westgate about her research on living a psychologically rich life.

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Solo Book Club: Minimizing Marriage

Thu, 04 May 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw welcomes Laura Grant and Amy Gahran into the Solo Studio for the first ever Solo book club. They discuss Elizabeth Brake's book: Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law.

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Singles Only Meets Solo

Thu, 20 Apr 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Paul Farahvar, the host of the Singles Only podcast, and Julie Nirvelli, a frequent co-host of Solo, join Peter McGraw in the Solo Studio to talk about what they have learned hosting podcasts for proud singles.

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Truth Or Truth With Monique Murad

Thu, 06 Apr 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw welcomes back Monique Murad (Freedom in Community) to play "Truth or Truth." It's a fun, thoughtful exchange--featuring conversation about how the Solo movement is bigger than Peter, Monique's "celebratory divorce," and a surprise question that makes Peter cry. Enjoy!

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Sexual Fasting

Thu, 23 Mar 2023 10:00:00 GMT

In Solo Episode 150: Looking Forward, Backward, and Inward, Peter McGraw talks about how he is experimenting with abstinence or sexual fasting—with an ambitious goal of “controlling the uncontrollable” in order to focus his attention and energy on other endeavors besides sex and dating. In this episode, Peter welcomes Nick Mennell, who lives a remarkable life in a chronic state of abstinence, to discuss this practice more deeply.

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Solo, The Book, Coming January 2024

Thu, 16 Mar 2023 10:00:00 GMT

Kym Terribile and Peter McGraw discuss Peter's contract with Diversion Books to publish Solo in January 2024. They discuss the sales process, the ambitious writing deadline, and some plans for marketing Solo.

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Paul Shirley

Thu, 09 Mar 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw invites Paul Shirley, a writer, entrepreneur, and retired professional basketball player, into the Solo Studio to discuss Paul's remarkable life as a basketball player through the lens of his books. "Can I Keep My Jersey?" has blended into Paul's time in the minor leagues and overseas. Paul learns that if things go poorly, you don't have to take it as an existential threat because sometimes things do work out, or sometimes they don't. Looking into the lens of the "Stories I Tell On Dates," Paul dives into his status in a relationship. Tune in to this inspiring episode with Paul Shirley!

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Becoming Bisexual

Thu, 02 Mar 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw invites two friends into the Solo Studio to discuss what appears to be an emerging shift: once heterosexual women embracing their bisexuality. His guests, Rachel and Taylor, discuss their experience becoming bisexual in their thirties, and Peter presents data identifying a shift in the number of people identifying as lesbian, gay, and bisexual.

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Are You Thriving Or Coping?

Thu, 23 Feb 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Compared to research on married people, there is little being done to investigate the well-being of single people. Fortunately, Geoff MacDonald, a social psychologist at the University of Toronto has turned his attention to examining singlehood. Peter McGraw is joined by guest co-host Iris Schneider to discuss Geoff’s recent academic paper that investigates predictors of life satisfaction for singles. The conversation will help you understand why you are coping or thriving as a single person.

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How To Turn Down A Date

Thu, 16 Feb 2023 11:00:00 GMT

In the last episode, Jill Cohen, Stephanie McHugh, and Peter McGraw talked about how many solos are not interested in dating – for now or forever. They discussed the other remarkable things that can be done instead of dating and how to navigate a world that expects you to be dating. There was to be bonus material in that episode, where they spoke about how to turn down a date. They talked so much that Peter decided to make a separate episode, and here it is.

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How To Not Go On A Date

Thu, 09 Feb 2023 11:00:00 GMT

You may remember a previous episode, “How to go on a date.” This is a long overdue follow-up for non-daters: how to not go on a date. Many solos are not interested in dating – for now or forever. Peter McGraw wants to make the case for all the other amazing things you can do instead of dating and how to find your way through a world that thinks you are dating. In this episode, he speaks to Jill Cohen and Stephanie McHugh about why you should not date, what you can do instead, and how to talk to people when they inquire why you are not dating.

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Contemporary Spinsterhood

Thu, 02 Feb 2023 11:00:00 GMT

The Solo movement is growing. Lucy Meggeson has a wonderful new podcast for single childless women: Spinsterhood Reimagined. Peter McGraw was the first guest bloke to appear, and she kindly shared the audio with him, and he shares it here with you.

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Emotional Intelligence

Thu, 26 Jan 2023 11:00:00 GMT

In the third installment in a series on the invention of marriage and cooperation, Peter McGraw speaks to Hillary Anger Elfenbein about something that makes cooperation more or less effective: emotional intelligence.

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The Social Leap

Thu, 19 Jan 2023 11:00:00 GMT

How can something so complex and far-reaching as marriage could be invented and so widely adopted? To begin to answer that question, Peter McGraw speaks to Bill Von Hippel, the author of The Social Leap: The New Evolutionary Science of Who We Are, Where We Come From, and What Makes Us Happy.

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The All-or-Nothing Marriage

Thu, 12 Jan 2023 11:00:00 GMT

To understand single living, you need to understand non-single-living – especially the 800-pound gorilla of relationships: marriage. In this episode, Peter McGraw speaks to Eli Finkel about contemporary marriages, which are focused on self-growth and self-expressiveness. Eli shares insights from his book The All-Or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work.

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Freedom In Community

Thu, 05 Jan 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw talks about how remarkable singles have a team -- an interconnected group of friends, family, acquaintances, and professionals. But this takes work. He invites a member of the Solo community, Monique Murad, to discuss the value of community and how to cultivate it.

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Optionality

Thu, 29 Dec 2022 11:00:00 GMT

As the year ends, remarkable singles around the world are considering how to make their lives even more remarkable. To help with that endeavor, Peter McGraw speaks to Richard Meadows, a finance writer and the author of Optionality: How to Survive and Thrive in a Volatile World. They have a far-ranging conversation about Optionality (“the right but not obligation to take action") – something that singles have more of than non-singles.

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Truth Or Truth With Suzette Smith

Thu, 22 Dec 2022 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw hosts a “Truth or Truth” conversation with Suzette Smith, where they ask each other questions about being single and living a remarkable life as a Solo.

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Episode 150: Looking Forward, Backward, And Inward

Thu, 15 Dec 2022 11:00:00 GMT

One hundred and fifty episodes and nearly three years into the Solo podcast, Peter McGraw invites Kym Terribile and Julie Nirvelli back into the Solo Studio to talk about the podcast's progress.

They discuss Peter's successes and weaknesses, as they look backward, forward, and inward regarding the podcast and the solo movement more generally.

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Hygge

Thu, 08 Dec 2022 11:00:00 GMT

People are homebodies for a variety of reasons: they are introverted, they have a disability, their hobbies are well-suited for home, or they simply like being indoorsy. As part of his third installment in a series on homebodies, Peter McGraw speaks to Meik Wiking about creating cozy moments—at home or elsewhere—through the Danish concept of Hygge. Meik is the CEO of the Happiness Research Institute and the author of the “The Little Book of Hygge – Danish Secrets to Happy Living.” The conversation will inspire you to make changes in order to enjoy being comfortable and cozy.

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Happier At Home With Gretchen Rubin

Thu, 01 Dec 2022 11:00:00 GMT

In his second installment of a series on homebodies, Peter McGraw talks to Gretchen Rubin - the magpie of happiness - about creating a better home base. They discuss her book Happier at Home, and she dishes out some helpful, non-intuitive ideas about creating a more welcoming home for yourself and others.

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Waking Up Early With Donnie

Thu, 24 Nov 2022 11:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Peter McGraw speaks to Donald Lichtenstein who is thriving personally and professionally. Peter likes to say that singles can sleep in when they want to, but Donnie does the opposite. He gets up absurdly early—because that is what is best for him. It’s a thoughtful conversation in which they discuss how Donnie likes routine, loves dogs and dislikes travel. As a proud homebody, Donnie inspired Peter to prepare a short series on homebodies, and this serves as the first episode.

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Single During The Holidays

Thu, 17 Nov 2022 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw welcomes Kris Marsh, a Professor of Sociology at the University of Maryland, to discuss being single during the holidays – specifically Thanksgiving and Christmas.

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Sex And The City

Thu, 10 Nov 2022 11:00:00 GMT

The world often treats single living as liminal and less than, but not the hit television show Sex and the City. In this episode of Solo, Peter McGraw invites Mary Dahm into the Solo Studio to discuss the cultural implications of this critically-acclaimed show. They discuss Sex and the City’s importance in creating an alternative narrative about single living and female sexual positivity. Bonus material is back, which you can access by signing up at PeterMcGraw.org/solo. Mary and Peter discuss how New York City is an ideal setting for a show like Sex and the City which features four single women.

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Intellectual Humility - Live Podcast

Sat, 05 Nov 2022 13:30:41 GMT

Peter McGraw recently attended the Mind Under Matter Festival, where he did a live taping about Intellectual Arrogance, Humility, and Timidity with Dr. Jeff Larsen. Dr. Larsen is a Social Professor of Psychology at the University of Tennessee Knoxville. He is an expert on emotions, attitudes, and well-being.

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How To Read A Lot

Thu, 27 Oct 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw likes to say, "Create more than you consume." However, he also believes that reading is a cheat code to a remarkable life. In this episode, McGraw invites two voracious readers, Sarah Stinson and Paul Shirley, to inspire you and give you some hacks to read more. Note: In this episode, McGraw references a previous episode on writing as “How to Write a Lot” but it is actually called “Write Your Way Out.” That previous episode may be worth revisiting after listening to this one.

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Truth Or Truth With Jill Cohen

Thu, 20 Oct 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw invites Jill Cohen, a remarkable solo and frequent contributor to the podcast, back into the Solo Studio. They play "Truth or Truth," where they ask each other questions about single living and pursuing a remarkable life.

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Was Prince A Solo?

Thu, 13 Oct 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw invites Brandon Patrick, a comedian and musician, into the solo studio to talk about whether a remarkable character, Prince, was a Solo. Whether or not he was, Prince brought joy to the world through his music. Brandon and Peter discuss his remarkable abilities and how they led him to feel alone in the world.

Check out this Prince playlist.

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Narcissism

Thu, 06 Oct 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Suddenly the world seems to be filled with narcissists, and a bunch of everyday people is diagnosing their exes and bosses as such. What is going on? To explore this topic, Peter McGraw speaks to Anthony Hermann, a psychology professor at Bradley University and co-editor of the book "The Handbook of Trait Narcissism: Key Advances, Research Methods, and Controversies."

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Risa Mickenberg And The Hermettes

Thu, 29 Sep 2022 10:00:00 GMT

The Solo movement has a "big tent," accommodating a wide array of people—single or not—who see themselves as complete, self-reliant individuals. One group that clearly belongs under the tent is the Hermettes, a secret society of (mostly) single women who embrace a hermit-like life of aloneness. In this episode, Peter McGraw speaks to Risa Mickenberg, the Founder and Editor of Hermette: The Aspirational Lifestyle Magazine for They/Hermits.

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Valuing Yourself

Thu, 22 Sep 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Do you value yourself? Peter McGraw welcomes Sarah Stinson and Lawrence Williams back into the Solo Studio to discuss how they value themselves in a world that wants to domesticate them.

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Gut Health

Thu, 15 Sep 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw speaks to Awais Spall about what the gut is and why it is important to physical and mental health and addresses some of the ways to improve their gut health.

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Solo Thoughts 9 - What I Learned From Getting Stood Up

Thu, 08 Sep 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Have you ever been stood up? After being stood up for a date, Peter McGraw processes the experience and shares lessons he learned. If you like this episode, please join the conversation in the Solo community; sign up at petermcgrw.org/solo.

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Sweden - The Singles' Capital Of The World

Thu, 01 Sep 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw recently left the Solo studio – Indiana Jones style – to investigate why Sweden, in general, and Stockholm, in particular, are the best places in the world to be single. There he came across Lars Trägårdh’s work and new co-authored book: The Swedish Theory of Love. In this episode, Lars and Peter discuss why Swedes and Swedish society is a model for going solo.

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Rewards And Risks Of Sex: STIs

Thu, 25 Aug 2022 10:00:00 GMT

There are many ways to live remarkably. One way is to have more positive emotions daily; when done well, sex creates many positive emotions. Because sexually-active singles have more sexual partners than partnered people, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are of greater concern for singles. Fear, misinformation, and stigma keep some singles from experiencing the joys of sex. Peter McGraw invites Jill Cohen and Greg Burns into the Solo Studio to discuss the risks and rewards of sex and best practices for testing, treatment, and disclosure of STIs.

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How To Tidy Up

Thu, 18 Aug 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw loves to tidy up. He invites Suzette Smith, a professional organizer with ten years of experience, into the studio to discuss Marie Kondo, motivations to tidy, and best practices and pitfalls. Suzette is the owner of White Space and is a member of the National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals and A proud Solo. She enjoys swing dancing, motorcycle riding, and spending time with her 21 nieces and nephews.

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The Bachelor In Colonial America And Beyond

Thu, 11 Aug 2022 10:00:00 GMT

As part of the podcast, Peter McGraw has been pointing out his concerns about a subset of single men around the world. In this episode, he invites John McCurdy, a Professor of History at Eastern Michigan University, to discuss the role of bachelorhood in Colonial America (and beyond) through the lens of McCurdy's 2009 book Citizen Bachelors.

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The Game Of Life

Thu, 04 Aug 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw is not afraid to invite his friends into the studio. This week’s episode features two new voices to the podcast: Sarah Stinson and Lawrence Williams. They play a famous game – The Game of Life – and do some editorializing about how this ubiquitous game socializes youngsters to pursue the American Dream. After the game is done, they reflect on the experience, especially how limiting the game is with regard to lifestyles (can’t go through life single, for example) and to the judgment of success where the goal is to retire financially wealthy.

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Truth Or Truth With Kriss Rita

Thu, 28 Jul 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw talks to Kriss Rita, a remarkable solo and member of the solo community. They talk about her journey from single to solo and what makes her life remarkable. They also play a game Peter calls "truth or truth," where they ask each other questions about single living and the solo project.

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Solo Polyamory

Thu, 21 Jul 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Polyamory is an increasingly popular type of unconventional relationship. Solo polyamory is a variant for people who don't want to merge their lives with a romantic partner (or partners). Peter McGraw brings two polyamorists—Amy Gahran and Laura Grant—Into the solo studio to discuss solo polyamory, its best practices, and challenges.

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Solo Thoughts 8 - Is Depopulation a Problem and are Singles to Blame?

Thu, 14 Jul 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw talks to you about depopulation, its potential costs to humanity, and whether singles and others who don’t have children might be to blame.

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Otherhood

Thu, 07 Jul 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw talks to Melanie Notkin, an expert on the rising cohort of childless, often single, women. They discuss aunthood and otherhood, as well as examine the challenges facing boys and men and its implications for women who are seeking to have a family.

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Aromanticism

Thu, 30 Jun 2022 10:00:00 GMT

What is aromanticism, and what is it like to be an aromantic? Peter McGraw speaks to Jessalyn Dean to answer those questions.

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Here We Are, Traveling Solo To The Mind Under Matter Campout Festival

Thu, 23 Jun 2022 10:00:00 GMT

The regular listener of the podcast knows Shane Mauss—a comedian, science communicator, and expert of psychedelics. He has a new project called Mind Under Matter, a comedy, and philosophy podcast, with the talented Ramin Nazer. Shane and Ramin are planning their first Mind Under Matter Campout Festival, which will feature comedy, music, live podcasts, art, talks, mysticism, nature, community, games, and a talk about single living by Peter McGraw. In this episode, Shane interviews Peter for the Here We Are Podcast to talk about solo travel and single living. This is an edited version of the conversation, but you can find the full one wherever you can find the Here We Are Podcast. The Mind Under Matter Campout Festival will be Sep 8-12 at the Lakeside Retreats (20 minutes from downtown Raleigh, NC).

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How To Save Money

Thu, 16 Jun 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Having financial freedom is important to solos given their often-single status. Amy Gibb, aka Money Amy, returns to talk about tactics to help you save money – something especially important given recent economic events.

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Regret

Thu, 09 Jun 2022 10:00:00 GMT

A remarkable life demands decisions - sometimes big, bold decisions. Big or small, decisions risk regret. Do I get married? Do I have kids? Do I go solo? Peter McGraw invites Marcel Zeelenberg, the world’s expert on regret, to talk about what makes a choice regrettable.

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Solo Cooking

Thu, 02 Jun 2022 10:00:00 GMT

More than one in four households in the US have one occupant, a number is as high as one in two in Stockholm. That’s a lot of cooking being done…alone. Hence, Peter McGraw is pleased to deliver this fun, even inspirational episode on solo cooking.

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Singles as Exhausted Gift Givers

Thu, 26 May 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw talks to Kinneret Lahad and Iris Schneider about the substantial costs that singles pay, subsidizing and supporting couples with gifts and attendance at weddings, rehearsal dinners, showers, baptisms, and gender reveal parties. Lahad is the co-author of a paper that investigates single women as exhausted givers and careful complainers—complaining about the asymmetry that comes from what used to be a tradition: I support you when you get married, and you support me when I get married. That was fine when everyone got married, but what happens when a substantial number of people remain single, and there is no opportunity for reciprocity?

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The Lonely Hunter

Thu, 19 May 2022 10:00:00 GMT

There are an increasing number of resources for singles--resources that do more than help you get hitched. The best books for singles take a thoughtful, researched-backed approach to understanding the complexities of single living. One of those books, The Lonely Hunter: How Our Search For Love Is Broken, was written by Aimée Lutkin. In this episode, Peter McGraw speaks to Aimée about relationship, loneliness, and how our search for love (or lust) is broken.

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Solo Thoughts 7 - Pete, Meet Peter

Thu, 12 May 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw returns to share recent thoughts on how to live a remarkable life.

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Solo Thoughts 6: What Does It Mean To Be Solo?

Thu, 05 May 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Host Peter McGraw returns to the desert to update his thinking on what it means to be solo versus single.

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Do You Need A Relationship Sponsor?

Thu, 28 Apr 2022 10:00:00 GMT

In the previous episode, Peter McGraw speaks to a divorce coach about the planning, execution, and aftermath of a divorce. In this episode, he speaks to Rachel Beisel about a strategy to break bad relationship habits. Rachel presents the concept of a relationship sponsor (akin to an AA sponsor) who can support you if you have difficulty with romantic relationships.

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How To Get Divorced

Thu, 21 Apr 2022 10:00:00 GMT

One in three marriages in the United States end in divorce, and Peter McGraw has become the guy his friends call when they are getting divorced. In this episode, he speaks to Ruth Abraham, a Certified Professional Integrative coach, about the planning, execution, and aftermath of a divorce.

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Business Insights From The Science Of Singles

Thu, 14 Apr 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw doesn't talk much about his life as a business school professor, but in this episode, he speaks to Amanda Kramer in his role as a professor and advocate for singles. This taping is part of the Leeds Business Insights podcast at the CU Boulder Leeds School of Business. They discuss familiar topics, but most of the conversation focuses on how organizations overlook singles from marketing and talent management standpoints.

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Alcohol

Thu, 07 Apr 2022 10:00:00 GMT

If you are a frequent listener of Solo, you know that Peter McGraw doubts that an alcohol-fueled life can be especially remarkable. He believes that less drinking (or not drinking at all) is superior to being a frequent drinker. To explore this topic, he invites Brandon Patrick and Christina Martinez into the solo studio. Sadly, they had a technical problem and lost some content, which explains the sudden close to the episode. Nonetheless, the conversation is a good starting point for a commonly-accepted but often challenging habit.

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Rest And Recovery

Thu, 31 Mar 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back. In his book, Shtick to Business, Peter McGraw addresses how professionals have one of two problems: they either work too hard or don't work hard enough. He puts forth a model for both groups called "Grind and Release." In this episode, he brings together two solos from the world of fitness and rehabilitation to talk about the "release" side of the equation, with a focus on rest and recovery (and how they are not the same thing). If you take away anything from this episode, it is the magic formula: Walk, Water, and Sleep. Note: bonus material is back with the team talking about cannabis, mushrooms, and sex. If you are interested, sign up for the solo community at PeterMcGraw.org/solo.

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How To Live Alone - Part 2

Thu, 24 Mar 2022 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw welcomes Christina Martinez and Brandon Patrick back into the Solo Studio to continue their conversation about how to live alone.

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How To Live Alone - Part 1

Thu, 17 Mar 2022 10:00:00 GMT

To bring a short series on doing things alone to a close, I invite previous guests Brandon Patrick and Christina Martinez back into the solo studio to talk about living alone. This is too big a topic to cover in just one episode, but we hit many of the highlights as we discuss our perspectives and experiences living alone, presenting pros, cons, and tips. We finish by presenting some tips to those of you who want to live alone.

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How To Parent Alone - Part 2

Thu, 10 Mar 2022 11:00:00 GMT

This is Part 2 of Peter McGraw's conversation with two solo parents (with older children) about parenting alone. They continue their discussion of common challenges and opportunities that come from the transition to being a single parent, co-parenting, finding balance, dating (conventionally or not), and preparing for the transition to an empty nest. His guest close with advice for having a remarkable life as a solo parent.

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How to Parent Alone - Part 1

Thu, 03 Mar 2022 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw brings two solo parents (with older children) into the studio to talk about parenting alone. They discuss common challenges and opportunities that come from the transition to being a single parent, co-parenting, finding balance, dating (conventionally or not), and preparing for the transition to an empty nest. His guest close with advice for having a remarkable life as a solo parent.

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How To Do Things Alone

Thu, 24 Feb 2022 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw invites Brandon Patrick and Christina Martinez into the Solo Studio to talk about doing things alone (in public). They discuss their perspective and experiences doing things alone, and Peter shares the results of a survey of attached and unattached people for an array of activities that you might do alone or with others in public. They finish by presenting tips to listeners who want to do more things alone.

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Cycling

Thu, 17 Feb 2022 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw is joined by two cyclists (and friends) for an impromptu episode on cycling. Bikes are associated with autonomy and adventure--the same ideals that differentiate solos from singles.

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Singles And Their Pets - Live Show

Thu, 10 Feb 2022 11:00:00 GMT

This episode ends Peter McGraw's series on unconventional relationships--with an extension of a previous episode on singles and their pets. This episode was taped live as part of a charity event and comedy show in Denver. Peter is joined by Christie Buchele, one of the comics and a cat owner, and by Christina Martinez, a dog owner and soon-to-be familiar voice on the podcast. They discuss the results of a survey on singles and their pets. They also discuss the type of person who is the best fit for a dog, cat, or no pet. (Peter takes the "no pet" options, obviously.)

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A Remarkable Single and Her Pet

Thu, 03 Feb 2022 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw continues the Solo series on unconventional relationships by looking at singles who seek the companionship of a pet. In this first part, he speaks to Lisa Curry, a dog owner and stand-up comedian. They discuss a survey of singles and their pets for his new project: A Single Insight: The Science of Solos. Part two will cover the results as part of a live taping of the podcast.

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FWB: Friends With Benefits

Thu, 27 Jan 2022 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw addresses a pervasive but under-discussed type of relationship: Friends with Benefits (FWB; i.e., sexual friendships). His guests are drawn from Colorado’s polyamorous community. Obviously, you don’t need to be polyamorous to enjoy beneficial friendships, yet McGraw invited them to join because they are experienced and comfortable talking about unconventional relationships. His guests share stories about their beneficial friendships, what friends with benefits are and aren't, how it diverges from the relationship escalator, and conclude with some best practices.

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Seeking Arrangements

Thu, 20 Jan 2022 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw kicks off a short series that further investigates unconventional relationships. In this episode, he invites a sugar baby into the studio to talk about a not-so-new but increasingly popular type of relationship: an arrangement between a “sugar baby” and a “sugar daddy” or “sugar mommy.” The episode is launched without judgment. To McGraw, as long as there is consent and no harm is being done, people should be free to choose the relationship that is right for them. See the Relationship Anarchy episode for a primer in this respect. McGraw, his co-host, and guest discuss the history of “sugaring,” motivations of each participant, and best practices.

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New To The Solo Movement?

Wed, 19 Jan 2022 11:00:00 GMT

New to the Solo movement? You are not alone. More and more people are becoming aware that marriage is an overprescribed path to a good life. An observation reflected in rapidly changing demographics. One-hundred and twenty-eight million American adults are single, and 25% of Millennials are projected to never marry. Here's a primer on Peter McGraw's Solo projects, especially the Solo podcast. You will learn the seven episodes to start with.

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The Queen Of Meaning - Lisa Lampanelli

Thu, 13 Jan 2022 11:00:00 GMT

Lisa Lampanelli is a remarkable solo. Now retired from stand-up comedy, Lisa has reinvented herself from being the “Queen of Mean” (famous for roasting celebrities) to the “Queen of Meaning." Peter McGraw talks to Lisa about her climb up the comedy mountain--from clubs to theaters to Radio City Music hall--and her retirement from stand-up in order to sit down and set aside her anger to help people. The episode was taped as part of the Solo Show on Fireside.

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Episode 100: Looking Back And Looking Forward

Thu, 30 Dec 2021 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw celebrates the 100^th episode of Solo by inviting back two friends who joined him on episode 1 and episode 50. They discuss what they have learned from the podcast: 1) Recognizing the promise of non-traditional relationships, 2) How to behave when dating, and 3) Living unapologetically.

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An Alternative Dream Home

Thu, 16 Dec 2021 11:00:00 GMT

This is the final episode in a three-part series that looks at various forms of shared living. The first featured a fun discussion about the Golden Girls. The second examined alternative forms of housing beyond the typical: apartment, condo, townhouse, and house. Frequent listeners know that Solo's host Peter McGraw believes that the American Dream of owning a home is overrated.

Nonetheless, he invites Michael Koenig, the President and Co-founder of Studio Shed, and guest co-host Darlene Savoy to examine an innovative product that solos can use as a way to achieve homeownership (or could be used for a business or investment opportunity). Creating products, such as Studio Shed, that can be used for shared living is especially important when considering the challenges facing multigenerational living (which often includes solos, e.g., a grandparent).

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Shared Living For Solos

Thu, 02 Dec 2021 11:00:00 GMT

Following the Golden Girls episode, Peter McGraw continues his investigation into alternative living arrangements for singles. In this episode, he invites Darlene Savoy and Ben Lough to define and discuss shared living options. They discuss some considerations for people contemplating shared living (i.e, the 4C’s: cost, convenience, community, and care; but along the way they discover a fifth "C") The team closes the discussion with advice and resources for those contemplating shared living.

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The Golden Girls

Thu, 18 Nov 2021 11:00:00 GMT

Many happy singles want to create a Golden Girls living situation in their golden years. This episode examines one of the best television shows for singles – and one of the best shows ever. Peter McGraw is joined by guest co-host Jen O’Donnell to talk to Danielle Soto, an expert on the Golden Girls. They discuss the broad appeal and cultural significance of the show and end with a round of Golden Girls trivia.

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I Love You Man - Part 2

Thu, 04 Nov 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw continues his conversation with two friends, Darwyn Metzger and Chester See.

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I Love You, Man - Part 1

Thu, 21 Oct 2021 10:00:00 GMT

This is the first of a two-part episode that features a conversation with two creative men who love each other. Peter McGraw talks to Chester See and Darwyn Metzger about the SOLO project, well-being, friendship, and love among friends.

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Developing Taste

Thu, 07 Oct 2021 10:00:00 GMT

The last Solo episode took (another look) at reinvention. This week's episode extends the conversation to a particular type of reinvention: finding more pleasure in the simple pleasures of life. Lily Rains joins Peter to interview Shannon Ables who help people live more luxuriously, but not in the kind of way you might assume. Pay particular attention to the risk of pursuing good taste in order to impress other people. Shannon’s advice is clear: do it for yourself. And for solos, that is—fortunately—easy to do.

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Reinvention With The Remarkable Arlene Dickinson

Thu, 23 Sep 2021 10:00:00 GMT

This week’s episode features a remarkable solo and cast member of Dragons’ Den, the Canadian version of Shark Tank. Arlene Dickinson joins Peter McGraw and Darlene Savoy to talk about reinvention and single living.

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Self-Contained

Thu, 09 Sep 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw is joined by guest co-host Christina Campbell to talk to Emma John, the author of Self-Contained: Scenes from a Single Life. They discuss Emma's new memoir and explore her comfort being single and her discomfort talking about being single.

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The Remarkable Kid From Bombay

Thu, 26 Aug 2021 10:00:00 GMT

As part of a live taping for the Solo club on clubhouse, Peter McGraw speaks to Ketan Anjaria, a divorced dad and young empty nester. They have a wide-reaching conversation covering dating and race, mental health, and Ketan's struggles spending time alone. Make sure you stick around to learn his "sixth love language."

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Attachment Theory

Thu, 12 Aug 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Attachment theory has made its way into the public sphere with the help of the recent book Attached. The theory contends that people approach intimate relationships from one of three perspectives: secure, anxious, or avoidant. Peter McGraw and Iris Schneider are joined by Geoff McDonald, a social psychologist and relationship scientist who is part of a small group of people doing research on singlehood. In addition to tackling the strengths and weaknesses of attachment theory, they discuss Geoff’s research on singlehood and how he has identified a small group of long-term singles with an adaptive approach to solo living.

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Solo Parents

Thu, 29 Jul 2021 10:00:00 GMT

While the topic of parenthood comes up from time to time, it is often from the perspective that solos are typically not parents. In this week's episode, however, Peter McGraw talks to two solo parents – one who is a single mother by choice and the other who had an “oopsie.” You will hear their stories, discover how their “team” helps them, and also learn a bit about how they go about dating (or not).

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Waiting - Part 2

Thu, 15 Jul 2021 10:00:00 GMT

This is the second half of a two-part episode. Peter McGraw is joined by co-host Iris Schneider( a fellow solo and behavioral scientist) to talk to Kinneret Lahad, a sociologist who does research at the intersection of time and singlehood. It’s an incredible conversation. One that has Peter thinking differently about living single and living well.

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Waiting - Part 1

Thu, 08 Jul 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw is joined by guest co-host Iris Schneider for part 1 of a conversation about “waiting” with Kinneret Lahad, a sociologist who conducts research at the intersection of time and singlehood.

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The Power Of No Power

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Being single provides optionality (i.e., having the right but not obligation to take action.) In other words: freedom. Yet, singles often fail to consider their freedom and pursue a conventional life - valuing the same things and living similar lifestyles as their partnered counterparts. Last week’s episode examined how garnering financial freedom gives rise to freedom more generally. This week’s episode examines giving up power (or opportunities to pursue power) in order to gain freedom. Peter McGraw speaks to Timothy Krieder, a writer and cartoonist, about how he has avoided the power to dedicate more time to his artistic endeavors (or simply sit in a bar and talk to friends, which fuels his artistic endeavors).

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The Power Of Thrift

Thu, 24 Jun 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Being single provides optionality (i.e., “having the right but not the obligation to take action.”) Peter McGraw speaks to Anita Dhake (aka the Thriftygal) to examine how money can buy you freedom. Anita retired early and presents ways to lower your expenses in order to gain financial freedom. They talk "F-you” money, her admiration of Judge Judy, the questions she asks before making a material purchase, and their mutual love of salads for breakfast.

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The Statistics Of Single Living

Thu, 17 Jun 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw often talks about how half of the American singles are not interested in a relationship or dating. In other words: it is totally normal to want to date OR to not want to date. In this episode, he speaks to the person who is responsible for these data: Anna Brown, a research associate at the Pew Research Center, as non-partisan, non-advocacy, non-profit. Anna presents some facts, and Peter does some editorializing.

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Solo Travel

Thu, 10 Jun 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to the final episode of Peter McGraw's series on solitude. He invites two solo travelers – one part-time and one full-time – to a live podcast taping for his Solo club on Clubhouse. Topics include their experiences traveling alone, how they meet people on the road, and how they walk a city alone (i.e., flaneuring). They present tips for packing, safety, and saving money. They close the conversation with an important solo travel question: what do you do when a couple asks you to move seats on an airplane so they can sit together?

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The Only Child

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 10:00:00 GMT

For the penultimate episode of a six-part series on solitude, Pete McGraw speaks to Susan Newman, an expert who has written the book about being an only child. They are joined by Julie Nirvelli, a regular contributor to Solo who happens to be an only child and the mom of an only child. They discuss the reasons behind the rise of only children as a common family structure, the stereotypes and myths of only children, and the benefits of being an only child.

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QuirkyAlone?

Thu, 27 May 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw continues his series on solitude with a conversation with Sasha Cagen, the founder of the QuirkyAlone movement. A QuirkyAlone is someone who enjoys being single (but is not opposed to being in a relationship) and generally prefers to be alone rather than dating for the sake of being in a couple. Does that sound like you? They discuss the origins of the term, its evolution, and how the media landscape represents singles. If you stick around to the end, you will learn about one of Sasha’s favorite QuirkyAlones.

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Creating In Solitude

Thu, 20 May 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw is joined by guest co-host Lily Rains to continue the mini-series on solitude. They talk to Mason Currey, an author of a book that reveals how many great thinkers used their alone time to change the world with their art, music, and ideas.

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Roaming In Solitude With Christina

Thu, 13 May 2021 10:00:00 GMT

This week's episode continues our investigation of solitude. Peter McGraw speaks to a friend and remarkable single, Christina Martinez, about how she spends her alone time. They discuss her “Old man activities,” which include restoring a vintage van – an endeavor that has connected her to a new community and friends. They give encouragement and present best practices for people who want to cook alone, dine alone, and go to the movies alone.

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The Science Of Solitude

Thu, 06 May 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw kicks off a series on solitude with a scientific look at the topic. In this episode, he speaks to Robert Coplan, a psychologist working at the leading edge of this complex, fascinating topic. They discuss the problem of loneliness, but also cover the opposite problem: being alonely. Aloneliness is the stress that people feel when they don’t get enough alone time. Peter and Robert also talk about the solo's freedom to pursue solitude and how solitude leaves them unencumbered to pursue vast benefits: personal growth, rejuvenation, reflection, and creative pursuits.

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Great Onelers

Thu, 29 Apr 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw invites the co-founders of the Onely blog, Christina Campbell and Lisa Arnold, to talk about rebellious singles. These remarkable singles were able to accomplish extraordinary things through their ability, focus, and fortitude. However, one important thing to note is that their remarkable lives happened not despite their singleness but because of it. Finally, the bonus material is back on the Solo slack channel. The topic: the stereotype of the crazy cat lady.

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Rolling Into The Remarkable With Annalyn

Thu, 22 Apr 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Lisa Slavid returns as a guest co-host and introduces her friend, Annalyn Cruz, to discuss Annalyn’s journey off the relationship escalator and into her life as a remarkable single. In particular, keep an ear out for something that has not been talked about enough on the podcast: How to have a conversation about living your best life as a single with people who subscribe to a more conventional approach to life and relationships. For fun, the group concludes by sharing the message they would give our younger selves – if they could.

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The Promise Of A Brighter Kingdom

Thu, 15 Apr 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw is joined by Kim Hudson, the author of The Virgin's Promise. The regular listener knows that the story structure of the Virgin's Promise is a useful alternative to the often-discussed Hero's journey. Kim and Peter discuss how the Virgin's promise reveals ways for single people to transform themselves into solos. Also, the bonus material is back for members of the Solo Slack Channel. Peter and Kim talk about his idea for a children's book. (That is not a joke.) You can sign up for the community on the Solo page at PeterMcGraw.org.

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Rebellious Solo Celebrities

Thu, 08 Apr 2021 10:00:00 GMT

On occasion, Peter features rebellious singles on Solo. In this episode, he talks to one of his favorite, frequent guests about celebrities who are unapologetically unattached. Some names will be familiar, and others won’t – but they all have interesting perspectives.

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Shtick To Solo

Thu, 01 Apr 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Happy April Fools' Day. This episode gives you a glimpse into Peter McGraw's other life as a business school professor and humor researcher. He invites two comedians, Jen O'Donnell and Shane Mauss, to discuss how to apply lessons from his recent book Shtick to Business to help make your life of single people even more remarkable.

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Unconventional Marriages

Thu, 25 Mar 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw concludes his mini-series on conventional and unconventional relationships with a “rerun” of a previous episode with Vicki Larson, an author of a book that presents models of less traditional forms of marriage.

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Relationship Anarchy

Thu, 18 Mar 2021 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw continues to explore (un)conventional relationships by examining relationship anarchy with his new friend, Jessicka Chamberlin (aka Joosey). They met each other on Clubhouse (the popular new social media app that features real-time conversation), and they taped the episode live in a Clubhouse room. As part of their discussion, they present the origins of Relationship Anarchy, talk about some of the misconceptions about being a relationship anarchist, and conclude with some tips for the aspiring relationship anarchist: keeping an open mind, value exploration, and having a process by which to process ideas and challenges (such as a therapist).

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Diverging From The Relationship Escalator - Part 2

Thu, 11 Mar 2021 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw continues the series on conventional and unconventional relationships with Part 2 of a compelling conversation with Amy Gahran, the creator of the “Relationship Escalator.” Amy and Peter pick up their discussion on the hallmarks of the relationship escalator with sexual and romantic connections, and explore ways that people deviate from that and other criteria. If you stick to the end, Amy presents some tips if you are interested in exploring how to step off the relationship escalator.

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Diverging From The Relationship Escalator - Part 1

Thu, 04 Mar 2021 11:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Peter McGraw continues the Solo series on conventional and unconventional relationships with the first part of a conversation with Amy Gahran. Amy is the creator of “the relationship escalator” – a concept covered in previous episodes. Amy and Peter discuss the hallmarks of the relationship escalator and explore the many ways that people diverge from it – including consensual non-monogamy, big friendship – and of course, a solo lifestyle. Check back next week for Part 2.

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What Makes A Relationship (Un)Conventional?

Thu, 25 Feb 2021 11:00:00 GMT

This episode starts a series on conventional and unconventional relationships. Peter McGraw's return guests, a sociologist and a stand-up comedian, revisit the topic of a popular episode on the Relationship Escalator to discuss the hallmarks of this common, conventional relationship that receives so much attention and special treatment in society. The discussion identifies why these criteria (e.g. monogamy, merging of life and finances) serve society and may not serve individuals. In short, this episode sets up what the status quo is in relationships, so that the Solo podcast can explore unconventional relationships further.

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Flâneuring

Thu, 18 Feb 2021 11:00:00 GMT

Academic, author, and happy solo, Federico Castigliano, joins Peter McGraw to discuss Federico's book, Flâneur: The Art of Wandering the Streets of Paris. A flâneur practices wandering without destination in order to take in the sights, sounds, and smells of the cityscape. Peter and Federico discuss the origins of the flâneur, some best practice for flâneuring, and – like many of the topics on Solo - how the flâneur is unconventional and typically operates solo. They conclude by discussing some of their favorite cities to wander without aim.

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Ghosting And Breakups

Thu, 11 Feb 2021 11:00:00 GMT

Coinciding with Valentine's Day, Peter McGraw talks to Lisa Bonos, a journalist who writes the relationship column for the Washington Post. They talk about ghosting, why it happens, how to deal with it, and how to properly break up.

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Dating Remarkable Friends

Thu, 04 Feb 2021 11:00:00 GMT

This week, Peter McGraw repeats one of his favorite Solo episodes, “Dating Friends and Sleeping with Strangers,” as a fitting close to his series on making remarkable friends. The episode reveals some of his early thinking about what makes a good friend. He and his guests, Josh Gray-Emmer and Lily Rains, present tips for developing friendships and building a community. You will learn: 1) how ancient Greek philosophers held friendships in such high esteem that sometimes surpassed romantic partnerships; 2) people’s early reactions to the podcast, and 3) what his guests do on Valentine’s Day.

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We Need to Talk

Thu, 28 Jan 2021 11:00:00 GMT

The Solo series on making remarkable friends continues with today’s episode featuring Ryan Malcolm-Campbell, professionally known as MR. KOA, and Zamour Johnson, known in the world of media as TOPB0Y, two friends who are living remarkable lives. Besides learning about the origins of their monikers, Peter McGraw talks to them about their transition from athletes to artists and entrepreneurs. You will also learn about how their friendship developed, how they use their joint podcast as therapy, and what would be the only thing that would break up their friendship.

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Making Friends The Center Of Life

Thu, 21 Jan 2021 11:00:00 GMT

Do you have a friendship that is more important than your romantic relationship? In this episode, Peter McGraw is joined by Rhaina Cohen, a writer and NPR producer, to talk about her emerging work on friendship. They discuss how some people are elevating the status of a friendship to the level of exclusive romantic relationships. Notably, Rhaina notes the lack of good role models for this style of relationships, and thus people rely on fictional relationships (e.g., Golden Girls) as inspiration. They also discuss the challenges some men have with loneliness due to a lack of friends. They conclude their conversation with tips for making, maintaining, and ending relationships.

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Nietzsche On Friends

Thu, 14 Jan 2021 11:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to the Solo series on making remarkable friends. In this episode, Peter McGraw and Mary Dahm interview a scholar, Ruth Abbey, who has written about an unlikely expert on friendship: Friedrich Nietzsche. They discuss Ruth’s analysis of Nietzsche’s focus on the value of friends. In short, friends make us better people through their honesty and insights. Whereas previous philosophers saw the value of friends in their similarity, Nietzsche believes friends are valuable because of their differences. It is a fascinating conversation.

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Making Remarkable Friends

Thu, 07 Jan 2021 11:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw invites back his good friend, Julie Nirvelli, to kick off a mini-series on how to make remarkable friends. They define what a friend is and what makes one remarkable. They also discuss some tips on how to make and maintain friends--including when to move fast and when to move slow.

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Kym's Remarkable Reinvention

Thu, 31 Dec 2020 11:00:00 GMT

Welcome back. This is the final episode in a series on Reinvention, which coincides with the start of a new year. Regardless of the date, it is a good idea to take time to assess making changes in your life. After three episodes featuring experts, Peter McGraw concludes with a remarkable single and contributor to the podcast, Kym Terribile. Kym is a fascinating case study. She has been on a three-year journey reinventing herself. Her changes run the gamut from upping her exercise to tidying up her living situation. They discuss how she has started a business, revamped her approach to dating, and embraced her identity as a writer. You will find the conversation inspiring and considering the question, "What are you waiting for?"

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Rolonda The Reinventionist

Thu, 24 Dec 2020 11:00:00 GMT

Enjoy this third of a four-episode series on reinvention. Peter McGraw and guest co-host Lily Rains talk to Rolonda Watts, a reinventionist (a term she invented). Rolonda's approach to reinvention focuses on pursuing the positive – and asks to follow your dreams. If you are looking for a wake-up call, this episode is it.

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The Remarkable Reinventing Kimmy Seltzer

Thu, 17 Dec 2020 11:00:00 GMT

This is the second episode in a series that examines reinventing yourself as a single person. Peter McGraw talks to Kimmy Seltzer, a professional who helps people develop confidence and charisma. Kimmy takes an "outside-in" approach, where she helps people improve their look first and then move onto more social, emotional, and psychological issues. In particular, look out for her "Red Dress moment."

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Polyamorous With Ideas

Thu, 10 Dec 2020 11:00:00 GMT

This episode is part of a mini-series designed to look at reinvention (i.e., making your single life more remarkable). Peter McGraw welcomes Scott Barry Kaufman, a psychologist and author, to talk about Scott's revision of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Scott debunks some of the mythology around the hierarchy, including that Maslow never drew the pyramid that many of you are so familiar with. Keep an ear out for the moment Scott opens up about his singleness and the opportunity it provides him to "date" many ideas, hence the title of this episode.

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Solo Thoughts 5: A New Narrative for Singles

Thu, 03 Dec 2020 11:00:00 GMT

What is the story of your life? Peter McGraw presents an alternative narrative for singles that features his new 3R model: Recognize - Rebel - Reinvent.

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Meet The Honjoks

Thu, 26 Nov 2020 11:00:00 GMT

This episode is related to the recent series on Singles in the Marketplace. Peter McGraw speaks to a journalist – Ann Babe – about a group of Korean singles, Honjoks, who are rebelling against the strong cultural norms in South Korea to marry and have children. Besides going solo, this group is also opting out of the typical high-pressure corporate or service jobs that are highly valued in the culture. It is a fascinating conversation in which they talk about using social media to be anti-social, the pursuit of small but certain happiness, and how Korean businesses are better at marketing to singles than American or European businesses.

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Welcome to the Gala

Thu, 19 Nov 2020 11:00:00 GMT

This week's episode features a remarkable single, Gala Darling. Gala is a “for now” single who is unapologetic about how she lives her life (so get ready for some F-bombs). A speaker, author, and coach, she helps women live their best lives through radical self-love.

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Best Innovations For Singles

Wed, 11 Nov 2020 11:00:00 GMT

Welcome to the last episode of a three-episode series that examines Singles in the Marketplace. Peter McGraw invites Shane Mauss to talk about the best innovations for singles. No spoilers here, but you will see a theme emerge where the innovation they discuss are related to freedom, mobility, and an escape from the family unit. Moreover, what becomes evident is that these innovations also help singles pursue a diverse set of experiences – to flourish by taking advantage of the time, resources, and freedom that accompanies being single.

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Selling to Singles

Thu, 29 Oct 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Peter McGraw hosts the second episode of a three-episode series that examines Singles in the Marketplace. He talks to Julie Nirvelli about Selling to Singles. They each present three ideas related to the topic, and Julie shares very exciting news about her solo-inspired small business that she is launching. As always, thank you for spreading the word – and if you want to get involved in the conversation, please apply to join the Solo Slack channel on the solo page of Petermcgraw.org.

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The Rise Of Single Living

Thu, 22 Oct 2020 10:00:00 GMT

The first of a three-part series that looks at singles in the marketplace, this episode examines the rise of singles. Peter invites a return guest, sociologist and demographer Kris Marsh, to talk about the demographic and cultural changes behind the steep rise of singles and singles living alone – not only in the US, but abroad. They conclude by discussing the implications of these changes for a future that looks bright for people who want to live single and live well.

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Episode 50: Looking Back And Looking Forward

Thu, 15 Oct 2020 10:00:00 GMT

This week, we celebrate the 50th episode of Solo. To do so, Peter McGraw invites back Julie Nirvelli and Kym Terribile, who joined him on Episode 1 – an Introduction to Solo. He starts by presenting how far the project has come, from its exponential listener growth, fueled by listener word of mouth, to the new Instagram account @unapologetically_unattached. They revisit the themes he set out for the podcast, discuss their favorite episodes, and talk about where the project is headed.

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What The Buck

Thu, 08 Oct 2020 10:00:00 GMT

This episode welcomes Michael Buckley, a remarkable solo, former YouTube star and now life coach who coaches humanness, not happiness. Michael talks about his process of realizing that being single is an amazing choice, but he had to get past the nagging thought that “it would be nice to have someone.” Peter and Michael talk about his breakthrough and how it changed how he subsequently thought and behaved. Michael dispenses helpful advice, such as how to go to a movie alone and how to move on from an unsatisfying relationship.

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Digital Nomads

Thu, 01 Oct 2020 10:00:00 GMT

One of the benefits of being solo is optionality. You can do more with your life than the standard Monday through Friday 9-to-5 (or these days 8-to-6). This week’s episode explores an intriguing idea: give up your residence and head out on the road to live and work. The rise of the digital nomad lifestyle has been fueled by the rise of remote work, Airbnb, and other technological advances. Peter McGraw is joined by a digital nomad, Jesse Thomas, and a return guest, Lisa Slavid, to give you an initial glimpse into this exciting yet challenging lifestyle.

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The Happy Bachelor

Thu, 24 Sep 2020 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode, comedian Alonzo Bodden joins Peter McGraw to talk to Craig Wynne, the author of a new book called The Happy Bachelor. They discuss how the book is different than other books in the single living space, what the term masculinity means to them, and present some tips for being a happy bachelor.

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Meet The Love Jones Cohort

Thu, 17 Sep 2020 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Peter McGraw speaks to Dr. Kris Marsh, a sociologist who researches alternative paths to becoming middle-class for Black Americans. She identifies a group that goes against the assumption that marriage is the path to middle-class living, and she invented a new term SaLA to describe this group: Single and Living Alone. They discuss how TV and Film shed light on this trend before academics noticed it. Hence the title of this episode, The Love Jones Cohort, which is a reference to the 1997 film Love Jones. In particular, Kris helps Peter clarify his thinking about how to think about singlism relative to the other isms, such as racism and sexism – something that came up in Episode 45 Not Lonely. Onely. Most importantly, Kris presents her brilliant response to the question, "Why aren't you married?" That insight alone makes this episode worth listening to.

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Not Lonely. Onely.

Thu, 10 Sep 2020 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Peter McGraw and his guest co-host talks to a singles advocate about the differential benefits that married people receive over single people. They discuss common anti-singles rhetoric and how the questions that singles are asked typically fail simple tests of logic. Recognizing the prejudice against singles is largely overlooked or even accepted, they also talk about ways that non-singles can support their single friends and family members. This week's bonus material reveals a remarkable single from the 1800s--which highlights how far solos have come.

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Clothing The Solo

Thu, 03 Sep 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Want to dress better? In this episode, Peter McGraw has a far-ranging conversation about fashion with Rachel Lefort, a stylist with more than 20 years of fashion experience. In a previous episode, The Solo’s Promise, Peter explores an alternative story structure to the Hero’s journey. The Virgin’s Promise is a good metaphor for the single person resisting human domestication, embracing solo living, and flourishing—hence the name, A Solo’s Promise. An important part of this alternative structure is the protagonist begins to “dress the part” as he or she fulfill their promise. For example, Cinderella’s transformation begins to occur when she puts on the beautiful ball gown.

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Solo Thoughts 4 – Fitting Success Into A Remarkable Life

Thu, 27 Aug 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Are you a “success addict”? Probably not, but it is okay if you are. In this episode, Peter McGraw discusses the good, bad, and ugly of a recent article in The Atlantic about “How to Build a Life.”

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Kevin 2.0 – A Divorced Man Learns To Live Remarkably

Thu, 20 Aug 2020 10:00:00 GMT

What’s it like to start living single—and live remarkably—after a divorce? In this episode, Peter McGraw introduces Kevin Nalty, a divorced man, to Mark Ferne, who helps divorced men and women “get back in the game.” Mark uses his Box of Rocks intake process as a starting point to help Kevin think about his transition. The conversation is uplifting and fun, especially when they talk about physical makeovers.

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How To Go On A Date

Thu, 13 Aug 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Are you good at going on dates? In this episode, Peter McGraw brings together two previous Solo guests—dating coach, Daliya Karnofsky, and a solo friend, Jill Cohen—to talk about “how to go on a date.” The guests present helpful advice, from the obvious, “Brush your teeth,” to the critical, “Approach your dates with a sense of adventure and authenticity.” Note: The group tackles the topic largely from the perspective of traditional stereotyped gender roles between men and women. Peter will return to the topic later with guests who can talk about dating outside of well-known stereotypes.

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When Single Is Not An Option: Indian Matchmaking

Thu, 06 Aug 2020 10:00:00 GMT

This episode examines the first season of Indian Matchmaking, a popular yet controversial new Netflix show. Peter McGraw invites his friend Roopali Malhotra, an Indian American friend who has experience using a matchmaker, to discuss the themes of the show. One issue they identify is how living solo (and living well) is barely touched on as a viable option even though some of the characters seem better suited for single living. (Note: It is not necessary to have watched the show to enjoy the podcast.) This week’s bonus material looks at one of the topics that make the show controversial to some: the colorism on display in clients’ preferences. Peter and Roopali also discuss the rampant heightism in the show, but no one seems to be taking issue with that.

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Solo Thoughts 3: A Remarkable Pandemic

Thu, 30 Jul 2020 10:00:00 GMT

COVID got you down? Peter McGraw returns for the third installment of Solo Thoughts, where he shares ideas from his private conversation with fellow solos about how to deal with this damn pandemic. In this episode, he presents three profound observations that you are going to want to think about.

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Solo Thoughts 2: Well-Being

Tue, 28 Jul 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Once you have a healthy life as a foundation, how should you start to think about your remarkable solo life? Welcome to the second installment of Peter McGraw’s attempt to present his ideas minus a guest. In this episode, he talks about creation and consumption, “tidying up,” and the many paths to a good life.

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Solo Thoughts 1: Health

Thu, 23 Jul 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Immune systems are the true heroes in the time of COVID-19, right? Welcome to the first installment in Peter McGraw’s attempt to present his ideas without a guest. In this episode, he talks about health as a foundation for a remarkable life and shares his thoughts on sleep, nutrition, and movement (i.e., exercise and beyond).

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Are You A Late Bloomer?

Thu, 16 Jul 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Do you identify as a late bloomer? A lot of people do. If you don’t, it is not too late to bloom. This week, Peter McGraw speaks to the author of a book on late blooming, Rich Karlgaard. An important theme in their discussion is that being single allows you time, energy, and financial resources to bloom later in life. They discuss how you may need to “repot” yourself somewhere else and cover the six characteristics of late bloomers. If you stick around to the end, Peter’s guest presents some notable late bloomers.

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Alternative Forms Of Marriage

Thu, 09 Jul 2020 10:00:00 GMT

This episode continues Peter McGraw’s exploration of marriage and its alternatives. He speaks to Vicki Larson, an author of a book that presents models of less traditional forms of marriage.

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People Who Shouldn’t Have Married

Thu, 02 Jul 2020 10:00:00 GMT

As you know, more and more people are delaying marriage or not getting married at all. In the previous hundred plus years, however, nearly everyone got married, but was that always the best choice? In this episode, writer and high school teacher Mary Dahm returns to join Peter McGraw for a fun conversation that looks at some people in history who shouldn’t have gotten married. That is, if they were alive today, they would likely be solo. Peter and Mary end the episode by discussing some fun quotes about marriage.

Note: This episode was taped prior to the coronavirus pandemic. Yet it seems especially fitting as the pandemic is causing people to re-evaluate their lives.

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Defining Solo

Thu, 25 Jun 2020 10:00:00 GMT

This is the second part of Peter McGraw’s conversation with Amy Gahran, the author of Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life. They delve deeply into a conversation about solo living as an alternative to the relationship escalator. As a result, Amy helps Peter better define what it means to be solo. Here is a hint: the focus is on autonomy – whether you are single or partnered.

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Getting Off The Relationship Escalator

Tue, 23 Jun 2020 10:00:00 GMT

This is the first of two episodes with Amy Gahran, the author of Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life. Amy joins Peter McGraw to talk about what it means to ride the relationship escalator – the difficult obligations it entails yet privileges it also creates. Peter and Amy discuss what it means to step off the escalator into an unconventional relationship, which can be stigmatized yet opens opportunities for a remarkable life. They also discuss how relationships success should be defined, the difference between consensual non-monogamy and polyamory, and why “sexual friendships” is a better term than “friends with benefits.” Amy will return in a subsequent episode to talk more deeply about solo living as an alternative to the relationship escalator.

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Solo Caregiving

Thu, 18 Jun 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Do you have aging parents? This week’s guest, Leighann Lord, is a stand-up comic and solo caregiver for elderly parents. Peter McGraw and Leighann discuss the challenges of being a caregiver and how those responsibilities are often taken up by people who are not married with children. Leighann gives tips for caregivers, and they finish by discussing some ways to begin prepping for getting older yourself.

Note: This episode was taped prior to the coronavirus pandemic. Yet it seems especially fitting as the pandemic is causing people to re-evaluate their lives.

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Asexuality

Thu, 11 Jun 2020 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Peter McGraw speaks to David Jay, an asexuality activist, about what it means to be asexual. They discuss the prevalence of asexuality in the population, as well as their shared perspective about the importance of being connected to a wide array of people. If you stick around to the end, they recap by defining terms that are often overlooked when talking about people’s sexual and romantic preferences. Note: Peter is still in the desert and dealing with less than ideal equipment. Please be patient with the sound quality.

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Financial Stress In The Time Of COVID

Tue, 02 Jun 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Living a remarkable life should be fun, but it takes work. This episode is on the more serious side. Money Amy returns (from episode seven) to address the financial distress that some listeners are experiencing due to the pandemic. Peter McGraw and Amy talk about tactics to get your financial house in order (and your house in order, more generally). A few things to be ready for: 1) you are going to need to dedicate some real time to figuring out your financial situation, 2) you will need to make sacrifices – in other words, you must learn to stop spending money on things that are not truly important, and 3) you may have to make big changes to your housing situation – maybe even get rid of your car. If you stick around to the end, Peter gives a few book recommendations and make a case for the opportunity to build a better financial future and to pivot your career and maybe start a side hustle that could become a new business.

Note: This episode was taped prior to the coronavirus pandemic. Yet it seems especially fitting as the pandemic is causing people to re-evaluate their lives.

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Are Single People Cool?

Thu, 28 May 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Single people are way cooler than married people, right? To answer this question, Peter McGraw turns to Caleb Warren, who has developed “the” theory of coolness. In this week’s bonus material, Peter presents some cool people, and Caleb uses his theory to explains what makes them cool.

Note: This episode was taped prior to the coronavirus pandemic. Yet it seems especially fitting as the pandemic is causing people to re-evaluate their lives.

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Solos, Sex, And Evolution – Part 2

Thu, 21 May 2020 10:00:00 GMT

In the second part of this two-part series, Peter McGraw continues his conversation with Martie Haselton, a scientist who specializes in evolutionary psychology, and Shane Mauss, a comic who has material about dating and mating from an evolutionary perspective. The guests continue their far-ranging conversation covering topics from how the modern mind has not adapted to the invention of birth control, to why children may be viewed as parasites, to the puzzles that evolutionary psychology struggles to answer. They also explore the tension between a solo lifestyle, people’s evolutionary motives, and a culture shaped by ancestral desires.

Note: This episode was taped prior to the coronavirus pandemic. Yet it seems especially fitting as the pandemic is causing people to re-evaluate their lives.

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Solos, Sex, And Evolution – Part 1

Tue, 19 May 2020 10:00:00 GMT

In the first part of this two-part series, Peter McGraw talks to Martie Haselton, a scientist who specializes in evolutionary psychology and Shane Mauss, a comic who has material about dating and mating from an evolutionary perspective. The guests present a primer on evolutionary psychology, and they have a far-ranging conversation covering topics from how the modern mind has not adapted to the invention of birth control, to why children may be viewed as parasites, to the puzzles that evolutionary psychology struggles to answer. They also explore the tension between a solo lifestyle, people’s evolutionary motives, and a culture shaped by ancestral desires.

Note: This episode was taped prior to the coronavirus pandemic. Yet it seems especially fitting as the pandemic is causing people to re-evaluate their lives.

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The Solo’s Promise

Thu, 14 May 2020 10:00:00 GMT

What if the hero’s journey isn’t the best story structure to describe the process of becoming unapologetically unattached? This episode examines an alternative to the hero’s journey with the unfortunate name of The Virgin’s Promise. I speak to Kimberly Kessler, who presents this alternative model as a way to escape human domestication and thrive as a single person. She also relates The Virgin’s Promise to well-known stories, such as Cinderella, Frozen, Billy Elliot, and even Rocky. If you stick around for the bonus material, Kim, who is married with children, talks about how non-solos can support their solo friends and family.

Note: This episode was taped prior to the coronavirus pandemic. Yet it seems especially fitting as the pandemic is causing people to re-evaluate their lives.

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Married To Comedy

Thu, 07 May 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Peter sits down with two solo comedians—Neal Brennan and Alonzo Bodden—for a far-reaching conversation. The guests speak frankly and unapologetically about comedy, relationships, dating, and their single lives. If you stick around to the end, they give some advice about how to have a conversation with dates about your solo lifestyle.

Note: This episode was taped prior to the coronavirus pandemic. Yet it seems especially fitting as the pandemic is causing people to re-evaluate their lives.

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Are You The Hero In The Story Of Your Life?

Thu, 30 Apr 2020 10:00:00 GMT

As you may know, I like to ask, “Are you the hero in the movie of your life?” To make a better sense of what that means, Peter McGraw speaks to a writer, editor, and expert on story structure about the hero’s journey and what it means for you and the change you want to make — due to the pandemic or otherwise. Note: It helps to have seen the movie The Matrix, but it isn’t a deal-breaker if you haven’t. If you stick around the end, Peter’s guest applies the hero’s journey framework to some well-known stories.

Note: This episode was taped prior to the coronavirus pandemic. Yet it seems especially fitting as the pandemic is causing people to re-evaluate their lives.

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Sharpening Your Sword

Thu, 23 Apr 2020 10:00:00 GMT

How are you using your quarantine? This episode was scheduled in haste after Peter McGraw received an uplifting email from a friend and SOLO listener who is using the quarantine to “sharpen his sword.” Peter’s guest talks about his nearly 60 30-day challenges and how they make him fulfilled but difficult to date.

Note: This episode was taped prior to the coronavirus pandemic. Yet it seems especially fitting as the pandemic is causing people to re-evaluate their lives.

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Divorce in the Time of Corona

Tue, 21 Apr 2020 10:00:00 GMT

There’s emerging evidence, anecdotal and statistical, that the quarantine is – not surprisingly – putting strains on partnerships. In this episode, Peter McGraw talks to a former divorce litigator and now divorce mediator. His guest dishes out some important advice for divorced people, married people contemplating a divorce, and single people who are contemplating marriage. In the bonus material, Peter explains what the divorce rate really means.

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Not A Solo Trip

Thu, 16 Apr 2020 10:00:00 GMT

One obvious way to grow is to travel, but what if you can’t leave the house? With psychedelics, you don’t need to leave the house to take a trip. In this episode, Peter McGraw sits down with a psychedelic educator and community leader, Ashley Booth, to talk about the history of psychedelics, their potential to help with a variety of mood disorders, and their promise to be a way to help people make profound positive changes in their lives. They are joined by Shane Mauss, a comedian who has tried lots of psychedelics and has a comedy show about his experiences.

Note: This episode was taped prior to the coronavirus pandemic. Yet it seems especially fitting as the pandemic is causing people to re-evaluate their lives.

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Write Your Way Out

Thu, 09 Apr 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Can you use writing to make remarkable change, create something extraordinary, or deal with difficult times? Absolutely. Peter speaks to a writer and friend about using writing to create more than you consume. They discuss how writing is not as solo an activity as you might think. Just as you need others to live remarkably, you need others to write for others. Peter also tries out a new segment called “Things Pete Thinks, ” and if you stick around for the bonus material, his guest presents fascinating case studies about the lengths that writers will go to in order to excel at their craft.

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Tips For The Solo Entrepreneur

Thu, 02 Apr 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Is pandemic pandemonium making you consider professional changes in order to live a more remarkable life? This week’s episode can help–and coincides with the launch of Peter’s new book, Shtick to Business: What the Masters of Comedy Can Teach you About Breaking Rules, Being Fearless and Building a Serious Career. You can find it as a book, eBook, or an Audible on Amazon. Keeping with that theme, Peter speaks to two friends and entrepreneurs about tips for those of you who want to start a business or just want to get more out of your career. The three present three tips for the entrepreneurial-minded listener, and we discuss special considerations for the solo entrepreneur. If you stick around till the end, for the bonus material, Peter covers a bonus lesson from Shtick to Business where he talks about taking a bigger stage.

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Lisa’s Second Mountain

Fri, 27 Mar 2020 10:00:00 GMT

With the turmoil in the world, are you imagining starting over and pursuing a new remarkable life? Peter and his co-host, Isabella Imani, speak to his old friend Lisa Slavid, who is starting a new chapter—or, as they conclude, beginning to climb her second mountain. Lisa is a great guest because of her remarkable Solo life, but she is also an expert in strategic planning—and gives you some tips about how to become a better planner, including how to plan to climb your second mountain. They cover a ton of great topics, including asking whether you have money problems or time problems (or both). They discuss the book The Four Agreements and the dangers of human domestication and disclose how much Peter likes it when people bet on themselves.

Note: Some episodes launching around now were taped prior to the crisis. Others were taped after. This one was taped after.

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Making Single Friends And More

Thu, 26 Mar 2020 10:00:00 GMT

How can you meet single people for friendships or more? In this episode, Peter speaks to Daliya Karnofsky and Avra Friedman, the co-hosts and co-creators of All My Single Friends, a live show that is part-comedy show and part-dating show. They discuss a variety of topics, including tips for meeting people in real life, why a bad date is not a waste of time, and why divorced folks might need a makeover. For this week’s bonus material, Peter’s guests critique his online dating profile.

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How To Find A Therapist

Wed, 25 Mar 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Are you thinking of looking for a therapist? With the corona pandemic and the social and economic problems, it is causing, this is an especially good time to get started. This episode looks at the types of therapy and tactics and resources you can use as you begin to find a therapist. Good luck!

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Eating For A Remarkable Life

Thu, 19 Mar 2020 10:01:00 GMT

How do you fuel a remarkable life? In this episode, Peter talks to EC Synkowski, an expert in nutrition and the creator of the 800 Gram Challenge. He is joined by a new, hilarious guest host–Gia Cognata–who asks the questions that Peter is not willing to ask. EC does a primer on quantity vs. quality and how the idea relates to a variety of trendy diets They talk about the value of gut biomes and how nutrition, sleep, and exercise won’t cure everything. Finally, EC talks about her challenges pursuing a remarkable life. In this week’s bonus episode, Peter and Gia quiz EC about whether certain foods are okay to eat.

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Pain, Injury, And Moving With Joy

Wed, 18 Mar 2020 10:00:00 GMT

To most people, pain and injury are synonymous. This week’s episode questions that assumption. Host, Peter McGraw, talks to physical therapist and creator of the Merrill Method, Charlie Merrill, about his radical new perspective on thinking about pain. They talk about a wide array of topics, including the difference between pain and injury, the pursuit of joyful activities, and the potential benefits of sprinting. If you stick around to the bonus material at the end, Peter and Charlie talk about working out to look good naked.

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Living Remarkably During a Pandemic – The Corona Virus Edition

Sun, 15 Mar 2020 03:46:00 GMT

How are you dealing with the Corona Virus Pandemic? This unplanned (i.e, emergency) episode was prompted by the sudden fear and uncertainty created by the Corona Virus Pandemic. Peter and his guest, Isabella Imani, rushed to meet and discuss the situation. As you may know, Warren Buffet is famous for saying, “Be fearful when others are greedy and greedy when others are fearful.” Peter and Isabella would modify that idea to say that when others are reacting negatively, ask how you can react positively. They discuss the importance of asking for help and offering help. That is, physical isolation does not need to equal emotional isolation. They also talk about how to adjust your environment given the circumstances, the coping strategies you can use to help with anxiety, and how the current situation may spur important personal and professional changes as you pursue your remarkable life.

Dude, Get A Haircut.

Thu, 12 Mar 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Want to make a quick noticeable improvement to your appearance? Get a haircut. This week’s episode of Solo is targeted to men who need to shape up their head – both outside and inside. (Though the topics herein are likely useful for most anyone.) Peter talks to his long-time barber, Anthony Full, about the benefit of finding a good barber or salon professional.

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What Makes A Life Remarkable?

Thu, 05 Mar 2020 10:00:00 GMT

The goal of Solo is to help you live the good life—a remarkable life. But what makes life remarkable? In this episode, Peter bring together two friends, Jill Cohen and Julie Nirvelli, to attempt to answer the question. Their thoughts are truly insightful. Peter supplements their ideas with a lesson on the science that underlies what makes a remarkable life – and present good news: there is no one path that you need to walk to achieve your goal. They finish up with audience questions: 1) how can married people can support solos?, and 2) what to do when a co-worker asks you to cover a shift because you are single? If you stick around to the end for the bonus material, Peter ask for feedback from his guests on principles for a remarkable life that he has been thinking about.

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Boxing

Thu, 27 Feb 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Living on your edge is one of Peter’s principles for living a remarkable life. In this episode, he explores an activity boxing that might help you do that. First, he talks to a Boulder-based boxing coach and gym owner, Kirsten Barry. They cover topics, such as why shadow boxing isn’t as stupid as it looks and the degree to which boxing is a solo sport. Then, for this week’s bonus material, Peter talks to LA-based boxing coach, Andrew Woods, who shares some special boxing wisdom and advice if you want to try a boxing class.

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Dating Friends And Sleeping With Strangers – A Valentine’s Day Episode

Thu, 13 Feb 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Who is to say that there is one right way to go about dating? In this episode, Peter sits down with Josh Gray-Emmer, CEO of BRIDGE, and new guest co-host, Lily Rains. Together, they talk about Josh’s atypical approach to dating and sex, in which he dates friends and sleeps with strangers. They also discuss what makes a good friend versus an acquaintance, and present tips for developing friendships and building a community. Getting philosophical, Peter presents a mini-lesson about how friendships can be superior to romantic partnerships—an idea as espoused by the ancient Greek philosopher Epicurus. If you stick around to the end, Peter reports on people’s reaction to the launch of the podcast. The three of them also answer a couple of listener questions and reveal what they do on Valentine’s Day.

Financial Freedom With Money Amy

Thu, 30 Jan 2020 10:00:00 GMT

Living single provides both financial risks and opportunities. In this episode, Peter talks to his financial planner about steps to financial freedom. They discuss how buying a house is over-prescribed and often an optional step for the solo person. They also talk about special financial considerations for singles, why credit card consolidators are often a scam, how you need a fee-only financial planner, and at some point, you may need to suck it up and wash dishes by hand. At the end of the podcast, there is some bonus material where Peter debunks an article that makes a fallacious case for the financial benefits of marriage.

Vasectomies, prostates, and crooked penises

Thu, 16 Jan 2020 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode of Solo, Peter McGraw and his co-host speak to a urologist. They learn why a urologist isn’t just for men. They discuss the non-linear effects of testosterone, why you shouldn’t get a vasectomy if you are considering freezing your sperm, and what to do if you or a partner has a crooked penis. In the bonus episode, Peter tells a story about his casting call for a Cialis commercial.

What Kristin Newman was doing while you were breeding

Thu, 26 Dec 2019 10:05:00 GMT

This episode of Solo is also being published as part of Peter McGraw’s other podcast called I’M NOT JOKING, a podcast that looks at the lives of funny people. Peter’s guest is a comedy writer, producer, and author of a very funny memoir “What I was doing while you were breeding.” They talk about a wide range of fun topics including, advice for solo travelers and how to pick friends to travel with. How travelling lets you try out different personas. They explore the value of authenticity and honesty in order to craft a good story. And she tells me the times of the year that her book sales spike.

What Is Ethical Non-Monogamy?

Thu, 26 Dec 2019 10:04:00 GMT

This episode is an impromptu primer on ethical non-monogamy. You will learn what ethical non-monogamy is, and Peter McGraw’s guest, Jillian North, discuss the principles of ethical non-monogamy. At the end of the podcast, they talk about online dating for the ethical non-monogamist.

Why Are Superheroes Single?

Thu, 26 Dec 2019 10:03:00 GMT

In this episode Peter McGraw and his guest co-host speak to an expert on comic books about why superheroes are so often single. They find out how the mission of the superhero creates singleness. They also discuss why you should direct the movie of your life rather than be the hero in the movie of your life, and they learn about the guest’s four rules for literature and life. In this episode’s bonus material, they talk about a solo activity: riding motorcycles.

The Science of Single Living

Thu, 26 Dec 2019 10:02:00 GMT

Is being single better than being married? In this episode, Peter McGraw sits down with the world’s expert on the science of single living, Bella DePaulo. Peter and Bella spend a lot of time myth busting single and married living, discussing the myth that marriage causes people to be happier, as well as the myth that single people are lonely – they are actually more socially connected. Bella also reveals the ways that single people are stigmatized, stereotyped, and discriminated. On the flip side, they discuss the benefits of being single, such as the freedom to pursue things that you really want to pursue, the ability to take chances, and the opportunity for growth. Finally, they talk about resources for single people, which you can find in the exhibits.

Introducing Solo: The Single Person’s Guide To A Remarkable Life

Thu, 26 Dec 2019 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to the first episode of Solo, where Peter McGraw speaks to two friends. Julie Nirvelli and Kym Terrible–both enjoying their solo lives. They discuss my proposed themes for the project, how the podcast is pro-single but not anti-marriage, how future episodes will address more than dating and sex, why the ideal solo listener is seeking to live on their edge, and how Peter will be building a solo community. Julie and Kym ask me some challenging questions about Peter’s life. They address the need for self-care and living with intention, and they discuss how single people should be building a team. The bonus material at the end of the episode looks at the good, bad, and ugly labels that the world uses to describe single men and women.

Celebrating and Destigmatizing Single Living

Wed, 25 Dec 2019 11:01:00 GMT

Where do you go for advice if you don’t want to settle down — whether for now or forever? Welcome to Solo –The Single Person's Guide to a Remarkable Life, the podcast that destigmatizes single living and celebrates remarkable solos. Meet Solo’s host, Peter McGraw, a behavioral scientist, humor researcher, and life-long bachelor. For the happy single, the podcast features bi-weekly conversations that last about an hour. Peter often speaks to solos who use their freedom to live remarkable lives. He also hosts series on big ideas and assembles advice from experts to help you live remarkably. So, if you are unapologetically unattached (or want to be), please subscribe to Solo: The Single Person’s Guide to a Remarkable Life.

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