Joli's "Year of Opening" program, which she co-leads with her husband, helps couples and individuals explore and develop their relationships through a year-long educational process. She also offers resources like the "Jealousy Roadmap" and her podcast, "Playing with Fire," to provide guidance and support.

They highlight the benefits of this approach, including better connection, pleasure, and overcoming issues like menopause-related pain. They suggest practices like self-pleasure, breathing exercises, and open communication to enhance sexual experiences. They also mention their upcoming retreats and online classes for couples to explore these techniques further.

Susan shares her personal journey from a sexless marriage to discovering full-body orgasms and the transformative impact of embracing emotions. She highlights the significance of women taking responsibility for their own pleasure and the benefits of somatic sex therapy in fostering deeper connections. Susan offers resources like her monthly master class and eBook on her website, Pathway to Pleasure.

Enjoy 10% off your Kink Curious exploration with our exclusive listener code "Kinky10".

They highlight the significance of not rushing and the importance of the partner enjoying the act as much as the receiver. They also mention the physical and emotional vulnerability involved in oral sex, the social conditioning of shame around a woman's taste and smell, and the need for open communication and experimentation in relationships. She Comes First book advocates viewing oral sex as more than foreplay and renames it "coreplay" being a core part of sexual pleasure.

Julie is a Medicine Woman, Feminine Empowerment Coach and Family Constellations Facilitator. Her work originated from her own midlife call out of a 17-year career as an Advertising Executive in New York. She felt disconnected from her body and was about to lose her job when she followed her intuition to embark on a healing journey with her new partner across the globe in their two-door Jeep Rambler.

Clare and Julie discuss client success stories as well as their own ways of connecting with the wisdom of their wombs. It doesn't need to be complicated or take up loads of time to do.

Naomi is here to help us redefine both pleasure and orgasm, challenging us to move away from reliance on electric vibrators and instead focus on deeply connecting with and awakening our entire bodies. The good news is that by embracing this approach, we can experience orgasms in a wider array of sensations and locations within our bodies.

They talk about embodiment, their retreat in the jungles of Costa Rica in 2022, and Nadia’s retreat she hosted in May. Nadia gives examples of how participants connecting with their sexuality helped them to speak up and make healthier choices after the retreat ended. Tune in and embark on the liberating journey of rewriting your sexual story, reclaiming your power, and crafting a future filled with intimacy and pleasure.

Connect with Nadia through her socials:

Website: www.nadialune.com

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsnadialune

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsnadialune

Care, Play, and Lust help us move towards pleasurable things. Fear, Rage, and Panic/Grief direct us away from negative or unsafe things. Having an understanding of these seven instincts and how there are three levels to the human brain helps us work our brain/mind better for a happier, more fulfilling life.

Nan began this journey of understanding her brain to help her manage her panic attacks and experiencing anxiety even in a room by herself to being interviewed on national television on the Today Show. The biggest takeaway from her research is that Pleasure is a Necessity, not a Luxury for health and well-being.

This episode is the first of a small mini-series with Dr. Nan focusing on pleasure, blocks to pleasure, and understanding how to work with your brain and body to create and experience more pleasure. Yes, Please!

Ready for a journey that promises to uncover layers of pleasure you never knew existed? Join Clare Sente and "Intimacy Expert to Millions💋" Susan Bratton as they talk about orgasms and explore techniques to cultivate a variety of orgasmic experiences. Discover the secrets of Orgasmic Activation and Cross Training, and learn how to enhance your orgasmic potential with a partner. Susan, a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs on better sex, shares the latest sex research on arousal and the pleasure pathways created in the brain. Understand that incredible orgasms are a learned skill that every woman can master. Don't miss this enlightening and empowering conversation on unlocking your full orgasmic potential.

To check out or sign up for her class “Personal Geometry”: https://www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-foundations

To learn about Family Constellations: https://www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-and-constellation-work 

Link for “Walking in Your Shoes”: https://www.josephculp.com/wiys.html 

Link for “Wheel of Consent” by Betty Martin: https://bettymartin.org/videos 

Naomi's book is now available on Amazon: The Key to Your Happiness Lies in Your Vagina: Five Steps to Unlocking Joy, Pleasure, and Happiness.

In this episode, Clare Sente and Rachel Watson talk about their work and specifically how Rachel's work with her boudoir photography is about empowering women to feel great about themselves. It will resonate with us if we allow ourselves to be seen, feel pretty, and be the center of attention. Rachel emphasizes the importance of embracing pleasure because it brings transformation within. Tune in to this episode to hear more about boudoir photography.

https://instagram.com/rachel_shootsweet

https://shootsweet.co.uk

https://empoweredenchantress.com

*apologies for Clare's sound quality on this episode, her mic wasn't working but we're all back to amazing quality next episode!*

Rachel talks about how her room becomes a dumping ground of things to sort and fix - serving as a constant reminder of to do lists. Not very sexy!

Clare admits she went online shopping for Chaise Tantra chair which is now on her wishlist!

As always we chat about checking in with our bodies, understanding our desires and having fun! As well as our meditation practices.

A link to one of Esther's talks on TED.

https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship?language=en

Learn why Clare doesn't eat broccoli before sex and what our gas and brake pedal things are!

Link to an article by Emily Nagoski on the Dual Control Model referenced in this episode:

https://medium.com/galleys/the-science-of-saving-your-sex-life-ed9cfeb4edd7

And her awesome books: https://www.emilynagoski.com/home

The film stars Emma Thompson and Daryl McCormack and is written by Katy Brand and directed by Sophie Hyde.

Through the discussion of the movie we explore the themes of sexual desire, sex work, asking for what you want,

Nancy Stokes is a retired Religious Education teacher who has never had an orgasm. A couple of years after her husband's death she hires sex worker Leo Grande to help her complete a list of sexual activities she wants to experience in her life.

We mentioned this in Season 1 but the most frequent request we've had is to talk more about them.

So in this two-parter Clare shares her energetic orgasm experiences and gives us advice on how we can have them too!

After spending some time this summer dancing, drumming (and drinking) in a yurt we are back together for another season.

This episode is all about P L E A S U R E, what limits it, what increases it and how it can make our whole life better.

Let’s spiral up! Our special guest on this episode is the person who introduced Clare and Rachel to each other (thank you Morgana!) and we are celebrating.

We celebrate Morgana’s new book "Unbecoming" and talk about how to reflect on our own goodness and shine as the beings we truly are.

We discuss our inherent negativity bias, which is about ensuring our survival, and how we can intentionally look for joy and notice beauty and CELEBRATE. Listen in to hear about “yes please” and “no thank you” and how you can celebrate a biscuit or a walk, as much as winning the lottery!

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Dr. John Gottman Making Marriage Work video link

Breathing together gives you time to calm your nervous system, not calm your sexual desire.  Rachel loved the auditory reassurance of breathing together with Steven and found that hearing his breath by her ear as they practiced became its own turn on for her. 

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Diagram of the 61 point meditation Clare mentioned will be posted on Clare's IG @empowered_enchantress

Clare and Rachel talk about the messy middle insecurities of their podcast endeavor, Rachel's Forty Women Over 40 Project, and in true Permission to Be Enchanting Style, they weave in how to ask for support from a partner to embrace the messy middle of taking your love life to a deeper level of intimacy, by sharing your vulnerabilities with your partner when you are properly resourced.

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For 1:1 coaching with Clare visit https://empoweredenchantress.com

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In this episode, Clare interviews somatic trauma healer and embodiment coach Marina Nabao about the ways trauma steals our healthy power. The three areas we discuss today are the stress response called “fawning”, the lack of healthy boundaries, and feeling “numb” regarding bodily sensations. Marina describes what the word “embodied” means and why it is important. Rachel is on a photoshoot and submitted her questions ahead of time. 

Marina’s definition of trauma is “too much, too fast, too soon for your body to take in and for your body to integrate”. Trauma can be defined as big “T” trauma which includes serious injury, violent crimes, and life-threatening events. LITTLE “t” TRAUMA CAN BE A LIFETIME OF EVENTS such as non-life-threatening injuries, emotional abuse, harassment, and living a lifestyle with too many demands and too few resources. 

It is rare, as a human being in the modern world,  that you wouldn’t at a certain time experience the results of trauma. When your body perceives a threat, the stress response options are fight, flight, freeze, or fawn (appease).

Women tend to be socialized from a young age to appease and have not been exposed to the concept that fawning is a survival strategy.

Another part of unintegrated trauma is how it negatively affects our ability to have clear boundaries.  Three steps of reclaiming boundaries are first recognizing that you have boundaries, second that you can feel the boundaries in your body, and third that you can honor your boundaries. The third step is often the most difficult and takes time and self-compassion.

Many women experience numbness and this is related to trauma. Marina reminds the listeners that it isn’t a conscious choice to feel numb and it is a sensation. Clare hears from her clients that they feel “broken” because they feel numb. CAN WE BE CURIOUS ABOUT THE NUMBNESS?  WHAT IS ITS PURPOSE? WHAT IS UNDERNEATH THE NUMBNESS? Noticing is being curious. 

Often the numbness is there because underneath the numbness there is pain, fear, and despair. So the numbness has a protective quality. Accepting and loving that numbness honors it and helps it feel more protected. And then when we love and accept those numb pieces of us, we can open the door to more.

All of the hustle of a constant “go mode” is translated as trauma in our nervous system.  Burnout is a kind of trauma. The paradigm shift is to slow down, feel yourself, feel your body, feel your emotions. This is called Embodiment.

Embodiment is the process of intentionally coming back to your body, befriending your body, and noticing what is happening in your body. Embodiment helps you understand the impulses of your body. It helps you feel safer to love, be in a stable relationship or express your sexuality in a way that is more authentic. It helps you to be more present and connected with the earth.  

*Marina Nabão is a somatic healer & embodiment coach. Find out more at marinanabao.com and follow her on IG @marinanabao

For books on the impact of trauma, Clare recommends, "What Happened to You?" by Dr. Bruce D. Perry & Oprah and "The Body Keeps the Score", by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk

Information and sign up for our June 9-11 Workshops in Edinburgh, Scotland: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/epic-embodiment-pleasure-retreat-day-with-permission-to-be-enchanting-tickets-348636359737?aff=odcleoeventsincollection

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Rachel has no idea where this inability to ask for help comes from and shares her relief in finding out years ago, in an online forum, that many mothers have had dark thoughts about how they can get hurt or be sick enough to have other people like nurses at a hospital take care of them, just so the moms don’t have to feel guilty for being taken care of.  We agree that it’s messed up and we would love to change this.

We ask the question of why do so many women feel a lack of worth unless they are doing things for other people? Why is the foundation of our worth based on how we can serve others? No wonder we think that we don’t have permission to just rest and look after ourselves.  AS WOMEN, WE DIDN’T GET THE MESSAGE, “IT’S OK/SAFE FOR ME TO REST AND NURTURE MYSELF”. 

When Rachel hears Clare say this statement out loud, her body feels the truth of the statement and softens, but her head says, “NO”. This reaction and noticing it is called embodiment. The inner critic, who often lives in our heads, originally served a purpose to help keep us safe. Clare says that in order to balance out the negativity of the inner critic she was taught to create other inner empowering personalities to add balance and perspective. Her divine masculine personality was able to remind her that she was only sick for one week and that she could accept help from her client.

We ended the podcast by sharing some things that nourished us while we were sick.  Rachel wore her soft “jammies” that Steven got her for Christmas, drank plenty of water, took hot showers, and put on music so she could give her body some gentle movement of swaying and stretching. Clare drank warm tea, journaled, and stated a new affirmation to herself while looking in the mirror.

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Find Rachel and her naked unfiltered selfies on IG at @rachel_shootsweet.

Our show talks about how conditioned self-judgment blocks love, intimacy, and business success.  We acknowledge that reclaiming self-worth isn’t a job that you do once and then you are finished.  LEARNING TO CARE LESS ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE’S JUDGMENT OF YOU, ALLOWS YOU TO CARE FOR YOURSELF AND OTHER PEOPLE MORE. 

Shafonne has found that no matter where she is and no matter what topic she is speaking on, she becomes an inspiration to women who are afraid to take up space. Rachel shares her feelings about her own big body. There’s new confidence during sex but she’s experienced a block about being fat as a business owner and how she’s afraid of the misconceptions or judgments of others as she works. 

The entrepreneurial space is often where people are confronted with the next thing in their self-development that they need to work on.

Rachel tells us about an appointment she had earlier in the day with a plus-size client who's part of her project with 40 women over the age of 40. To see more go to Rachel’s Instagram @rachel_shootsweet. 

The client warned Rachel that she just wouldn’t like any of the photos, she never likes photos of herself, but as they looked at the images of her on the beach at sunrise she loved them all! She felt powerful, proud, and beautiful.

THE IMPORTANT THING IS NOT ACTUALLY WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE, IT’S HOW YOU FEEL. When you feel happy you shine and that’s what comes through. Nothing had changed physically for these photos more than the other photos she’d had taken. THE THING THAT CHANGED IS HER PERSPECTIVE.   

Clare gets the conversation heading to the good stuff - sex! And we all discuss how anybody's insecurities- size, age, scars, the list goes on - can hold us back from enjoyment. But what we all need is to remove judgment from the bedroom. REMOVING JUDGMENT OF OURSELVES ALLOWS US TO ENJOY MORE PLEASURE AND REASSURES OUR PARTNERS THAT WE’RE NOT JUDGING THEM. 

Our message for any woman listening is: Show up in your life. Show up in your love life and take up space. It was only after Shafonne started sharing photos of herself that her business really blossomed. That’s the beauty of accepting yourself, it affects everything, even your business. When you feel good about yourself it will skyrocket your business AND your life. 

You can find Shafonne at :

https://prettypearbride.com/

https://www.instagram.com/prettypearbride/

To get more info and sign up for our June 9-11, 2022 EPIC Workshops in Edinburgh, Scotland: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/epic-embodiment-pleasure-retreat-day-with-permission-to-be-enchanting-tickets-348636359737?aff=odcleoeventsincollection

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This birth was vastly different than with her first daughter, because she was able to trust her body and her body’s ability to handle the birthing process. Many of the self-pleasure practices and exercises she learned in her coaching program helped her to be fully present and lean into the uncomfortable sensations. Her doula reminded her THAT HER SURGES ARE STRONG BECAUSE HER BODY IS STRONG.

Clare notices the similarity of riding a wave of a birthing contraction to riding a wave of an orgasm.  It isn't helpful to clench and fight the contraction. It is better to surrender to it.

Savannah leaned into the sensations and let them expand through her body.  She also had the mindset shift, “this is not happening to me, MY BODY IS DOING THIS FOR ME.”

Savannah’s coaching focuses on helping couples build communication skills before the baby arrives. It’s easier to get your sexy back when you have support in the postpartum phase.  

Rachel’s libido went up after her first child.  She thinks because of the difficulties of the birth, her opinion of her body changed after that birth to “Look what I just did?! My body is awesome. I'm so impressed with myself!"  

Clare mentions that sex drive can decrease after birth and especially after a traumatic birth or when experiencing postpartum depression. 

Savannah’s takeaway message from her empowered birth is LEARN TO TRUST YOURSELF.  This birth has helped open up so much of her to say, “Where else can I say no? Where else can I say yes?” Because she trusts herself.  She’s listening to her body. 

To connect with Savannah:

https://www.instagram.com/mama_goddess_transformation/

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Highlights:

Rachel experienced a wonderful G-spot orgasm after she had a clitoral orgasm and remembered Clare’s question from weeks ago, “What would happen if you didn’t stop?” So this time she didn’t stop after her first orgasm and it made a huge difference.

The second orgasm felt incredible, yet different because it wasn't familiar and new things can feel scary or unsafe. After the G-spot orgasm, she could feel herself begin to tense up against the building of a strong sensation. She told herself out loud to “relax and let go” and then she cried AND it felt really good. 

Clare mentions that crying is common after an intense orgasm, which is a release for your body to let go of other stress or trauma that is stored in the tissues (see reference below regarding author of the book: The Body Keeps The Score). She also asks how Rachel would describe her experience and Rachel uses the word Transcendent as she completely surrenders her body to herself and to her husband Steve.

Before Clare learned to have multiple orgasms, she would roll into a ball, like a roly-poly bug thinking she could keep the good feeling inside of her body longer. Her lover suggested that she try relaxing her body to let the good feeling travel through her. That suggestion helped Clare learn to have multiple and more intense orgasms.

Rachel mentions that it took time for her to experience her first orgasm for a couple of reasons.  She and her husband were virgins when they got married and their religious sex education didn’t include education about orgasms. Even after her husband’s dedication to Rachel experiencing an orgasm, which involved books and a visit to the sex shop for toys, she realized she was clenching against the feeling of surrender. She learned to have her orgasm when she relaxed.

How you approach sex can be similar to how you approach life. Can you surrender to the flow of life or are you someone who is trying to control it. Rachel suggests a mantra for the listeners: “Surrender and it will be awesome”. She added that it’s also ok not to chase the orgasm as the one goal for pleasure. Instead, just enjoy all the experiences as they happen. Clare suggests slowing down and breathing together as a way to connect and get out of your head and into your body. Clare likes the yab yum position used in Tantra for slowing down (see link below for example of the Yab yum position).

Clare talked about first having a meditation with her body with one hand over her heart and one hand resting on her vulva for ten minutes. Then she would ask permission from her body regarding penetration. Many women have never been taught to ask their own bodies regarding consent. Rachel’s mind was blown by this concept. 

This episode shows how both Clare and Rachel are leaning into new ways to experience pleasure. 

Link to the author of The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk https://www.besselvanderkolk.com

Easy to watch a six-minute video that explains an overview of how the body keeps score of past trauma The Body Keeps the Score

Link to photos of Yab yum position for slowing down and breathing with your partner https://www.huffpost.com/entry/this-sex-position-is-practically-made-for-valentines-day_l_5c59e3e4e4b00187b555a997

Picture of a Roly-Poly Bug aka Pill Bug https://www.reconnectwithnature.org/news-events/the-buzz/roly-poly-pill-bugs

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For 1:1 coaching with Clare visit https://empoweredenchantress.com

Find Rachel and her naked unfiltered selfies on IG at @rachel_shootsweet.

Dr. Liz Maloney guides us through understanding the biggest challenges of self-criticism, shame, and perfectionism. She teaches us that through our thoughts, in the way we react to our emotions, and by our actions, we can become more loving, more compassionate people; first for ourselves and then for everyone else.

Self-compassion includes treating ourselves with compassion when things are difficult and deeply appreciating the good in ourselves. Contrary to what some may think, self-compassion also leads to greater compassion for others.

 Dr. Liz talks about “Compare Despair” when Rachel shares a feeling of competition that she grew up with, pitting herself against her friends and always feeling like there was someone who was better at everything than she was.

 Our wellbeing doesn’t come from being perfect or the best, our wellbeing comes from just being our authentic self and living according to our values.

 The more you own who you are, the happier you will feel. Because you are irreplaceable.

 The great news is that self-compassion involves skills that we can practice. In our thoughts, how we handle our emotions, and our actions.

 Research shows that the three biggest drivers of unhappiness are self-criticism, shame, and perfectionism.

 We can create new neural pathways by repeating to ourselves loving and kind phrases. And the amazing thing is that we don’t even need to believe those phrases at first! Clare shared a wonderful thought that she practices with her coaching clients – “I deserve love”.

 In order to overcome perfectionism, Dr. Liz has learned to say “Done is better than perfect” which Clare and Rachel definitely understand as they start out this podcast journey! And doing things imperfectly gives silent permission to others to just go for it and try, even if it’s not completely right yet.

You can find Dr. Liz here. http://drlizmaloney.com

To get more info and sign up for our June 9-11, 2022 EPIC Workshops in Edinburgh, Scotland: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/epic-embodiment-pleasure-retreat-day-with-permission-to-be-enchanting-tickets-348636359737?aff=odcleoeventsincollection

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Human bodies, like plants and animals, live in cycles and require a season of rest in order to experience the next healthy Spring. Women need permission to embrace the sexual season of Winter as a time to go within, heal, rest, and focus on themselves without feeling shame.

Rachel believes that the season of Winter has beauty in its darkness and quiet.

The Celtic/Pagen tradition of Yule including Winter Solstice has been celebrated from as early as the neolithic period, which is the end of the Stone Age (10,000 BC) from historical digs and artifacts.

It is the tradition of Yule to bring greenery into your house (pine, Ivy, Holly, Mistletoe). On Winter Solstice you hang mistletoe above your front door to protect your family from misfortune AND above your bed to bring fertility (that’s more than kissing under the mistletoe!).

Holly represents the male and Ivy represented the female and the Holly and Ivy are weaved together to make the wreath.

Even though it is the longest night of the year, Winter Solstice is the tipping point where the Earth turns back towards the sun and the light returns. The sun is reborn. The Son is reborn.

Light is brought into the home and our hearts when the tree is lit, with candle lighting, and you're thinking about what you want to bring in the coming year. Trees are decorated with nuts and coins for prosperity.

Winter Sexual Season = Rest, a break from sex, and focus internally on self.

Autumn Sexual Season = Integration/healing, appreciating and/or grieving. Letting go of what is no longer needed.

Sex can be nourishing if it isn’t a performative act. Clare works with couples to take away the goal of orgasm during sexual play. This can lead to more creativity and less chance of going into autopilot during sex.

Autopilot does not equal mind-blowing sex.

The book by Emily Nagoski, Come As You Are, suggests telling your partner how long they could expect that you need a break from sex…. one month to a few months. It's about communicating your needs to your partner.

Rachel says that it's a gift to your partner to communicate and then they know what is going on.

Practically all women raise their hands (in workshops that Clare has attended) when asked if there were times when they had sex in their romantic relationship but really didn’t want to.

The definition of a sexless marriage is sex less than once per month or less than ten times per year. (Studies range from 15-30% of married couples are sexless).

Sex and intimacy are not the same things. There are intimacy exercises in Tantra called eye gazing and placing a hand over your partner’s heart while breathing together that can bring tears to participants because of the intimacy it creates.

Rachel was reminded of a time she was craving intimacy with her husband and she thought it was sexual, but in reality, it was their 15 minute daily walks outside, holding hands, and her being quiet, so Steven could talk, that filled her intimacy love bucket.

To get more info and sign up for our June 9-11, 2022 EPIC Workshops in Edinburgh, Scotland: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/epic-embodiment-pleasure-retreat-day-with-permission-to-be-enchanting-tickets-348636359737?aff=odcleoeventsincollection

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Find Rachel and her naked unfiltered selfies on IG at @rachel_shootsweet.

It turns out Clare has so much to share about anal orgasms like creating a proper environment in order to relax and surrender with your partner, permission to go slow, and how to give a relaxing “bum” massage to your partner, that it looks like the rest of the orgasms will just have to wait to each have their own show.

Clare got a book for her birthday from a girlfriend by Dan Savage, called Savage Love from A to Z: Advice on sex and relationships, dating and mating, exes, and extras. With the release of his book, Dan is celebrating his 30 years as a sex advice columnist providing sex-positive advice.  It inspired Clare to think about some of her favorite orgasms and a fun way for listeners to remember them… Orgasms A to G.

To get more info and sign up for our June 9-11, 2022 EPIC Workshops in Edinburgh, Scotland: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/epic-embodiment-pleasure-retreat-day-with-permission-to-be-enchanting-tickets-348636359737?aff=odcleoeventsincollection

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Rachel shares with us her “naughty” secret for a stronger orgasm and laughs about her “epic fail” when experimenting with bondage. Clare discloses a game-changer in both her desire for a self-pleasure practice and the orgasm intensity after she began treating herself with the same attention and care that she shows her lover.

Sex therapist, Jaiya and her Erotic Blueprint Quiz is helpful to understand yourself and your partner’s sexual style. The five types are Sexual, Sensual, Energetic, Kinky, and Shapeshifter.  There is a free basic test and an in-depth test for $17. Erotic Blueprint Quiz is available here. https://theblueprintbreakthrough.com/

Clare mentions that she wished she had this test when she was married to help her understand that she is sensual & energetic and her former husband is sexual. Knowing that there were different arousal styles would have been helpful to the relationship and fostered a better understanding of motivations regarding sex. 

Our magic word “Naughty” is first uttered by Rachel, and Clare adores hearing Rachel say it in her Scottish accent. (It's now the name of our highest level of podcast support on Patreon called the “Naughty69”, we invite you to check it out.)

Rachel shares that her naughty secret is saying “a good old JC” (Jesus Christ) right before she experiences orgasm and this makes her experience more intense.  The taboo is that with her Mormon upbringing saying “JC” in this context is considered blaspheme. 

Rachel asks Clare to share a sensual secret of hers.

To get more info and sign up for our June 9-11, 2022 EPIC Workshops in Edinburgh, Scotland: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/epic-embodiment-pleasure-retreat-day-with-permission-to-be-enchanting-tickets-348636359737?aff=odcleoeventsincollection

Listen and enjoy! And share with a friend.

If you'd like to support the podcast, you can find us on Patreon or Buy Me A Coffee.

https://patreon.com/enchanting

https://buymeacoffee.com/enchanting

Find and follow us on Facebook.com/PermissionToBeEnchanting

and on Instagram.com/permission_podcast

Find Clare at EmpoweredEnchantress.com.

Find Rachel and her naked unfiltered selfies on IG at @rachel_shootsweet.

Finally, there's a podcast for your sexual awakening. Successful female empowerment involves moving past the conditioning of shame regarding sexuality and invites you back to love yourself into wholeness. That's the beginning of what Permission To Be Enchanting is all about. 

Episode #1 of our first season is a taste of the background and chemistry between hosts Clare Sente and Rachel Watson. 

Clare is a Chicago-based, certified sex, love and intimacy coach who had her own sexual awakening at 48. Rachel is an outstanding, Scottish-bred photographer who focuses on helping women love themselves.

Rachel’s journey of loving herself and celebrating her flaws makes her a better photographer by putting her clients at ease with self acceptance. Rachel shares her life and background about being a Mormon, being a virgin and married at 19, and learning after 15 years of marriage that her marriage is better when she focuses on being happy herself.

Clare's experiences as a certified sex coach, along with her own awakening, make her uniquely qualified to help their listeners. And with over 20 years of research on the female orgasm there's a lot to share.

Using guest and client stories, Clare and Rachel are on a journey to help women feel whole again. Like Kintsugi, the Japanese art of putting broken pottery pieces back together with gold, the idea of embracing flaws and imperfections with loving self-acceptance helps you create an even stronger, more beautiful piece of art. YOU.

To get info and sign up for our June 9-11, 2022 EPIC Workshops in Edinburgh, Scotland: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/epic-embodiment-pleasure-retreat-day-with-permission-to-be-enchanting-tickets-348636359737?aff=odcleoeventsincollection

Listen and enjoy! And share with a friend.

If you'd like to support the podcast, you can find us on Patreon or Buy Me A Coffee.

https://patreon.com/enchanting

https://buymeacoffee.com/enchanting

Find and follow us on Facebook.com/PermissionToBeEnchanting

and on Instagram.com/permission_podcast

Find Clare at EmpoweredEnchantress.com.

Find Rachel and her naked unfiltered selfies on IG at @rachel_shootsweet.

Listen and enjoy! And share with a friend.

If you'd like to support the podcast, you can find us on Patreon or Buy Me A Coffee.

https://patreon.com/enchanting

https://buymeacoffee.com/enchanting

Find and follow us on Facebook.com/PermissionToBeEnchanting

and on Instagram.com/permission_podcast

Find Clare at EmpoweredEnchantress.com.

Find Rachel and her naked unfiltered selfies on IG at @rachel_shootsweet.