Tuff Love with Robert Kandell

258: Rob Rant: Thanks, I Had A Good Time

Tue, 08 Sep 2020 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about his experience of the Tuff Love Podcast and the journey it has involved. Rob shares a humorous and poignant story involving bed bugs from his time at One Taste, explores his relationship with his own ego and how it has impacted his work, and how he has developed faith in letting go of things in life in order to allow new chapters to begin.

3:54 – I had a good time
7:50 – A space to express love
10:00 – Committing to changing
12:51 – A story about bedbugs
17:38 – Ego guiding work
20:32 – Surfing the wave of Covid-19
22:32 – Rob’s father wound
25:21 – Ending the podcast
26:46 – Letting go and having faith
28:35 – Having space to reflect
29:07 – Comments from listeners
34:44 – Thank you’s

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257: Stopping Corrupted Love with Vanya Silverten

Tue, 01 Sep 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Vanya Silverten works internationally as an intuitive energy healer and teacher. With clients and students from over 50 countries, she has a passion to help individuals transform all aspects of their lives. Her greatest joy is to teach people the skills of healing and intuition so that they can master their own lives. Vanya believes healing is an art, and so has refined her gifted intuition through the experience of treating, reading and teaching 10,000+ people – from children to royalty.

Vanya is a Master Theta Healer and has taught 150+ courses in six different countries. She has developed the energetic understanding of how the body, mind and soul function through her extensive training and experience. She passes this knowledge on by teaching and qualifying students to become practitioners of Theta Healing®

Vanya is a qualified Nutritional Therapist. She has studied and worked extensively with herbs, vitamins, homeopathy and Australian Bush Flower Essences. Vanya is experienced at helping her clients overcome food allergies, hormonal and nervous problems.

In 2015, Vanya became a mother to a beautiful daughter. This life-changing experience has deepened her appreciation of the female body temple and it’s potential to reach heightened states of sensual enlightenment. She shares these teachings in her women’s workshops, retreats and online courses.

1:49 – How corrupted love affected Vanya
5:27 – Understanding and transforming our stories
8:26 – Letting go of identities
10:38 – Techniques to help someone let go of their stories
14:04 – How she works with people
16:36 – How she started reading energy
19:44 – Theta healing
21:39 – Changes in Women’s sexuality
24:16 – Techniques for keeping a relationship intimate
28:15 – Understanding how our family lineage impacts us

Find Vanya at:
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As well as her Free Courses:
courses.vanyasilverten.com/collections?category=free
Her book “Sacred Revolution: A Woman’s Path to Love, Power & Sensual Enlightenment”
www.amazon.com/Sacred-Revolution-Womans-Sensual-Enlightenment/dp/198224352X
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256: Myths of Age and Romance with Violent Lange

Tue, 25 Aug 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Violet Lange is a love, dating, and relationship mentor who helps spiritual, successful women date like a Queen and feel Fabulously Feminine along the way. Violet has her MBA from Harvard, training from Coach Training Alliance, and is a 500 hour registered yoga teacher and Reiki Master. She is passionate about empowered dating, and lasting loving relationships as building blocks of a healthy society and fulfilling life. Violet recently became a mama to a spunky, sweet daughter named Ruby.

1:42 – Violet’s background
5:19 – How she helps women find fulfilling relationships
7:31 – Using feelings as a barometer of relationship success
10:24 – Helping women connect with their desires
12:42 – How long does it take?
15:09 – Being okay with being single
16:28 – Disproving the myth of “Men aren’t interested in women my age”
19:29 – Disproving the myth of “There are no good men out there”
20:54 – Recommended dating apps
22:51 – Tips for using dating apps
24:05 – Continuing exploring “There are no good men out there”
27:05 – Disproving the myth of “I have too much baggage”
29:33 – Sexuality over 50

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255: Xponential Intelligence with Mas Sajady

Tue, 18 Aug 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Mas Sajady is a world renowned consciousness programmer who, through his unique techniques and meditations, shifts people’s lives to an evolved and advanced frequency level that enables them to achieve success, fulfillment, and happiness from a natural and balanced state.

From a very young age, Mas showed signs of higher intuition, and after his second near death experience he acquired highly advanced capabilities for quantum frequency programming. His journey to discover the true meaning of this newfound ability led to his own personal breakthroughs, giving him a new effortless, happy, and fulfilling life. This found knowledge enlightened him with the limitless possibilities in human potential. Today, Mas fulfills his purpose by helping others reprogram and elevate their frequency, to activate their inner force and experience life from a place of confidence, stability, significance, and abundance.

As the founder of Xponential Intelligence, Mas facilitates rapid changes through quantum reprogramming, which eliminate old dynamic energy partners. During sessions with Mas, regardless of whether you share your problems with him or not, he will discover and eliminate what has obstructed your life in the past.

Mas has counseled tens of thousands of people around the world and has worked with business leaders, influencers, professional athletes, celebrities, royal families, and Fortune 500 executives from companies such as Capital Records, Starbucks, Facebook, Fox, Microsoft, FedEx, and many more. As a philanthropist, Mas donates his time to assist schools, hospitals, special needs organizations, and low income communities.

In his spare time, Mas enjoys time with his family, travel, adventures, and various philanthropic activities that elevate the human consciousness.

2:24 – What is Xponential Intelligence?
9:14 – Generating frequencies
17:19 – The limitations of modern mindfulness practices
19:32 – Is Xponential Intelligence God?
22:16 – Connecting to one’s source and love
27:21 – Gender reversals
35:12 – Questions from Facebook
38:49 – Focusing on driving change externally versus internally
41:44 – Details of Das’ Sunday Metahealing sessions

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254: Men in the Time of Coronavirus with Adam Gilad

Tue, 11 Aug 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Adam Gilad is an independent educator, writer and life adventurer, devoted to creating learning programs, films, books and live workshops that awaken, delight, provoke, connect and inspire. The goal of each of his programs and trainings: for each of us to love more fully, laugh more deeply, feel more sensually and live our gifts to awaken ourselves and others into deep engagement and awakening to every precious passing moment of our lives.

2:30 – Adam’s experience of 2020 so far
9:19 – The impact on children
11:23 – Men in Coronavirus
16:35 – A call for balance, Black Lives Matter, and the rise of listening
25:18 – Being in relationships with differences
29:51 – The Bold Life Brotherhood

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253: What It Means To Be A Woman Today with Anna Rova

Tue, 04 Aug 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Femininity & Feminine Embodiment Coach Anna Rova is on a mission to help successful women attract and keep masculine men. She runs a powerful group coaching program called “Claimed” that helps women embody their feminine essence fully and get into the best position to attract a partner that will consciously and eagerly play the masculine pole of the polarity spectrum

Writer, podcaster, yoga instructor, and location-independent entrepreneur, Anna is the founder of Girlskill – an online coaching company empowering women to connect to their femininity and understand men through various stories of women around the world and personal revelations.

Together with her husband, Anna has traveled the world being on the road full-time building her coaching practice, writing her personal blog, recording episodes on Girlskill Podcast, practicing yoga, and spreading love and positivity. In December 2018, Anna gave birth to her first child and is currently residing in Australia continuing to coach women all over the world.

2:09 – Anna’s work and an overview of three lies about female success
4:15 – Recent changes that have led to the current state of being for women
8:18 – Previous gender roles
12:13 – Men not stepping up to the level of empowered women
15:54 – Gender roles in media
22:48 – Evolutionary psychology
28:03 – Monogamy and men’s drive away from it
30:48 – Three lies about female success in-depth
31:17 – Lie 1: Women can and should do it all
35:01 – Lie 2: Feminine power is in independence and strength
37:17 – Lie 3: Femininity is weakness

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Home

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252: Rob Rant: It’s Okay Not To Know

Tue, 28 Jul 2020 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about the large array of uncertainty across the world and in his own life during this time. Rob explores COVID, Black Lives Matter, the economic and political situation in the USA, as well as his relationship with his father and life partner. He outlines how while it’s okay not to know, it shouldn’t stop you: do the internal work to know yourself and all aspects of your being.

3:23 – My superpowers
6:37 – Things Rob doesn’t have certainty around
8:52 – Black Lives Matter
12:44 – The economic and political situation in the USA
15:07 – Rob’s dad’s death
18:25 – His relationship with Morgan
19:57 – Staying conscious
22:12 – Surrender versus acquiescence: know thyself
23:16 – Being okay with what is

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251: FLAUNT Yourself with Lora Cheadle

Tue, 21 Jul 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Lora Cheadle is a transformational thought leader and media personality who empowers women to express themselves fully, find uninhibited joy, and gracefully take the lead in the dance of life despite any external circumstances. She is the author of the bestselling book FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self that is available wherever books are sold. Listen to her podcast or find out more at www.loracheadle.com where you can download your free Bundle of JOY gift pack.

1:47 – Acknowledging the outcries following George Floyd’s death
5:20 – Who is Lora?
8:51 – Life choreographer
13:09 – Fears dictating one’s life
17:01 – Being curious about life’s difficulties
19:36 – Dealing with infidelity
22:13 – Working with Lora: FLAUNT
29:41 – Why “Finding Your Fetish”?
32:36 – Working towards Accepting Unconditionally
36:14 – Undoing false beliefs

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Bundle of Joy

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250: The Power of Polarity in Relationships with Arielle Brown

Tue, 14 Jul 2020 19:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Rob welcomes long-time friend and colleague Arielle Brown to discuss the premise for the workshop that they held on June 17th 2020.

Arielle describes the workshop as follows:
“The degree of power and influence we have in our life is directly related to the amount of sensation we can hold in our body. Similarly, the level of ability we have to create real, authentic connection in our lives is directly related to our ability to hold polarity within our body. To “hold polarity”, in my definition, means to be able to hold (at least) two perspectives, truths, or belief systems within our awareness that seem to DIRECTLY conflict with each other. The cultivation of holding polarity is a practice in personal mastery, because in a world that has taught us to believe that being “right” is what creates safety, allowing ourselves to consider and hold a perspective that directly challenges our belief systems is a great threat to our (Ego) identity. Robert Kandell and I have built much of our respective bodies of work around intimacy, sexuality, communication, and human relating, on the premise that true safety is based on our ability to be CONNECTED in our relationships, rather than being RIGHT.”

3:09 – The motivation for Rob and Arielle’s workshop
6:43 – Being honest with your partner and yourself
11:23 – Different speeds of evolution in relationships
13:36 – Doing inner work and how it affects relationships
16:48 – What is distortion?
17:56 – Jealousy and polarity
23:24 – Why did Rob start this work?
30:17 – What do men need?
32:53 – Women holding space for men
36:04 – The impact of shifts in relationships on sex
41:19 – Their workshop

To get a flavor of what was covered, check out these videos:

What Does it Mean When Something Is Polarizing?:

What does it mean when something is "polarizing"?

What does it mean when something is "polarizing"?

Posted by Arielle Brown on Tuesday, May 19, 2020

Polarity Workshop Teaser with Arielle & Rob:

Tuff Love: A Teaser for Our Polarity Workshop for Couples w/ Arielle Brown

<>Arielle recently invited me to do a workshop with her around the concept of relationship, polarity, relationship, and communication. I said immediately, I'm IN!The price is $48/person for 12 people. Benefit is that you'll be part of the course. In other words, interactive! Afterwards, we'll post the replay for the cost of an email address.TO REGISTER: SEE THE LINK BELOW IN THE COMMENTSSome questions that will be discussed:>> How do we navigate the dance of opposites in our romantic relationship when your desires and belief systems directly contradict your partner’s?>> How do you honor your inner boundaries while staying curious and receptive to opposing perspectives?COME JOIN US!Arielle Brown is a teacher of intimacy energetics and spiritual embodiment, with a focus on erotic intelligence and transparent communication skills. Through her private coaching work, group containers, and online courses, Arielle has cultivated a body of work addressing the increasing need for evolutionary approaches to intimacy, sexuality, and spirituality that facilitate power-WITH (vs. power-OVER) models of relating. Her work emphasizes shadow integration and the unification of polarities in service to self-actualization and somatic awakening.Robert Kandell known as “The Modern Mantor,” is an interpersonal communications and relationship expert, speaker, podcaster and author. His focus lies in navigating and educating the public around the modern man and his many nuances in the modern era. Kandell is the host of a podcast called TuffLove – Your Pragmatic guide to relationships, sex and purpose in the 21st century and author of an Amazon #1 Best Seller – unHIDDEN – A Book for Men and Those Confused By Them.

Posted by Robert Kandell on Thursday, May 28, 2020

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249: Pain Into Pleasure with Aimee Batuski

Tue, 07 Jul 2020 19:00:00 GMT

While Aimee spent her first two years out of college building a career in corporate Manhattan, it quickly became clear to her that her passion was wilder than that. She packed her apartment and shipped herself all the way across the country to Los Angeles, where everything in her life as she knew it made a complete 180… except her love life.

Without a job or an income, she found a home with her friends, hired her first Life Coach, and started building her own business. On paper, her life was shaping up, but she found she was still struggling to feel good in her skin and find romance. When a friend invited her to a transformational course about intimacy and orgasm, she was terrified. But she knew it was the next step for her – she was desperate to learn anything that could turn things around for her sex life.

Within six months, her entire life was unrecognizable. Learning to live from her desire absolutely changed her experience of herself. For the first time, she was finally loving her body, living less in her head and feeling more connected to her intuition. She started meeting great men, and having deep, meaningful relationships, AND connected, pleasurable sex. She had to share what she’d learned, and before long, she was sharing the work with all her friends and clients. She learned that her new commitment to living life pleasurably was a professional passion too.

In the years since she moved here, she’s coached successful women from entrepreneurs to mothers, artists, C-Suite executives and even other coaches across the country. she’s given talks to major organizations, led retreats internationally, and she’s only just begun. In saying yes, she finally discovered self-development work that wasn’t only focused on her career or other relationships (I had that stuff mastered); there was a whole world to explore around her desire, intimacy, and connection with others. After that initial course, she fully immersed herself in trainings and retreats all centred around sexuality, eroticism, relationships and desire.

Today, she wants to find out how she can help you fall in love with yourself and your life as much as she has. Don’t waste another day feeling uncomfortable in your skin, feeling disconnected in your romantic life, or having unfulfilling sex!

4:53 – Her journey
6:56 – Not trusting men
9:59 – Weakened sexuality
12:22 – Being conscious on dating apps
15:25 – Pleasure is not just sex
18:17 – Self-pleasure as a practice
21:59 – Sexual experiences and processing resentment to men
28:20 – Breaking out of the loop of unconscious dating and sexuality
32:14 – Techniques for finding pleasure in everyday life

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248: Why Are You Still Sending Your Kids To School? With Blake Boles

Tue, 30 Jun 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Blake Boles is the founder and director of Unschool Adventures and the author of Why Are You Still Sending Your Kids to School?, The Art of Self-Directed Learning, Better Than College, and College Without High School. He hosts the Off-Trail Learning podcast and has delivered over 75 presentations for education conferences, alternative schools, and parent groups. Blake and his work have appeared on The New York Times, The Christian Science Monitor, BBC Travel, Psychology Today, Fox Business, TEDx, The Huffington Post, USA Today, NPR affiliate radio, and the blogs of Wired and The Wall Street Journal.

In 2003 Blake was studying astrophysics at UC Berkeley when he stumbled upon the works of John Taylor Gatto, Grace Llewellyn, and other alternative education pioneers. Deeply inspired by the philosophy of unschooling, Blake custom-designed his final two years of college to focus exclusively on education theory. After graduating he joined the Not Back to School Camp community and began writing and speaking widely on the subject of self-directed learning.

In his previous lives, Blake worked as a high-volume cook, delivery truck driver, summer camp director, Aurora Borealis research assistant, math tutor, outdoor science teacher, camp medic, ski resort market researcher, web designer, and windsurfing instructor. His biggest passion is sharing his enthusiasm and experience with young adults who are blazing their own trails through life. He was born in 1982.

2:53 – What is unschooling?
4:21 – Blake’s background
5:30 – Facing biases and assumptions around conventional schooling
8:43 – Parents’ fears
15:31 – Games
18:18 – Alternative ways to develop skills
22:41 – Intrinsic versus external motivation
25:50 – Forcing children to attend school
29:08 – Fear of getting consent from children
31:41 – Considerations for parents

Find Blake at:
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www.OffTrailLearning.com/Podcast
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247: Saving Sex for Marriage with Robb Kowalski

Tue, 23 Jun 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Rob Kowalski is a self-professed “reformed bad boy” with a riveting personal testimony from living as the biggest stripper in his hometown of Baltimore, Maryland to running the nightlife. He gave up a life of casual sex and addictions and is now the founder of the thriving non-profit, CityFam whose mission is to solve loneliness. Raised by a mother with an eighth-grade education, only fifteen years his elder and no support from his father, he taught himself how to be a man. At 19 he began working for the various entertainment agencies “to get out of the hood” and put himself through college. Oftentimes after he got off work he would go out to the nightclubs with co-workers. Because he was well known he was approached by a club owner and asked to promote a night. It wasn’t long before Rob became known for his ability to bring people together and move crowds. By 1999 he had weekly parties running in Baltimore and DC. But the lifestyle took its toll and at 27 years of age Rob had a life-changing experience and decided to head in a more positive direction. Instantly, with no real plan, Rob did what he describes as “a complete 180”, quitting his jobs and going from popular party boy to homebody. Through his journey, he discovered a major void for anyone looking to make positive changes in their life. Rob became passionate about finding a community of like-minded people, that like him were searching for “fun without regret” as well as wanting to make a positive contribution to society. When he couldn’t find it, because he was good at bringing people together and getting the word out, he created CityFam.

Currently, Rob serves as the Chairman of the Board of Directors for CityFam 501(c)3. He is the author of the best-selling book, Why Waiting Works, and has the #1 video in its category worldwide on YouTube with 10 Reasons Not To Have Sex Before Marriage with over 1.5 million views and climbing. In his spare time, Rob also runs a promotion company that puts on some of the largest concerts and events in Baltimore like the Charm City Countdown New Year’s Eve Party. Rob believes in using his ability to promote social events to bring awareness to causes in the community and recruit people that may have never volunteered to serve. Rob believes that if you socialize with the right group and give back to the community, YOU change and become the best version of yourself. Rob is working on opening a coffee bar/live music venue called HOME. It will serve as a meeting place for anyone craving deep, meaningful connections and redefine how people self-actualize. Rob’s story has recently been featured in numerous publications including; Daily Mirror, Chat, Daily Mail, Antena Stars, Trinitas, God TV, and others.

3:05 – Rob’s story
6:43 – Male role models from movies
8:03 – His relationship with his mother
9:40 – Statistics regarding sex and marriage
12:20 – How much does waiting matter?
17:45 – Why not something in the middle?
22:33 – Non-monogamous relationships and communication
29:10 – What about people evolving with time?
31:32 – Men and women in waiting for marriage for sex
35:33 – How do you know you won’t lose connection after having sex in marriage?
36:42 – Cityfam

Find Rob at:
www.RobbKowalski.com
As well as his book “Why Waiting Works”:
https://WhyWaitingWorks.net
YouTube:
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246: Moving from 3D to 4D to 5D with Taylor Simpson

Tue, 16 Jun 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Taylor Simpson is a sought after Motivational Speaker, a Podcast Host and Online Mindset Coach. Through her methodology of combining Science, Spirituality, and Mysticism, Taylor helps women around the world tap into the Frequency of Money and step into their unique Super Power, allowing them to live the Abundant life they desire – unapologetically. With her unique ability to infuse light frequencies into her work, Taylor guides women through an entire DNA & Soul Upgrade process where they find themselves in a new dimension on the other side.

Taylor has been featured in The Washingtonian, Very WellFit, Reader’s Digest and spoken on stages such as EventLuv, Align & Rise, Mary Kay and many others.

It is Taylor’s mission to wake women up to their true potential so they can be the magical goddesses they’re meant to be.

3:39 – Taylor’s story
10:25 – 3D, 4D, and 5D living
15:08 – Unschooling ourselves
19:50 – The Law of Attraction
24:53 – Taking responsibility for our state
26:33 – Manifesting experiences in our lives
31:24 – The age of Ascension
35:36 – Living in an age of greater adversity
42:29 – Pragmatic steps for moving into your next level

Find Taylor at:
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As well as her guided Money Meditation:
www.AbundanceRewired.com/Meditation
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245: Compassionately Dismantling the Patriarchy with Harriette Hale

Tue, 09 Jun 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Harriette is the UK’s Leading Certified Soul, Money and Mindset coach. A serial entrepreneur with 12 years experience and six businesses, Harriette has a global clientele base of creative and spiritual freelancers, fellow entrepreneurs and individuals on the path to self-growth and ascension. Her teaching & coaching stems from principles based in Universal Energy Law, first inspired by the well known ‘Law Of Attraction’ ideology, however, the practical side of business and life coaching takes equal precedence.

As the High Priestess of Light, Harriette also applies her energy healing, energy reading, and powerful psychic channel to coaching and mastermind sessions to create a truly life-transforming result.

Author of ‘The Knowing’, public speaker, and general Light-bringer-about-town, Harriette is both down to earth and fully tuned in to the Universe, on her mission to bring the true meaning of Abundance back to Planet Earth.

2:30 – What’s going on in the world?
5:09 – Fear
8:40 – The importance of negative emotions
13:50 – What is a high priestess?
19:31 – Connecting to one’s intuition
22:48 – Compassionately dismantling the patriarchy
28:04 – #MeToo and communication
30:56 – Flowing between masculine and feminine
35:24 – Advice for couples
38:26 – The importance of patience with partners

Find Harriette at:
www.AskHarriette.co.uk
As well as her School of Mastery:

Waiting List

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www.instagram.com/HarrietteHale

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244: Origins of Skewed Masculinity with Johnny Elsasser

Tue, 02 Jun 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Johnny is a former special operations U.S. Army Ranger with 4 combat tours between Iraq and Afghanistan. After the military Johnny worked for a private company protecting the U.S. Ambassador to Iraq in Baghdad for 5 years. After spending almost 10 years in and out of the Middle East, Johnny struggled with his transition to the daily life of being back home. Johnny decided that he needed to support other men struggling with similar experiences and in doing so he developed his new purpose. Johnny has seen the field of masculinity from an extremely alpha perspective and knows the trials and tribulations the hardest men deal with. Through his podcast and social media platforms, Johnny has taken his experience to follow a new mission helping men realize they are not alone and through techniques ranging from rewiring their synaptic responses and incorporating internal awareness, they can build a life where they are no longer alone, depressed, and fighting to find purpose.

3:12 – Johnny’s story
7:40 – Relationship to men inside the military
12:07 – Leadership and association
14:07 – Adversity and intimacy
15:38 – The concept behind his work
18:50 – Templates of masculinity
21:34 – His work and what differentiates him
24:44 – The Alpha Male shell
28:41 – Looking at one’s current and desired masculinity
31:58 – The door handle check
34:42 – A success story

Find Johnny at:
JohnnyElsasser.com
As well as his email:
Johnny@JohnnyElsasser.com
Facebook:
www.Facebook.com/The.Johnny.Elsasser
And:
www.Facebook.com/ArtOfMasculinity
Instagram:
www.Instagram.com/Johnny.Elsasser

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243: Why Aren’t Couples Having Sex? with Megan Lambert

Tue, 26 May 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Megan Lambert is an intimacy expert, specializing in helping couples reignite their sex life, and singles dismantle walls to love in order to find their life partner. She offers 1:1 and couples’ coaching as well as workshops and retreats around the world.

She holds a summa cum laude double BA in psychology and neuroscience from the University of Southern California. She spent 4 years as an executive leadership coach and facilitator for Fortune 100 companies before leaving the corporate world to start her own company. She’s a master-level certified relationship & sexuality coach, with 5 years of experience helping hundreds of people experience more connection, intimacy, and love in their lives. She currently lives in Ubud, Bali where she leads workshops along with ecstatic dance and yoga classes.

2:20 – Her journey to where she is today
5:22 – Love and sex during quarantine
8:20 – What is significance?
10:29 – Opening up in her own relationship
12:40 – Bringing both partners’ needs into a relationship
14:32 – Coaching women who think there are no good men
18:04 – Phases of sexuality in her own relationship
20:44 – Working with a couple where one partner is not open
23:52 – Self-exploration practices
26:28 – A success story
28:12 – The comfort of resentment
29:20 – Fem Rising retreats
30:56 – Fear of desire
33:02 – Her big desire

Find Megan at:
www.MeganDLambert.com
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www.instagram.com/MeganDLambert
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www.LinkedIn.com/in/megandlambert

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242: Rob Rant: How Plandemic Almost Ended My Marriage

Tue, 19 May 2020 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, following his recent experiences with his partner, Rob rants about movies such as Plandemic and the impact they make on the relationships people have. Rob dives into exploring his own prejudices and judgements, as well as looking at examples of how others have reacted, and how people can overcome the chasms created to reach new levels of connection.

3:07 – What happened
6:59 – Critical thinking resources
8:40 – Watching one’s judgements rise up
11:22 – What it means to be triggered
13:17 – Men and chauvinism
16:09 – Reflecting on his relationship goal
17:39 – Four key belief systems for connection
19:41 – “What I know about what I know”
23:55 – How films like Plandemic are impacting relationships
27:23 – Going forward
32:26 – How things are now

Sources mentioned:
– Plandemic the Movie – Website taken down. Get a big mug of joe and google Plandemic
– London Real – https://londonreal.tv/1000000-fighting-for-freedom/
– Out of Shadows – https://www.outofshadows.org/
– Daniel Pinchbeck ‘s post – https://www.facebook.com/daniel.pinchbeck/posts/10156844763101262
– Roy Piper’s excellent post – https://www.facebook.com/KingOfMilwaukee/posts/10157962376426999
– Aaron Nichols’ post – https://www.facebook.com/aaron.nichols.10000/posts/2886056461480154

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241: Brave Conversations with Elisabeth Cardiello

Tue, 12 May 2020 19:00:00 GMT

This infinitely curious, coffee-loving, Brooklyn native had business cards at six and her first product on shelves at 13. After graduating from college, where she played Division 1 soccer, and business school with highest honors, she spent four years on Wall Street, at an investment bank and at a $4 billion alternative asset management fund. She dealt with loss, found her passion, more loss and learned the meaning of post-traumatic growth. She started a coffee company called Caffè Unimatic, with an awe-inspiring story, featured in the Netflix documentary “Coffee For All”. She has gone on to create a line of coffee, give two TEDx talks, co-found an education company to deploy the methodology designed to instill an unshakable sense of confidence and resilience in college-age women and started speaking in the US and abroad. Most recently, she’s combined her passions and become host of Brave Conversations Over Coffee, a workshop series, whose structure is rooted in neuroscience and grounded in the world’s favorite morning ritual, to help us trust ourselves more and become someone that others can trust as well. Her family is still wondering where that shy nine-year-old went…

3:34 – Her coffee business, Unimatic
9:34 – Dealing with moments of doubt
16:22 – The motivation behind brave conversations over coffee
18:31 – What makes a brave conversation?
21:49 – How to listen: B.R.A.V.E.
27:30 – Responses to her work in businesses
30:32 – Isolation
33:18 – Future tripping
34:20 – How Unimatic works

Find Elisabeth at:
BraveConversationsOverCoffee.com
As well as:
www.CaffeUnimatic.com
Her TEDx Talk:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=TPzhFB6ZzNk
Instagram:
www.instagram.com/CaffeUnimatic
Twitter:
www.twitter.com/CaffeUnimatic

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240: How to Speak More Truth with David Wood

Tue, 05 May 2020 19:00:00 GMT

A former Consulting Actuary to Fortune 100 companies – including Sony Music, Chanel, and Exxon – David left his cushy Park Avenue job 20 years ago to build the world’s largest coaching business. He became #1 on Google for “life coaching”, serving an audience of 150,000 coaches, and coaching thousands of hours in 12 countries around the globe.

Alongside his clients’ successes, David is no stranger to overcoming challenges himself, having survived a full collapse of his paraglider and a fractured spine, witnessing the death of his sister at age seven, anxiety and depression, and a national Gong Show!

He is the author of “Get Paid For Who You Are,” with a foreword by Jack Canfield. He was nominated to the Transformational Leadership Council alongside such thought leaders as Don Miguel Ruiz, John Gray, and Presidential Candidate Marianne Williamson.

David believes that the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and love. They become the defining moments which shape our careers, our relationships, and our lives. He coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams – and now prison inmates – to create amazing results and deep connection. One tough conversation at a time.

2:31 – Speaking your truth more
4:04 – Why people do not speak the hard truth
7:01 – Vulnerability
8:28 – Benefits of difficult conversations and an embarrassing story
14:10 – Withholding communication
16:01 – David’s Case Model
16:17 – 1. Clarify
22:21 – 2. Ask permission
25:14 – 3. Share
26:10 – 4. Enquire
27:09 – Importance of brevity in sharing
29:31 – Mediums of communication
31:15 – What if things go bad?
34:44 – Sticking with it through difficulties

Find David at:
www.PlayForReal.life

As well as his free Tough Conversations CARE Model:
www.playforreal.life/blueprint

And his podcast “Tough Conversation with David Wood:
www.podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tough-conversations-with-david-wood/id1485812446

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239: Less Takeout, More Makeout with Marc Wendt

Tue, 28 Apr 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Marc Wendt began his coaching journey at age 9, working with the children of his parents’ clients, during weekend workshops based on the work of Thomas Harris’ book, “I am Ok You’re Ok” Since then he has gone on to have a professional career in the film industry, and for the last several years as a Personal Coach.

Marc has completed formal coaches training programs with Ken Blackman and Alexandra Stockwell in their year-long “Coaching Dojo”, Brig Feltus’ “ReMember Institute Curriculum for Diversity Consciousness”, and Zat Baraka Elias’ “Men’s Wisdom Work Coaches Training”. Additionally, he continues to expand his personal development and integrity through ongoing transformational work with his own personal coaches.

In addition to his full-time personal coaching business, he administers a 3500 person Facebook group dedicated to quantum masculine development, leads online workshops dedicated to developing men’s intimacy, EQ, and communication skills, and is a musician, songwriter, and screenplay writer.

2:43 – Marc’s practice of “Less Take Out More Makeout”
6:03 – Getting started
10:22 – Sensuality versus sexuality
11:52 – Outcomes of the practice
16:42 – Recommendations for men who work full time
17:56 – Genders and housework
22:40 – Practical tips for preparing meals
26:10 – Mistakes and war stories
29:57 – His coaching work
34:59 – Listening to the body in business

Find Marc at:
www.MarcWendtCoaching.com
As well as his initiative “Less Take Out More Makeout”:
www.LessTakeOutMoreMakeout.com
Facebook:
www.facebook.com/MarcWendtCoaching
Instagram:
www.instagram.com/MarcWendtCoaching
Twitter:
www.twitter.com/MarcWendtCoach
LinkedIn:
www.linkedin.com/in/marc-wendt-1a6b26/

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238: Navigating Relationships in the Time of CV with Rachel Wright

Tue, 21 Apr 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Psychotherapist Rachel Wright is recognized as one of the freshest voices on millennial and couple-preneur relationships. She and her husband Kyle co-founded Wright Wellness Center in 2016 to bridge the gap between a self-help book and a therapist’s couch. Together, they’re changing how we approach relationships, sex, and mental health.

With a Master’s Degree in clinical psychology, Rachel has worked with thousands of couples all over the world, helping them scream less and screw more. She has brought her message to stages across the globe and is also a sex educator, writer, and co-host of the popular Bachelor-themed podcast, The Wright Reasons.

Rachel has been featured widely in the media including Cheddar TV, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Simplify Magazine, InStyle, CNN, Women’s Health, NBC News Radio, Huffington Post, CNN, Refinery29, MindBodyGreen, Bustle, and dozens of other outlets. She currently lives in New York City, where she nurtures her love for all things musical theatre. Learn more at wrightwellnesscenter.com or by following @thewright_rachel on Instagram.

3:31 – Who is Rachel Wright?
5:51 – Lack of personality in a therapist
8:19 – Becoming more public
10:19 – Relationships during the CV pandemic
16:54 – Boundaries and when to say “No”
23:53 – Quarantining with others
30:50 – Polyamorous dating

Find Rachel at:
www.WrightWellnessCenter.com
As well as her support group during CV:
www.rachelwrightnyc.com/supportgroup
Facebook:
www.facebook.com/RachelGibbsWright
Instagram:
www.instagram.com/TheWright_Rachel

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237: Your Permission Slip with Madelyn Moon

Tue, 14 Apr 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Madelyn Moon is a walking permission slip, embodiment teacher and transformational coach. Her mission is to help women and men unify all pieces, including the Feminine with Masculine, Light with Dark, Introvert with Extrovert and Doing with Being.

Through transformational experiences such as coaching, shadow work, spiritual healing, polarity, and Feminine and Masculine embodiment, Maddy will warmly guide you deeper into your own truth.

Her work and story have been featured in hundreds of podcasts as well as various publications such as The Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, Thought Catalog, Nylon Magazine, The Daily Mail, Vice, Greatist, Men’s Health, PEOPLE and ABC News Nightline.

She’s hosted the popular Mind Body Musings podcast for nearly six years, ranking in the Top-50 of ALL TIME in the U.S. and Great Britain in Self Improvement.

3:06 – Experiences on the street during this time
9:35 – Coping mechanisms
14:02 – Addressing unconscious distractions
18:34 – A society of disapproval
21:44 – Productivity and comparison
25:36 – Her recent life-changing experience
28:16 – Her personal embodiment practice
33:35 – A practice for frustration and anger

Find Maddy at:
www.MaddyMoon.com
Her workshop with Jamie Wollrab “The Embodied Archetype”:
www.MaddyMoon.com/Events
As well as her freebies:
www.MaddyMoon.com/FreeGift

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236: How to Find Your F*#$k Yes in Your Life with Sandra Bershad

Tue, 07 Apr 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Sandra Bershad, M.A. is a visionary mentor and awakening catalyst deeply devoted to empowering people in becoming intimate with the resonance of their highest truth and inner guidance. She is on a mission to create spaces of radical permission that invite individuals to tap into the full spectrum of their inner knowing, visions, gifts, and the specific genius they are meant to share.

As a truth resonator and amplifier, she strives to demystify the perception that we need something outside ourselves to connect with our intrinsic nature that is infinite, innately wise, and already whole. Her approach has been forged through rigorous study of the merging between mind, body, spirit, and hard science, a deep passion for healing and growth, and the clinical application of therapeutic modalities, healing arts, and spiritual traditions.

She has a Master’s Degree in Mindfulness-based Transpersonal Counseling Psychology and dual Bachelor’s Degrees in Somatic Psychology and Psychology of Health and Healing. Recognized for her intuitive gifts and psychic abilities, she has appeared on Anderson Cooper, Psychic Children: Their Sixth Sense, Good Morning America, and The Doctors.

2:30 – Sovereignty and freedom
6:18 – Rob’s experience of starting to live “unhidden”
11:37 – Self-sabotaging our own freedom and sovereignty
14:36 – Early TV appearances starting as a 17-year-old
20:02 – Her journey from being ungrounded to being balanced
25:03 – Approaches to healing
29:45 – The importance of commitment to one’s self-work
31:59 – Her approach to healing
38:59 – A success story from one of her clients

Find Sandra at:
www.SandieBershad.com
As well as Facebook:
www.facebook.com/SandieBershad8
And Instagram:
www.instagram.com/TheHighlySensitiveSuperwoman

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235: StoryTime: My Sophie’s Choice

Tue, 31 Mar 2020 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, during a time of global challenge, Rob tells the story of his experience of his own “Sophie’s Choice” in a formative part of his life, that went on to create who he is today.

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234: How Our Self-Worth Can Block Our Pleasure with Amanda Biccum

Tue, 24 Mar 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Amanda Biccum is an Evolutionary Coach dedicated to helping individuals discover deeper connections to themselves, their passion and their pleasure. She is currently living in Bali where she is the creator of Tantric workshops, temples and experiences which create deep interpersonal connections and healing spaces rooted in the work of sacred sexuality.

2:00 – Amanda’s view of what self-pleasure is
6:53 – Her road to self-discovery around self-pleasure
11:11 – First steps on the road to self-pleasure
14:22 – Showing love to our own bodies
16:28 – The relationship between self-worth and self-pleasure
19:37 – Societal values and self-worth
22:45 – Breaking feeling “I am bad”
26:54 – Initial steps for couples who have lost touch with their sexuality
34:18 – Her resources and her course “Worship the Goddess”

Find Amanda at:
www.InstituteOfIntegratedIntimacy.com
As well as:
www.amandabiccum.com
And her course “Worship the Goddess”:
www.InstituteOfIntegratedIntimacy.com/WorshipTheGoddess
On Instagram:
www.instagram.com/MadamBiccum

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233: Modern Manhood with Cleo Stiller

Tue, 17 Mar 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Cleo Stiller is on a mission to encourage health, education and positive social action around the world. She is an award-winning journalist, speaker, and television host — and most recently, the author of Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today out with Simon & Schuster on November 12th, 2019.

Cleo received a prestigious Peabody Award nomination for public service journalism in 2018 and an Emmy Award nomination in 2015. Her health-focused television show for Univision’s cable network Fusion is the network’s highest-performing original series premiere. Her work receives frequent coverage, including The New York Times, Rolling Stone, Fortune Magazine, PBS, Mother Jones, ABC News, Variety, Self, Essence and many more. She speaks regularly around the country about her work and social impact, most recently at New York University Global Affairs: Women’s Global Health Conference.

2:09 – The reaction to her book “Modern Manhood”
4:04 – Writing her book
9:31 – The impact of #MeToo on men
14:31 – The script given to men in the past
17:52 – New roles for women
20:30 – Reflecting on gender roles in splitting the bill
24:13 – #ItWasMe
25:23 – Men and friendship
29:44 – Why men use locker room talk
35:32 – What she would like to come from her book

Find Cleo at:
www.CleoStiller.net
And her book “Modern Manhood”:
www.amazon.com/Modern-Manhood-Conversations-About-Complicated/dp/1982132019

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232: Rob Rant: Antagonistic vs Collaborative

Tue, 10 Mar 2020 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about Antagonistic versus Collaborative Communication. Pulling ideas from the key concept of James P. Carse’s book “Finite and Infinite Games”, as well as the work of Simon Sinek, Rob explores the games that we play and people’s relationship to scarcity in relationships and business.

3:09 – James Carse’s book “Finite and Infinite Games”
7:26 – Reflecting on the idea of finite and infinite games
11:54 – Being right versus being connected
13:34 – Your scarcity incites the scarcity of others
17:37 – Tone in communication
19:26 – Societal training regarding scarcity
20:21 – Servant leadership
24:03 – The effects of profit-first business
26:23 – A model of Antagonistic versus Collaborative Communication
30:54 – Incentives for antagonism
32:12 – Self-antagonism

Find James Carse at:
www.JamesCarse.com

And find Simon Sinek at:
www.SimonSinek.com

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www.RobertKandell.com/collaborative

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231: Rob Rant: The Impeachment of the United States

Tue, 03 Mar 2020 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about the outcome of the recent impeachment trial of Donald J. Trump, and the impact it, as well as who he is, has on the world, and its occupants.

Rob explores what he sees in the president’s behaviour as it relates to bullying tactics, climate control, racism, and separation, as well as the standard set for young boys.

3:52 – Separation and speaking to a small base
5:23 – Rob’s experience of separation and racism growing up
8:02 – Trump becoming president
10:02 – Bullies and role models
12:48 – Appealing to the disempowered
14:04 – Presidential misconduct
15:45 – Questions and answers

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230: Jealousy with Olivia Lara Owen

Tue, 25 Feb 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Olivia Lara Owen is an expert in Human Transformation, Intimacy and is a Coach and Guide for Men and Women.

Olivia works with clients privately, runs online programmes, speaks publicly, writes on the internet and facilitates immersive experiences. Olivia has cultivated a body of work around the Unleashing of the Fully Expressed Self for both Men and Women.

The Unleashed path is using the power of sexual embodiment to unlock your authentic expression and recreate an entirely new relationship to your power. Her next release is called The Unleashed Man guiding the modern man in how to be powerful, embodied, confident and fully expressed in his true nature.

2:47 – Jealousy
5:26 – One’s relationship with jealousy
10:55 – Rob’s experience of jealousy
15:42 – Desire and jealousy
19:19 – Understanding what jealousy reflects about ourselves
23:34 – Men’s responses to hearing their partner is jealous
25:42 – Hearing a man express jealousy
28:00 – Enjoying jealousy
30:52 – Processing jealousy
33:10 – Not judging one’s emotions
34:16 – Speaking to men experiencing their partners’ jealousy
39:04 – Collaborative versus antagonistic
43:46 – Unleashed Man

Find Olivia at:
www.FireUpYourDesire.com
Instagram:
@OliviaLaraOwen
Facebook:
www.facebook.com/OLIVIALARAOWEN

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229: Empowerment Through Feng Shui with Patricia Lohan

Tue, 18 Feb 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Patricia Lohan helps entrepreneurs make their homes & businesses magnetic to money, fame and new opportunities. She shows you what they don’t teach in business school, what lies between the lines, your top-secret tool for success. She is a Feng Shui expert & and passionate female entrepreneur who has shaped her dream life living in Bali with her husband. Patricia has a gift at making Feng Shui simple, easy to understand and implement.

She has helped thousands of people across the globe embrace Feng Shui and create lasting changes in their businesses, homes and lives. Patricia has been featured on CNN, Fox, Forbes, The New York Post, She Knows, Essence, Mind Body Green, USA Today and Elephant Journal.

2:26 – Feng Shui
6:00 – The origin and basics of Feng Shui
11:05 – Basic approaches to addressing a studio apartment
14:54 – Addressing clutter and stagnation
20:08 – Success stories
25:46 – The people that approach her
27:20 – The relationship between our conditions and our mindset
30:46 – Having the intention of improving one’s life
33:48 – Asking for help, and taking back power

Find Patricia at:
www.PatriciaLohan.com
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228: Book Release: Conscious Cock with Kris Lovestone

Wed, 12 Feb 2020 08:53:58 GMT

Kristopher Lovestone is a sex educator and relationship consultant who survived six divorces in his childhood and went on to rewrite the rules of the relationship game so people can win. He now teaches people how to succeed through communication, education & integrity. His techniques have yielded him a wildly successful 14-year marriage that gets hotter every year, and he published his teachings in his new book Conscious Cock: The Empowered Sexuality Manual For Men. He has been called the “Einstein of relationships” and has been endorsed by many of the top sex educators in the world.

2:21 – Behind the title of “Conscious Cock”
4:44 – The importance of words in sexuality
6:30 – Men and their shame
8:51 – Penis size
14:00 – Lasting longer in bed, having stronger erections
18:31 – Practice for strengthening pelvic muscles in men
21:17 – Having open conversations about sex and sexuality
23:49 – Porn as the main source of education for sexuality
25:49 – Being more present in the bedroom
27:41 – Responsibility for partners’ orgasms
30:07 – Climax vs orgasm
32:15 – Men navigating gender dynamics today
37:29 – Book launch offer

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227: Overcoming Premature Ejaculation with Jeff Abraham

Tue, 04 Feb 2020 21:02:39 GMT

Jeff is a successful entrepreneur and the CEO of Promescent, a leading sexual wellness brand that helps couples Make Love Longer. He and his team are dedicated to bringing innovative products to market that solve sexual performance issues for both men and women. With over 10-years experience in the field of sexual wellness, Jeff has seen and heard from thousands of couples and is a great thought leader in the space.

3:09 – The portion of men affected by Premature Ejaculation (PE)
5:22 – The Arousal Gap
9:33 – Physiological causes of PE
14:02 – Ejaculating before you want to
15:48 – The pressure men experience
23:39 – Men being open about their problems
25:16 – Long-term relationships and intimacy
29:39 – Products to address PE
30:41 – Ensuring there are no side effects
32:15 – Introducing products into a relationship
34:27 – Presenting products as enhancing, rather than fixing sexual experiences
36:11 – The dream impact of these products

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226: Unblocking Your Core Pattern(s) with Kristen Kancler

Tue, 28 Jan 2020 19:00:00 GMT

Kristen Kancler is a Relationship Coach who helps successful, single men find the woman they want to spend the rest of their life with. With over 10 years of experience, Kristen is committed to helping men effortlessly attract the love of their lives through clearing 5 Core Relationship Patterns that appear in all people.

3:06 – How Kristen started her work
5:02 – The difference between traditional and somatic therapy
10:08 – The 5 Core Relationships Patterns
14:40 – Process to identify moments that create patterns
18:42 – Releasing patterns
21:30 – How our Core Patterns create distance between who we are and what we want
25:53 – Self-esteem and fear
27:26 – How men start Kristen’s work
29:53 – Coaching from the opposite sex
32:01 – Predictions and wishes for gender dynamics

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225: Rob Rant: It’s the End of the Year

Tue, 21 Jan 2020 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about the transition from 2019 to 2020, the past decade, and how his life has changed. Rob explores the decisions he’s made in his career and relationships, the roles different people have played in shaping him, significant experiences from the past decade, and his outlook for the years ahead.

3:40 – Looking back
6:08 – Turning 50 and enjoying life
8:58 – The previous change of the decade
11:11 – The past decade and the best decision Rob ever made
13:22 – Reflecting on 2019
14:44 – Medicine journeys
17:06 – His business roles expanding
18:56 – HIs relationships
22:02 – His relationship with himself

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224: How to Deal with Getting Hooked with Jade Connelly-Duggan

Tue, 14 Jan 2020 22:48:54 GMT

Growing up in a family of wellness and organization development pioneers, Jade Connelly-Duggan, M. Ac., was the guinea pig for what would become the first Master’s of Transformative Leadership and Social Change in the U.S.

Using tools from the arenas of ontology, biology of cognition, chaordic design, TLSC principles, natural scale and the proprietary Duggan Method, alongside her clinical acupuncture practice, Jade uses a particularly practical and physiologically grounded skills-based approach to culture and leadership design.

Jade’s signature work is in the arena of empowering more effective living and leadership through listening to the body and treating an organization or community as a body using principles of acupuncture. Her unique skill is in teaching individuals and groups to notice and activate their physiology towards leadership- thus naturally away from stuckness or “stress” patterns. Her favorite party trick is transforming team culture impacting thousands of downline employees in 24 hours or less.

Jade has worked with leaders and groups from Pepsi, FINRA, NSA, Accenture, Lockheed Martin, FDA amongst others around leadership, communication, mindfulness, safety and corporate culture.

2:55 – Transitioning from acupuncture to corporate consulting
4:01 – Philosophies of acupuncture
4:46 – An individual’s needs, versus the organization’s
6:58 – The impact of an owners’ outlook on their business
7:56 – Getting “hooked”
9:29 – Reality TV and fear
15:03 – How technology changes humans
17:01 – The co-creation of being “hooked”
21:07 – Our stories when hooked
27:43 – Practically approaching getting hooked in relationships
30:01 – Being conscious of our responses
36:12 – Releasing emotions
39:44 – Being curious rather than defensive

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HumanWellness.life

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223: Being a Mentally Tough Man with Dominick and Bryan

Wed, 08 Jan 2020 08:49:20 GMT

Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stacy are two men generating worthy inquiry and meaningful introspection into the forces that shape a man’s sexuality, behavior and intimate relationships. Through their podcast, The Great Man Within (formerly The Man Amongst Men), running regular retreats, and their monthly live event The Discerning Dick, they are creating forums for men to discuss what it means to be a man today, and giving them the tools to become the Great Men that they all have the potential to be.

3:09 – Men’s behavior with women
8:10 – Power dynamics and behavior
13:46 – The “Hitch” model of consent
16:12 – Practices for mental toughness:
16:42 – Breathwork and the 60-second breath challenge
21:18 – The difference having support makes
24:58 – 100 press up challenge
27:06 – Cold showers
31:49 – Long-form meditation
35:56 – Temporary absence periods
42:31 – 30-day no dessert challenge

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222: The Mandatory Necessity of Men’s Groups with Jason Lange

Tue, 31 Dec 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Jason Lange is a men’s embodiment coach, group facilitator, and evolutionary guide. He helps men drop in and wake up to deeper clarity in their life’s purpose and relationships. He believes every man should be in a men’s group for the growth and support opportunities they provide. Jason applies an integral framework to all the work he offers, drawing on many disciplines and modalities to effectively serve. He has trained with John Wineland, Jun Po Roshi, Tripp Lanier, Ken Wilber, Brother David Steindl-Rast, and Robert Augustus Masters.

He is also the co-founder of the non-profit Authentic Los Angeles which teaches Authentic Relating tools that make easy the art of deep connection and community. Twice a month he hosts drop-in men’s groups in Los Angeles, and hosts three deep dive Shadow Breakthrough Weekend’s for men ready to make massive shifts in their lives. His flagship online program, Pillars of Presence, is a 10-week bootcamp for men ready to transform their dating lives from the inside out.

Outside of men’s work, Jason is also a filmmaker and is blessed to be married to his amazing wife, Violet, who coaches women on love and femininity.

3:05 – Jason’s journey
7:00 – Being a misfit in school
10:03 – Authentic relating and Authentic Los Angeles
15:38 – Why men need to join men’s groups
22:00 – Having people to talk to other than your romantic partner
24:48 – The Shadow Breakthrough Weekend for Men
26:49 – The impact of not feeling emotions
30:10 – Groups that are just for men, versus those for men and women
33:42 – Competition between men

Find Jason at:
www.AuthenticLosAngeles.com
His men’s work at:
www.Evolutionary.men
His next deep-dive weekend for men is on 18 and 19 January 2020, with details available at:
www.Evolutionary.men/shadow-breakthrough-weekend-for-men

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221: Changing Your Mindset with Marla Mattenson

Tue, 24 Dec 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Marla Mattenson is a relationship & intimacy expert specializing in coaching couples in business together with a desire to learn how to take their drive for success and growth mindset in business and apply it to invigorate their relationship, increase pleasure, joy and passion all while crushing sales. Over the course of her 25-year career, she’s helped more than 12,000 couples including Academy Award-winning actors, producers and directors, NBA players and coaches, Grammy Award-winning artists, and millionaire entrepreneurs.

Marla was also a National Board Certified mathematics teacher in Los Angeles for seven years and is currently on the board of directors of a charter school in Hollywood consulting for them on their sexual education programs for 7th – 12th grade. She’s coached couples, families, individuals, companies, as well as school culture and leadership. Using her neuroscience and mathematics background, Marla is uniquely gifted at working with entrepreneurial couples to transform their negative habitual patterns because the hidden power of successful businesses is the stable, loving relationships behind the scenes.

3:00 – Competition in the relationship work industry
5:45 – Defining mindset
9:29 – Judgements in relationship
13:46 – Consciously choosing how to react to an upset partner
17:52 – Making the conscious decision to pivot towards one-another
24:23 – Diving into uncomfortable emotions
27:34 – Collaboration and antagonism in relationship
31:21 – Freedom, evolution, and the power of “Yes, and…” in relationships
34:19 – Disagreement and interpreting “No”
38:45 – Consciously choosing behaviors to achieve desired outcomes
44:16 – Business and romance in relationships

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220: The Masculine in Relationship with G.S. Youngblood

Tue, 17 Dec 2019 19:00:00 GMT

G.S. Youngblood is a coach for men in relationship, former Silicon Valley executive, founder of a tech company that he eventually sold, and the author of two books (including the recently published “The Masculine in Relationship”). His teachings are based on 12 years as a student and creator in the realm of the Masculine-Feminine dynamic, as well as principles he pulls from a variety of fields: psychology, martial arts, tango, meditation, and BDSM.

2:21 – His divorce as the start of his journey
5:07 – Taking responsibility
10:02 – Seeking help
12:46 – The Masculine Blueprint
13:52 – The first element of the Masculine Blueprint: Respond versus React
16:08 – The second element of the Masculine Blueprint: Provide Structure
17:56 – The third element of the Masculine Blueprint: Create Safety
19:01 – Advice for men with female partners in their masculine
21:58 – Pragmatic steps to stop reacting form anger
26:04 – The importance of male companionship
28:11 – The man his book is intended for

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219: Understanding Men with Alison Armstrong

Tue, 10 Dec 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Alison Armstrong has been designing, leading, and executing a prodigious array of transformational projects for adults and children for nearly 30 years. Alongside her friend Joan McClain, she founded PAX Programs Incorporated with the mission of “altering society’s culture by transforming the way women relate to men”. She believes that by shifting the relationship between women and men from an adversarial context, environments can be created where conflicts become resolved quicker, and more peace can be found on this planet.

1:51 – The biggest changes in man-woman dynamics over the last 30 years
5:55 – Men’s complexity
8:00 – Labels given to men to show women’s dissatisfaction
13:20 – What it means to be a man, and asking for help
17:20 – Evolution in relationships
20:46 – #MeToo
23:36 – Complicity to abuse of power
26:44 – Addressing abuse of power in the world
32:57 – Toxic masculinity
35:10 – The hierarchy of instincts
42:46 – Fight, flight, or freeze

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218: Rob Rant: The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Tue, 03 Dec 2019 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about our internal stories and how they impact our lives, and the lives of those around us. He looks at the stories we tell ourselves about our own identities, about how we relate as individuals to society, and the stories that affect the way we interact with children.

1:09 – Insights from a recent medicine journey
5:50 – The impact of stories we have
10:23 – Stories creating isolation
13:10 – Social media
14:56 – The story of reality and agreement
17:44 – Stories and parenting
19:38 – The stories we tell about ourselves

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MarlaMattenson.com
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DavidNeagle.com

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217: Supporting Women Entrepreneurs with Racheal Cook

Tue, 26 Nov 2019 20:11:30 GMT

Racheal Cook is an author, speaker, business growth strategist, and host of the Promote Yourself to CEO podcast. With an MBA in Entrepreneurship, several years consulting small businesses and tech start-ups, and having won the National Small Business Institute Competition, she teaches savvy, soulful, smart women to simplify their businesses so that they can achieve not only a meaningful living, but also a meaningful life.

2:49 – Her early experiences as a post-graduate
7:28 – The reason behind the behavior men exhibit to women in the workplace
9:02 – A toxic workplace and panic attacks
12:32 – First step into running her own business
15:38 – Three people needed for every business
18:00 – Operating from your zone of genius
19:53 – Racheal’s services
22:29 – The gender pay gap and intersectionality
27:25 – Women of color in business
31:19 – Stories of success

Find Racheal at: RachealCook.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/racheal.cook
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216: Rob Rant: Confront Fear

Tue, 19 Nov 2019 20:58:49 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about fear: how it affects us, various ideas on what it represents, the biology behind it, and his own experiences of it. Rather than shying away from what scares us, we should move towards confronting our fears, so that we can lead lives free of what would hold us back otherwise.

4:23 – Biological impact of fear
8:06 – Fires in California
11:45 – Fears around evolution in relationships
16:34 – Rob’s personal experience of fears around his partner’s evolution
17:51 – Not letting fear run you
21:03 – Confrontation as the antidote for fear

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215: The Power of Invisible Influence with Shana James

Tue, 12 Nov 2019 20:20:36 GMT

For 15 years Shana James has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled. She’s been known for my ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love.

Referred to as a secret weapon, she cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration. With an M.A. in psychology, DISC certification, Coaching training, more than a decade facilitating groups and workshops, starting multiple businesses and helping hundreds of entrepreneurs start their own, Shana’s range of skills is unlike many other coaches.

3:27 – The work Shana does
5:06 – What brought her to this work
7:15 – Working with men with difficult emotions
10:28 – The need for “rumbling” with emotions in men
13:06 – Women picking up on non-verbal cues
18:10 – Being trained to not show vulnerability
22:51 – Teaching women to be more present to men’s vulnerability
27:38 – The scale of men from iron wall to man-child
31:56 – Holding the entirety of our partners

Find Shana at:
www.ShanaJamesCoaching.com
Her quiz “Become A Better Lover & Leader”:
www.ShanaJamesCoaching.com/Quiz
And for women:
www.ShanaJamesCoaching.com/Women

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214: Rob Rant: You’re Evolving – Deal With It

Tue, 05 Nov 2019 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about the evolution that each and every one of us is undergoing constantly in our lives. Rob explores what he’s seen in others, as well as his own evolution in the spheres of his sexuality, his relationship with his parents, and his career as he has gotten older.

4:26 – Our relationship with evolution
9:36 – Rob’s sexual evolution
13:57 – Masturbation and self-love
16:51 – Your transformation and those around you
21:27 – Evolution with one’s parents
24:44 – Rob’s evolution around his career

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213: Libido, Desire and Arousal with Susan Bratton

Tue, 29 Oct 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Susan Bratton is an author, award-winning speaker and serial entrepreneur who champions passionate relationships. Her straight-forward love-making advice is rooted in her personal experience of watching her marital intimacy wither as she and her husband pursued dynamic careers. When her relationship hit a crisis point, Susan made a fierce commitment to do whatever it took to hold her family together and revive the passion in her marriage.

2:45 – Susan’s journey in becoming a sexpert
11:42 – The Expanded Orgasm Practice
18:06 – Sexuality, triggers, and shame
24:05 – The growth of her and her partner’s company, Personal Life Media
28:22 – Changes in the last fifteen years
33:53 – Everyday factors that affect our body, libido, and desire
40:46 – Recommendations for those wanting to start working on their sex life

Find Susan at:
www.PersonalLifeMedia.com
And her videos at:
www.BetterLover.com

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212: How Men Can Level Up with Mark Guay

Tue, 22 Oct 2019 19:05:20 GMT

Mark is a personal-development coach based in San Diego. His work guides men to integrate emotional energy and step into greater purpose, power, and connection. He is a featured teacher on Insight Timer where you can listen to his meditations for free.

3:15 – Mark’s story and mission
9:52 – Men and crying
14:25 – Traditional work lifestyles and emotions
21:23 – Pragmatic steps for men to connect with their emotions
26:08 – Suppression of emotions
30:51 – Shame and porn
36:00 – 18-year-old girls and porn
40:10 – Mark’s upcoming book

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MarkWGuay.me
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211: The Radical Change of Gender Dynamics in Modern Divorce with Andrea Vacca

Tue, 15 Oct 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Andrea Vacca is the founder of Vacca Family Law Group, a law firm in New York City that focuses exclusively on non-adversarial divorce and family law matters. Andrea is regularly featured as a media expert on divorce-related matters, and she lectures, writes and blogs on the topics of collaborative law, mediation, and topics related to non-adversarial family law. After practising traditional litigation-focused family law for many years, Andrea’s firm now works only with clients who want to keep their divorces out of court and want their prenuptial and postnuptial agreements negotiated in a non-adversarial manner. In addition to having a B.A. and J.D, Andrea also has a Certificate in Positive Psychology and regularly applies what she has learned to help her clients navigate their divorces, including having a growth mindset, being resilient and encouraging mindfulness. Andrea is President of the New York Association of Collaborative Professionals and is a co-author of the book, Onward & Upward: A Guide For Getting Through New York Divorce & Family Law Issues.

3:16 – What led Andrea to practise divorce law
6:46 – How to have a non-adversarial divorce
10:33 – The impact of the relationship between divorcees on their children
16:55 – Recent changes in man-woman dynamics
21:16 – The changing pay gap and emasculation
26:10 – Her history working with men and post-nuptial agreements
27:03 – When having a post-nuptial agreement makes sense
29:26 – Invisible and visible ROI
30:38 – Advice for spouses seeking a divorce

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210: Sexuality as the Gateway Drug for Intimacy with Caity Flannagan and Matt Sturm

Tue, 08 Oct 2019 21:00:29 GMT

Caity Flannagan and Matt Sturm are the co-founders of Embodied Erotic – a community for sacred sexuality, intimacy, and personal growth. Drawing on Neo-Tantra, Core Shamanic practices, somatic psychotherapy, yoga and meditation, they offer a unique experience that’s powerful, accessible and fun in aiding the exploration of couples’ sexuality. Having worked with hundreds of couples, they share practical tools for sex and relating to uncover the magic and love waiting just below the surface, while remaining conscious of each individual’s unique experience, to invite the full expression of our bodies and relationships.

2:26 – Their backgrounds and how they came into their current work
5:06 – Matt’s experience of facing his ego when entering Tantra
11:47 – An epic breakdown in a couple they’ve coached
14:01 – Shame and sexuality
16:13 – What is Tantra?
18:14 – A recommendation for those interested in learning about Tantra
19:33 – Their online couples course
25:42 – Their goals with their work
30:12 – Polarity within relationships

Find Matt and Caity at:
www.embodiederotic.com
And use the code “TUFFLOVE” for a $50 discount off their Thriving in Relationship Online Course: http://embodiederotic.com/thriving

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209: Stop Giving Yourself Away with Sydney Campos

Tue, 01 Oct 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Sydney Campos is a Visionary, Healer, Spiritual Teacher and Author of The Empath Experience: What To Do When You Feel Everything. Sydney guides visionary leaders to live in alignment with their soul purpose while embodying next-level power, pleasure and prosperity.

In addition to being a seasoned Business Strategy Advisor and Certified Holistic Health Coach, Sydney is also a 200-Hour Registered Yoga Teacher, Reiki Energy Healer, Azure Light Guardian and Certified Akashic Records Practitioner and Instructor. Sydney shares her multifaceted expertise through writing, 1:1 visionary mentoring, self-mastery courses, transformational retreats, live workshops and events, intuitive soul sessions and the acclaimed Visionary Souls Podcast.

2:33 – Sydney’s mission
6:53 – Her entry into her journey
12:41 – Misdiagnosing children
16:43 – Gun violence and cultural conditioning
22:53 – Ancestral trauma
27:21 – Sydney’s work
30:37 – The Quantum Creator Academy

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208: The Beauty of Conflict with CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke

Tue, 24 Sep 2019 19:00:00 GMT

CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke are a couple who together run Thrive! Coaching & Consulting, offering coaching for individuals, couples, and corporates. Founded in 2002, they work with leadership teams, management groups, project teams and senior executive teams to resolve conflict in real time and use it to drive collective creativity, profits, and extraordinary results. They teach that conflict is natural when smart, passionate people work together towards an ambitious goal. The trick is learning how to use that conflict as a healthy driver for collective creativity.

2:50 – CrisMarie’s background
7:28 – Susan’s background
11:37 – Their book “The Beauty of Conflict”
14:15 – Being right or being relational
19:18 – A pragmatic tool for resolving conflict in romantic relationships
24:48 – A pragmatic tool for resolving conflict in business relationships
28:57 – Trends relating to women in business and society at large
33:33 – Being in the discomfort of conflict, rather than avoiding it
39:34 – Where they would like their book to go

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207: Three Pillars for Equanimity with Pablo Lucero

Tue, 17 Sep 2019 19:00:46 GMT

Pablo Lucero is a renowned Yoga instructor and designer of Functional Movement – a powerful and skilful integrative practice rooted in the ancient philosophies of Yoga, Ancestral Indigenous Healing Arts and Functional Movement Methodologies. Pablo aims to awaken people’s inner power, recondition their natural vitality and reclaim their highest potential. He leads workshops, conferences, memorable Yoga Retreats and Yoga Teacher Trainings Certifications locally and internationally.

3:37 – The beginning’s of Pablo’s path
9:31 – The move to Costa Rica
14:34 – Equanimity
17:34 – Three pillars to establish equanimity
17:54 – The first pillar: Conscious Movement
24:16 – The second pillar: Concentration
28:00 – The third pillar: Adaptive inquiry
33:07 – The beauty of being human
40:46 – Pablo’s upcoming events

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206: Getting Out of the Man Box with Dr. John Schinnerer

Tue, 10 Sep 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Dr. John Schinnerer is an U.C. Berkeley-trained coach with a Ph.D. in educational psychology, who provides executive coaching and organizational consulting with a scientific basis, with previous clients ranging from AskJeeves to Visa, FedEx to Starbucks.

Drawing from the best of his research background, Dr John helps clients to overcome anxiety and anger to move towards happier, more purposeful lives. A nationally-recognized speaker and an award-winning author, Dr John was recently one of three experts to consult with Pixar on the Academy Award-winning movie, Inside Out.

3:12 – Consulting for Pixar’s Inside Out
5:32 – The Man Box
8:55 – Why people would put men in the Man Box
11:41 – Fears around ostracization
17:43 – Women feeling disconnected from their partners and how it leads to divorce
21:33 – Suggestions for wives who feel disconnected from their husbands
25:55 – Helping an angry male partner
30:34 – Men’s connection with their emotions across generations
33:43 – Breaking out of the box of “I can handle this”
37:44 – Dr John and his partner’s upcoming retreat in Costa Rica

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205: The Rob and Ken Show

Tue, 03 Sep 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Ken Blackman is a sex and relationship expert who has worked with hundreds of couples from San Francisco to Paris to Sydney, and trained thousands of students in his workshops on sex, intimacy and connection. With nearly two decades of experience, Ken’s powerful, unapologetic break from conventional relationship advice is shifting the world conversation around love and committed coupledom.

01:03 – Ken’s history
5:17 – The difficulty for women to speak their truth, and for men to hear it
10:21 – Men and the shift of the gender paradigm
12:39 – Men wanting to know the truth, even if it hurts their ego
17:08 – Men’s sensitivity to the emotional charge behind communication
19:12 – Sex in the 21st Century
22:46 – What each gender wants sexually, but has trouble speaking about
26:13 – How to keep long-term monogamy hot

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204: The Truth About Attachment Theory with Dr Cat Meyer

Tue, 27 Aug 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Dr Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT, is evolving the relationship we have with sexuality and our bodies. A published researcher, yoga instructor, reiki practitioner, and licensed couples and sex therapist, Dr Meyer pulls from various fields of knowledge to inform her work helping people to “create a deeply fulfilling, prosperous relational and sexual life” through private practice, workshops, international retreats, and her podcast Eat.Play.Sex.

2:14 – Dr Meyer’s backstory
3:55 – Disconnect between body and mind
8:29 – What is attachment theory?
15:42 – Common misconceptions about attachment theory
19:01 – Compassionate methods of interacting with different types
21:26 – First dimension of Mentalizing: deciphering differences between us and them
23:20 – Second dimension: Internal versus external
26:04 – Third dimension: spontaneity versus monitoring
30:47 – Fourth dimension: cognitive versus affective

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203: Rob Rant: Confronting Your Ghosts

Tue, 20 Aug 2019 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about looking into our past traumas and how we continue to have a connection with them. He outlines his current process behind writing his autobiography, and how he has investigated past relationships and events in order to gain insight into and feel out his own pain from the past.

2:07 – Confronting one’s ghosts
5:01 – Childhood wounds
8:59 – Being in conversation with our parents
10:01 – Planning Rob’s book and investigating old hurts
14:01 – Not pushing our ghosts away
15:07 – Rob’s relationship with his parents and punishment

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202: The Role of Creativity in Your Evolution with Adam Roa

Tue, 13 Aug 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Adam Roa is an inspired speaker, author, coach, and business consultant. Through his video series “The Art of Choosing Love” Adam explores his personal relationship with intimacy and his traumas, and his search for understanding ‘what it means to be a conscious, empowered man’. A prolific artist, Adam uses film, music, and spoken word to explore messages of creativity, love, and transformation.

3:04 – Adam’s transition out of his 10-year relationship to where he is today
6:41 – The rising to consciousness of past trauma
10:51 – Feeling unsafe in being the object of sexual desire
16:28 – The response of people to their partners’ trauma
18:27 – The importance of holding space and validating people when they open up
22:59 – Becoming single for the first time as an adult
29:04 – Having a camera on your life
38:46 – The Grey Zone

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201: Rob Rant: That Annoying New Teacher of Yours

Tue, 06 Aug 2019 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about how the relationships we have with people who annoy us can be used as great tools for addressing parts of ourselves. Rob looks at how this affected his relationship with his father, as well as ways of approaching this means of reflecting on ourselves.

3:58 – Rob’s Father’s Day post
6:29 – Accepting others despite the way we feel treated
11:32 – We have three choices in every situation
13:14 – Viewing annoyance as an opportunity for magic, as opposed to fighting it
15:31 – Outside annoyances as a reflection of what is inside us
18:48 – Exploring an article on dealing with annoying people

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200: Rob Rant: Episode #200!!!!

Tue, 30 Jul 2019 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about the process he’s gone through over the last two hundred episodes of Tuff Love, and the experiences and insights he’s had into privilege, determination, abundance, and success along the way.

1:24 – Gratitude to everyone who participated
4:08 – The setting for the start of Tuff Love
6:31 – Privilege, work ethic, and determination
12:21 – Abundance vs Scarcity
16:11 – The process behind Rob’s relationship with Morgan
19:30 – When to continue, and measuring success
22:22 – Rob’s second book

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199: How Self-Love Will, and Can, Keep You from Love with Arielle Ford

Tue, 23 Jul 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Arielle Ford is the “The Cupid of Consciousness”: a world leader in the self-growth space. Practising and teaching conscious-based approaches to love and life for 30 years, she is a bestselling author, speaker, and relationship expert whose “mission is to help women Find Love, Keep Love and Be Love”. She is the author of eleven books, including her international best seller “The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction”, which has be published in 21 languages and 40 countries, and “Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships”. She can be found regularly presenting workshops around the world, from Europe to Asia, to South America,

2:17 – The beginning of Arielle’s work
5:27 – Modern marriage
9:32 – Understanding our habits with money within a relationship
13:00 – Divorce and Wabi-sabi love
15:09 – Men are easy to understand
16:56 – #MeToo, women’s anger, and men’s behavior
20:00 – Self-Love and common misguidance
21:43 – Advice for women in relationships with men
24:02 – Time out from, and reflecting on, relationships
26:12 – Advice for women seeking relationships
30:45 – A response to “There are no good guys out there”

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www.SoulMatePassion44.com

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198: Playing Safe is Dangerous with David Wood

Tue, 16 Jul 2019 19:00:00 GMT

David Wood is a successful entrepreneur and life coach, former Actuary, and current CEO of Play for Real. He coaches leaders in living a life free of regret, through four pillars: truth, daring, caring, and connection.

5:02 – Playing safe is dangerous
6:30 – Beginning the process of living dangerously through truth
11:39 – The integration of vulnerability by today’s leaders
15:19 – Vulnerability in women in power positions
23:10 – The importance of being daring
26:48 – Mitigating risk through rapport
27:20 – Caring as an important counterpart to daring
31:26 – Connection as a goal
35:18 – The power of disruptive communication

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197: Rob Rant: Inside the Bardo

Tue, 09 Jul 2019 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about his interpretation of the Tibetan Buddhist idea of the Bardo – the space between this and that – as a means of identifying periods of transition in aspects of our lives. Pragmatic help and insights are offered in facing what is normally a very uncomfortable, and scary time for people.

4:21 – The Bardo
7:14 – The lives Rob has led
11:49 – Why is the Bardo so uncomfortable?
15:10 – Pragmatic tips during your time in the Bardo
21:52 – Young parents and the Bardo

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196: Modern Romance with Evan Katz

Fri, 05 Jul 2019 19:28:19 GMT

Evan Marc Katz is a dating coach who specializes in helping smart, strong, successful women understand and connect with men. Through his books, coaching, blog, and newsletter, thousands of satisfied clients have found empowerment in their relationships.

01:39 – Modern dating and its challenges
4:46 – The gamification of dating through apps
9:15 – Taking the good with the bad
14:27 – The difference between what works for you, and what you’re compatible with
18:59 – Attraction versus what is good for you
23:13 – Evan’s “Love U Pyramid”
26:38 – Knowing your bottom lines
27:33 – Communicating desirable behaviors
33:26 – Advice for women, and how men are not infallible

Find Evan at:
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Love U Pyramid of Love:

Love U Pyramid of Love

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195: Six Vulnerable Conversations Series 5 Episode 6

Tue, 25 Jun 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Welcome back for our new season of Six Vulnerable Conversations! This season, we’ll be diving into a series of unscripted, honest, no agenda dialogues between a cisgender man, cisgender women, transgender man, and transgender woman. Talking about sexuality, gender expectations, shifts in family and relationship dynamics, social equality, and so much more. Join us with a curious mind and an open heart, for a series of conversations that invite us to all cultivate deeper intimacy and authenticity with ourselves, with others, and with the world around us.

2:05 – Fear of the unknown
5:28 – Social anxiety
9:02 – Trans visibility
11:24 – Trans people triggering self-confrontation within others
18:47 – The disconnect between trans and cisgender people
20:41 – Confronting our own sexual taboos
22:37 – The male g-spot
24:56 – Breaking stereotypes and the reaction
26:18 – Cis-het men’s reactions to sexual encounters with trans women
27:19 – Religion and homophobia
27:40 – Invalidating trans people
30:54 – Creating space for real conversations
33:24 – Delaying judgement of others

194: Choosing Self-Power with Wayne Pernell

Tue, 18 Jun 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Dr. Wayne Pernell As a Global Executive Coach and Relationship Expert, Dr. Wayne Pernell is known for being insightful, witty, and playful. Bringing more than thirty-five years of experience in helping leaders set new strategic targets, gain clarity and confidence, and attain clear success.
As a #1 International Best-Selling Author, Speaker, Certified High-Performance Coach, and morning television guest, Dr. Wayne Pernell’s work has helped thousands of people across the globe.

Throughout his journey, Dr. Wayne Pernell continues coaching individuals and consulting with organizations, always looking for ways to help them reach their next level of greatness. To receive tips and updates from Dr Wayne Pernell, please find him online at www.Facebook.com/WaynePernell and be sure to see what’s new for you at www.WaynePernell.com.

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193: Six Vulnerable Conversations Series 5 Episode 5

Tue, 11 Jun 2019 19:03:21 GMT

Listen to Series 5: Episode Five of Six Vulnerable Conversations.

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192: Masculinity on the Rocks with Kyle Wright

Tue, 04 Jun 2019 23:46:19 GMT

Kyle Wright is transforming how we talk about masculinity, mental health, and relationships. Bridging the gap between self-help books and a therapist’s couch, he’s one half of the NYC-based sex and love power couple who founded Wright Wellness Center. Kyle co-hosts the Bachelor-themed podcast The Wright Reasons, and check out his popular new podcast Masculinity on the Rocks.

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191: Six Vulnerable Conversations Series 5 Episode 4

Tue, 28 May 2019 19:00:00 GMT

This is Series 5: Episode Four of Six Vulnerable Conversations.

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190: Men’s Depression with Terry Real

Tue, 21 May 2019 19:00:00 GMT

This episode is about men’s depression with Terry Real, the groundbreaking author of “I Don’t Want To Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression”. Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Talk-About-Overcoming/dp/0684835398

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189: Six Vulnerable Conversations Series 5 Episode 3

Tue, 14 May 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Here is the third episode of our 5th Series of 6 Vulnerable Conversations.

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188: Rob Rant: The King Archetype

Tue, 07 May 2019 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob rants about embracing who we were meant to be as men, Kings, and the King Archetype as a model for men to know their value, use their gifts and embrace the responsibility of a ‘kingliness’ in life. Rather than shrinking in the face of our biggest obstacle, ourselves and self doubt, men should urgently avoid wasting the gifts we’ve been given.

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187: Six Vulnerable Conversations Series 5 Episode 2

Tue, 30 Apr 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Here is the second episode of our fifth series of 6 Vulnerable Conversations.

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186: The New Childhood with Jordan Shapiro

Tue, 16 Apr 2019 19:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Jordan Shapiro, author of “The New Childhood” discusses technology and the relationship between kids, technology, and parents. Shapiro discusses the importance of parents and their role in facilitating kids’ behavior. Teaching children technological etiquette should be just as relevant as teaching kids etiquette within the physical world.

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185: Six Vulnerable Conversations Series 5 Episode 1

Tue, 09 Apr 2019 19:00:00 GMT

We kick off the 5th edition of Six Vulnerable Conversations and this time, it’s between three very unique perspectives. We hope you enjoy!

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184: The Man Card with Jim Ramos

Fri, 05 Apr 2019 19:00:00 GMT

We talk with Jim Ramos about The Man Card, Religion, and what it means to be a man today. Jim Ramos’ passionate proclamation of God’s word, relational humor, and epic storytelling skills will keep you riveted in your seat. Jim is a highly sought after men’s event speaker, author, and internationally known podcaster.

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183: Accelerate Learning with Navy SEAL Chris Sajnog

Thu, 04 Apr 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Retired Navy SEAL Chris Sajnog, a Master Training Specialist in the Navy, was hand-selected to write the US Navy SEAL Sniper Manual. He used this experience, plus four years of studying neuroscience and elite performance, to develop the SEAL Training System (Science-based, Education for Accelerated Learning) — a fundamental shift to learning any skill. He’s the author of two bestselling books, How to Shoot Like a Navy SEAL and Navy SEAL Shooting, and the owner of Center Mass Group, LLC a 100% Service-Disabled Veteran-Owned Small Business in San Diego, CA. Chief Sajnog, now offers his unique training online at https://chrissajnog.com.

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182: Rob Rant: Reverting Back to My Little Boy

Tue, 02 Apr 2019 19:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Rob tells a story where he caught himself being triggered by a childhood experience. It’s a powerful discussion of how important self-awareness and healing from our trauma is to moving forward toward becoming a better person.

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181: Recovering from Perfectionism with Brandee Lynn

Thu, 21 Mar 2019 19:00:00 GMT

Brandee Lynn is the co-creator of Rythmia Life Advancement Center in Costa Rica, a leading retreat center which infuses ancient and modern wisdom, plant medicine, and breakthrough technologies for healing and awakening to one’s highest potential. Brandee also founded Majesty, a modern-day mystery school for women, that facilitates retreats at sacred sites around the world.

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180: Patriarchy In Business: A One-On-One Interview by Peter Rubin

Fri, 15 Mar 2019 10:00:00 GMT

Patriarchy is practiced in this society as men hold primary power, and it has been around for 3500 to 4000 BCE. However, men cannot ignore the shift of women rising into a position of sovereignty. Do you believe that behind every successful man is a woman? How does a feminine point of view help to solve a problem? Rob shares his insights on the expectations and pressure that men face in business in this interview by his former student and colleague, Peter Rubin of Manbiz.men. He also touches on his book, unHIDDEN, the #MeToo movement, what makes a man successful, the compulsive production mindset, and what it means to be conscious in business.

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179: Sex, Consciousness and Plant-Medicine with Gerard Powell

Tue, 12 Mar 2019 10:00:00 GMT

We all go through life having grown out of our ways and discover some things that show us what we have really been missing. Gerard Powell knows this journey all too well. From having a troubled childhood and being a high school dropout to building multimillion-dollar businesses, selling them and ending up miserable and suicidal, Gerard has gone through a very interesting journey and came out of it healed and better than ever. Owing it to plant-medicine, his discovery led him to having an amazing and balanced life. Now, he is the author of Sh*t the Moon Said the director and creator of Rythmia, a plant medicine-centric retreat center. Gerard tells us of his journey and gives his thoughts on the divine feminine, shamans, and more.

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178: Recovering from Perfectionism with Abigail Gadza

Wed, 27 Feb 2019 10:00:00 GMT

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177: No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover

Fri, 08 Feb 2019 10:00:00 GMT

No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover

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176: Angry at the Gillette Ad? Good!

Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:00:00 GMT

Angry at the Gillette Ad? Good!

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175: How to Peel Back the Layers of the ‘Should’s with Kelsey Abbott

Wed, 16 Jan 2019 10:00:00 GMT

Many of us are still attached to the labels and people’s old perception of us even if there’s something else that we want or we can be. We tend to cover ourselves with what society tells us to do. This can be due to the fear of the consequence. Taking off the layers of the “shoulds,” Kelsey Abbott enlightens us how to be grounded in our truth. Kelsey is a confidence coach, instigator of joy, writer, speaker and host of the Find Your Awesome podcast. She helps people clear through those “shoulds” so they can find their unique spark and what they’re meant to serve the world with.

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174: Our Inability to Receive

Tue, 08 Jan 2019 10:00:00 GMT

We have so many stories about why we’re not worthy and why we’re not lovable, how no woman or man could keep up with us, how they would not want to be with us if we showed them all of us. We put on this girdle, this protection and armor because we don’t think we’re deserving to receive. Sometimes we even think that not receiving and not taking in is noble. You have to realize how utterly and deeply selfish these thoughts are. When we minimize how much we can receive, we’re awful to the people who want to give to us. On this episode, Robert rants on our inability to receive.

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173: Money Magic with Michelle Masters

Wed, 26 Dec 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Not many realize this but our relationship with money stems far deeper than the want for physical things it can afford us. It runs from how we grew up, to how we perceive our worth. Michelle Masters, NLP Trainer and Master Practitioner, traces our relationship with money with how our brains work beginning from the things we pick up from our childhood. She gets down into the concepts of NLP and Money Magic, giving us some history lessons and the basics of change work. She also distinguishes between the creature brain and the human brain, suggesting some thing to input new software that keeps us from repeating childhood behaviors. Finally, Michelle shows the three chair exercise that will have you rethink your relationship with money through your relationship with your parents.

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172: unHIDDEN Book Reading Chapter 16

Fri, 21 Dec 2018 10:00:00 GMT

As the world changes, so is the dynamic of how we create relationships. When it comes to the relationship between men and women, what worked for men before do not anymore work today. Women do not need men the way the society thinks they did. They are now more in charge of their choices and confidently seeking beyond what the world expects of them. Exploring into this changing relationship is Rob Kandell who gives a book reading of his book, unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them. Tackling Chapter 16, “How to Relate to Women?”, he gives men some pointers to men who wants to interact with the modern woman. He offers viewpoints on how to end the antagonistic war that men are currently fighting with women. Rob digs deep into where presence comes into play as well as confidence, vulnerability, desire, humor, and curiosity.

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171: Align Your Body with Aaron Alexander

Thu, 06 Dec 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Every moment is an opportunity to cultivate your mind, body, and movement. That is Aaron Alexander’s tagline for Align Therapy because he believes it would be insane for that not to be the way that you live your life. Aaron is an accomplished manual therapist and movement coach with over thirteen years of professional experience. He founded Align Therapy, an integrated approach to functional movement and self-care, with a mission to inspire millions of driven individuals to confidently re-inhabit their bodies to be strong, flexible and pain-free by moving functionally during every daily task. Aaron shares some interesting ideas and concepts on how to align your body and improve your health with really simple little tips.

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170: unHidden Conversations with Miriam, Kelsey, and Daniel

Fri, 30 Nov 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Rob takes three of his favorite unHidden Conversations from powerful and energetic Facebook Lives that he did to celebrate his book launch. Sensual embodiment coach Miriam Elyse talks about pleasure and the unconscious ways that we avoid it. Confidence coach Kelsey Abbott explores the concept of abundance and confidence. Kelsey helps people find their awesome. Business coach and author Daniel Fox gets into the subject of the masculine-feminine transition. Daniel helps people turn their passions into thriving and fulfilling careers.

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169: unHidden Conversations: 3 unHIDDEN Conversations with Gina, Mary Lou & Tory

Tue, 27 Nov 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Get inspired by three women as they share unHidden Conversations. Coach and speaker Gina Hatzis speaks about her viral video on what it means to be too much woman. She explores how women, too often, are told to be small in this world -pushing down the common narrative that we are not enough. Mary Lou Sandler of 3 Cubed Studios talks about the concept of self-care after trauma. Coming from personal experience, she shares the six years of diving deep into past trauma and healing from sexual, emotional, and physical abuse. Coach Tory Dube finishes it off by talking about dating someone based on their potential. She explores relationships and how you can move towards a relationship that does not make the other feel small.

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168: Worth It: Your Life, Your Money, Your Terms with Amanda Steinberg

Tue, 13 Nov 2018 10:00:00 GMT

We constantly hear the traditional narrative about money: you grow up, get married, combine your finances, then save for retirement. However, what people fail to say is that it doesn’t always work in a linear fashion. Financial expert, entrepreneur and human rights activist, Amanda Steinberg knows this to be true. That is why she dishes out on the confusion that usually happens about how money gets tangled in all these awkward things that no one really talks about: love and sex. She talks about the concept of the impact of money and finances have on these aspects and how not paying attention to them can affect relationships. Laying down the five motivation types of people around money, she gives advice on how to handle relationships when people have different money perceptions. She also coaches you to get over humps caused by finances to get to more intimacy while sharing what you need to know about savings.

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167: The Good Dad Project: The Dad’s Edge with Larry Hagner

Tue, 06 Nov 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Probably 99.99% of us have a little father wound, a little issue with our own a father that’s impacted us. Larry Hagner is doing one of the most important pieces of work out there, teaching men to be better men and to become better fathers. Larry is the founder of the Good Dad Project and host of The Dad Edge Podcast which is the number one dad podcast on Apple Podcasts. Larry breaks down strategies for men to be the best version of themselves and helps men navigate life through helping men build a band of brothers. He also shares his viewpoints of what it means to be a good father and the lessons he teaches his four sons.

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166: Forgiveness Among The Genders

Wed, 31 Oct 2018 10:00:00 GMT

The world is a form of transition. We live in a time of evolution and a time where things are changing dramatically and in so many different fashions. We’ve seen a significant change in the last 50 or 60 years. We’re seeing all this anger, divisiveness, and mistrust between the genders. How do we get back into the direction of equality, connection, and intimacy? How do you ask other people in your life to support you and be engaged with you in these challenging times? How do you interact with people of other genders? Even though the overall trend is heading in the wrong direction, it doesn’t mean that at the micro level, we cannot create more cohesion and more space for people to support each other. Go against the grain and reach out to your person regardless of what gender they are. Navigate around this concept of forgiveness among the genders as Rob takes on the issue with a coachee.

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165: Getting To Hell Yes with Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower

Tue, 23 Oct 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Getting to Hell Yes will teach you a simple, guided methodology that allows groups to increase empathy and trust. It can be used in sales, when launching a team, or at any point during the project where some refocus is needed. Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower believe passionately that the world needs more people who know how to build aligned and empathic relationships — in businesses, communities, and families — through powerful, clear conversations. They have created this tool as a catalyst for positive change in your organization and your life.

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164: Exquisite Consent with the Brotherhood Community

Tue, 16 Oct 2018 10:00:00 GMT

While a lot of men are freaking out about the #MeToo movement, some of us are finding that embracing ever more exquisite levels of consent and attunement with women is the path to everybody getting more of what they want. Robert Schwenkler, Peter Rubin, and Joshua Hathaway from the Brotherhood Community explore the challenges and paradoxes of consent and boundaries in the context of smoking hot sex and ravishing domination play.

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163: Your Erotic Blueprint with Jaiya Ma

Wed, 10 Oct 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Sexuality changes. It’s not something that stays the same our whole lifetime. It is malleable, it moves, and it changes as life experience, hormones, menopause, and having children happens. Sex educator Jaiya Ma was experiencing a downturn on her sex life when she started learning the Erotic Blueprint or the erotic language that shows what turns your partner on or what they want, and vice versa. Jaiya talks about her relationship to sexuality, her pitfalls, her challenges, and the concept of her Erotic Blueprint, which has been a powerful force in her own sex life and thousands of other people.

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161: Physical and Emotional Health First with Lisa Carpenter

Thu, 04 Oct 2018 10:00:00 GMT

People put themselves in stressful positions. We’re overachievers and workaholics, and with all these things that we do we’re not even sure why. We so often neglect to take care of ourselves. Lisa Carpenter is an advocate for health fitness and is helping people put their physical and emotional health first. Lisa is the secret weapon for driven, ambitious, achievers who want to live, lead, and perform at their highest level. She helps her clients free themselves from judgment, move through their bullshit, and shift their perspectives so they can feel more peace, ease, joy, success and fulfillment. With nearly twenty years of coaching experience and an extensive background in nutrition and fitness, Lisa talks about a unique combination of coaching that helps clients claim a relationship in their lives, businesses, or bodies that is free of stress, struggle and frustration.

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159: Stepping Into The Spotlight

Thu, 27 Sep 2018 10:00:00 GMT

I am an excellent man behind the scenes and I’m excellent at make others shine. However, I’ve had an itch to do this for myself my entire life but have never been able to. I’ve refused to step fully into the spotlight. In here, I reveal why. Go together in this journey of self-discovery and be inspired to move from being a person behind the scenes into a person in front of the curtain.

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158: Six Conversations 4.4 – Forget What You Know About Masculine/Feminine Polarity with Eva Clay and Tobin Zovin

Fri, 21 Sep 2018 10:00:00 GMT

What do you feel our current social and political climate around sexual assault is inviting you to do? What is it asking of you? Whether or not you’re acknowledging that or taking action on it yet, hear, feel, and know what’s percolating in your body and in your consciousness as Eva Clay and Tobin Zovin turn the concept of “polarity” on its head. You might be surprised, provoked, and even a little pissed off as we explore the oftentimes taboo, controversial, and all important art of dancing with inner masculine and feminine roles.

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157: Maintaining Connections with Bryan Reeves

Tue, 18 Sep 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Men and women have different needs and ways of maintaining connection. The former tends to struggle most with it. Delving deeper into that is life and relationship coach Bryan Reeves. Bryan talks about the reasons behind why men can’t seem to get deeper with other men about their feelings and likewise in their relationships. Going to the evolution process in a relationship, he discusses the impact of economic change to what men and women want. He then presents the five challenges for men and intimacy and how to overcome them, covering the importance of conversation and understanding in pleasing your partner.

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156: Women, Rage, And The Sexual Shadow with Eva Clay And Tobin Zivon

Fri, 14 Sep 2018 10:00:00 GMT

For millennia, women have been conditioned to suppress their anger, borne of well-founded consequences such as violence, exile, and even death. Most women carry not only a lifetime of our own rage, but the ancestral traumas of our foremothers. and yet, anger is a natural, healthy part of relating. When we suppress it, anger gets relegated to the “shadow” and wreaks havoc in our sexuality. Eva and Tobin share specific skills on how to bring it to the light for healing.

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155: Q & A: Relationships, Triggers, And Narcissists

Tue, 11 Sep 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Rob bares it all out as he takes your questions—about love, relationships, and all other concerns—and answers it with honesty and sincerity. Explore the difficulties of developing a crush on another person during marriage; learn how to share your own shadows with your partner; find the generosity to your partner when facing big fundamental triggers in your relationship; know how to deal with narcissists and sociopaths; and address differences in money maturity in romantic relationships. At the heart of all of this Q & A, you’ll find the value of keeping authenticity not only in your relationship but yourself as well.

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154: Sexual Taboo: Tapping Into Your Authentic Self

Fri, 07 Sep 2018 10:00:00 GMT

We all have them—sexual taboos. And usually, they’re our biggest turn-ons. Why is “The Forbidden” so erotic? Taboo rules most religions; it’s launched wars, divorces, and probably some of the best sex you’ve ever had. Acclaimed sexologist, Eva Clay and, spiritual teacher and therapist, Tobin Zivon unravel the allure and share their perspectives on how to playfully (and skillfully) incorporate taboo into a relationship so you keep the turn-on, but skip the damage. Learn as we explore how to turn the parts of ourselves that we’re afraid of and nervous about into power.

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153: Conflict And Mess with Nastaran Tavakoli-Far

Tue, 04 Sep 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Nas is the host of the highly successful and amazing podcast, The Gender Knot. Our first meeting was when we recorded my guest appearance on the show about men and shame. There are many ways that I can describe my experience of this first meeting and the best way I can describe it is this week’s title, “Conflict and Mess.” We hit a communication gap within the first five minutes on the conversation and it got rockier and rockier from there. Then, about minute 40, we started to reconnect, and as the 90 minute interview completed, I had met a new friend. What do you do with conflict and mess? For Nas and I, we LOVE it because it allows us to practice our presence in the face of it. Come read as we wax the poetic around this concept.

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152: I Brag

Tue, 28 Aug 2018 10:00:00 GMT

What do you do when life is so good that you don’t know what to do with it? How does one confront when things are going your way? How do you stay sane when all you’ve known is stress and pain to motivate you? It’s no easy feat. Listen to your own internal voice. Say yes to what you desire. Start to work towards it and start to receive it because that’s the way that we can all up-level ourselves, our family, and our relationships. Rob digs into the richness of his life and how he stays sane when life is so good.

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151: The Bold Life with Adam Gilad

Tue, 14 Aug 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Boldness is the courage to get free and be free. That means internally getting free from your ego and from anything that keeps you smaller. Adam Gilad has excavated boldness in conversation, presentation and lifestyle choices. He’s been a dating, relationship, lifestyle, and business coach and teacher for fourteen years. He says you’ve got to be bold. You’ve got to pivot, pay attention, and constantly learn because the whole business has utterly changed. The pace of learning in life requires boldness. That means boldly facing down your habits, mindset, what’s keeping you small, and boldly acting on your will as long as you’re not hurting people. As a prolific author, speaker, screenwriter, film producer, mentor and coach, Adam has a huge heart, wisdom, and passion about leading people into living the bold life. He talks about his experience, his vulnerable upbringing in his past, and how he’s gone from a man who felt closed down after an epic change around the year 2002.

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150: You’re a Free Woman

Tue, 07 Aug 2018 10:00:00 GMT

When I first started dating Morgan, I said to her a simple phrase, “You’re a free woman.” I explained that when it came to our dating or engaging in physical intimacy with other people, she didn’t need to ask me permission, owe me an explanation, or even have to tell me ahead of time. She was free to do what she pleased. This brought some interesting responses from my bride-to-be. She was new to the non-monogamous world and this openness had her believe that I cared less. She didn’t understand that it was actually about creating a space for her to make her own decisions to be free. In this week’s podcast, we’ll be talking about concepts from Ester Perel’s Mating in Captivity on how to create safe spaces for you to express your desires. Her book tackles the subject of how we get into partnership and then set exquisite deep rules of how we want to be owned and own.

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149: Six Conversations 4.1: How We Hide Behind Our Superpowers with Tobin Zivon and Eva Clay

Fri, 03 Aug 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Sometimes a whole pattern or strategy in life can be set into motion in one moment. Growing up a raging introvert, acclaimed sexologist Eva Clay was always nervous during family gatherings and would sit during the whole gathering with this book open pretending to read it. It gave her incredible comfort and set into motion a way that she hid which is behind intellect. Eva reveals that when she gets anxious or feels unsure or disconnected in any way, she often reverts to knowledge and what she knows. For spiritual teacher, therapist and tantra master Tobin Zivon, it’s this up and out thing where he blows up and out and he’s in a realm of either excitement or expounding articulation amazement. Tobin says where you’re usually good at something is where you hide. Your superpower is your shield. Learn how you can truly connect with yourself and being truly in your body to show up in life and run it optimally as Eva and Tobin take a closer look at how we hide from the world and the reasons behind it.

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148: The Motivations For Overcoming Adversity with Luke Storey

Tue, 31 Jul 2018 10:00:00 GMT

All of us have great dreams and great things we want to do. We may implement great practices in order to achieve them, but how do we motivate ourselves mentally to do that? Luke Storey is an amazing human being. After kicking heroin, alcohol and crack at 26 years old, he went on to become a celebrity stylist for stars such as Aerosmith, Ozzy Osborne, Kanye West and Kim Kardashian. Leveraging his immense skills, he started the world’s independent fashion school in 2008 and has recently celebrated nine years in business. He also is the host of the very popular podcast, The Life Stylist Podcast, with over 1.5 million downloads since its inception in 2016. Luke shares his motivations for overcoming adversity and discusses a wide array of his metaphysical knowledge such as finding God without religion, the law of attraction, and overcoming self-doubt. He also touches on his physical practices such as infrared saunas, cryotherapy, float tanks, and more on how to level up your life.

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147: The Wisdom Of The Warrior Sage with Satyen Raja

Fri, 20 Jul 2018 10:00:00 GMT

The warrior aspect within us is the one that’s willing to feel and walk on the path where there are inconveniences in our life, where we have a contracture, where we hold back from magnifying our full destiny. For Satyen Raja, the warrior is the one that moves forward, in spite of fear, in the face of whatever things that might hold us back. The sage within us is that aspect which is related to inner wisdom, inner humility, inner freedom that’s always rested in a type of humor. Satyen says that type of realization that there is nothing to really get is all here now. That beautiful yin and yang of the warrior sage has been the archetypal energetic that he likes to hold in his own self and like to share with others. Satyen talks about his organization called Warrior Sage, intimacy, relationships, men’s work, Me Too, and the state of men and women in the future.

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146: Social Confidence with Myke Macapinlac

Tue, 17 Jul 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Women these days are starting to look for something else. Being a provider as a man, to succeed these days, at least from a dating perspective, isn’t enough. You have to have social confidence. You have to become the person who brings the whole package, someone excited about his life, someone who’s got his own friends and his own thing going on. You have to be in shape and you have to understand women, too. The traditional role that men have been led to believe from back in the day doesn’t apply anymore. Men have to evolve if they want to date the evolved women. Myke Macapinlac’s job is to lay out a specific plan that’s easy to implement to help men become a person of value, a people magnet, and someone worth getting to know, not just to attract partners but to make friends and even to have leadership positions at their workplace. Myke is the program director at Social Confidence Mastery. He lays down some serious knowledge about how to find yourself, how to work past your own fear, how to look at your own anxiety, and how to interact, succeed and connect with women in today’s world.

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145: The Three Paths at the Cross Road

Tue, 10 Jul 2018 10:00:00 GMT

You could be subconsciously unaware or undeliberately playing small in your little straight jacket to ensure that there will be no disruption between yourself and the person you’re in a relationship with. Sometimes, you’re taking steps to minimize yourself to protect myself from the fear of being abandoned or the chasm that may be created if you kept getting bigger and bigger. Rob talks about the experience he had with Morgan about the three options he saw in his life of how to be in relationship with her and the places where he was keeping himself small, the concept behind that, and how that can apply to other people. He calls is the three paths at a crossroad, which are that (A) he could be a huge success, a distant husband, make lots of money, or (B) he could keep myself small and safe, or (C) they could create the exact world they wanted. Rob talks further about his research into what it means to be big.

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144: Why Women Want Bad Boys with Esmee A St. James

Tue, 03 Jul 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Esmee A St. James is the Dating Muse helping singles find each other in this challenging world of romance. She first found this calling as a professional model and photographer where she felt her fascination around the attraction between the sexes. She is releasing her book, “Chick Magnet: What Men don’t know what women wish they did” on June 28th. We’ll be discussing why women like ‘Bad Boys’. Esmee writes ““I don’t understand why the first date is always the last. Why don’t women want a nice guy like me?!” asked Mark, a successful divorced dad. That’s a question I hear far too often from single men. Guess what the single women I meet tell me … “I just want to date a nice guy for once. Could someone please tell me where they’re all hiding?” Yup, that’s the flip side of the coin there’s a reason why women often fall for the Bad Boys, and a reason why many men fall into the Friend Zone.”

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143: When It’s Time To Hire

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 10:00:00 GMT

A viewpoint in business says hire slowly, fire quickly. The concept of that is take your time for strategic hires into your business. Take your time to figure out the right fit and the right thing fit into the culture. The fine line between the power of working alone and the time to hire, you may be facing this challenge right now with your own business as your schedule gets fuller and fuller and the time tighter. You may be thinking how you’re limiting your business’ growth by your management of it. The questions is not really should you hire or should you not hire; it’s when it’s time to hire. It’s time to bring someone on to help and produce. However, just because you hire someone doesn’t guarantee that your life will be easier. In fact, sometimes it can get much harder, especially in the short term as they onboard and learn how to work with you. Rob discusses his long history of hiring, firing and all the things in-between.

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142: When Self-Help Isn’t Helping with Samantha Skelly

Tue, 19 Jun 2018 10:00:00 GMT

I had a blast doing Samantha Skelly’s show Hungry for Happiness. It was one of those interviews where we started ending each other’s sentences. We’ll be talking about the vicious cycle of self-care and love in today’s world. Sam writes, “The idea that happiness, wholeness, and joy is conditional upon getting ‘there’ goes against the very truth of the matter. It keeps us stuck in a constant rat race, always hustling for our worth and hoping that every milestone we achieve will bring us closer to the elusive happiness, wholeness, and joy. We are constantly distancing ourselves from our truth. We are in constant denial of the light, love, and power that is innately within each of us. We throw thousands of dollars and hours of our time at every self-help method or tool under the sun, hoping they will help us get ‘there.’ We have a destination addiction, and when we fail to get ‘there,’ we shame ourselves before throwing away even more money. Like the weight loss industry, the personal development industry markets to our insecurities and perpetuates our own self-perceived inadequacies so that we will continue to consume their products. It’s time for people to realize that they are already whole, enough, and ‘there.’ They need to know that their flaws are catalysts to deeper self-discovery and transformation. We are not problems that need to be fixed. We are already perfect and already ‘there.’ And here is perfect.”

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141: Time to be an Adult: Time to be a Kid

Tue, 12 Jun 2018 10:00:00 GMT

In the news this week, a 30-year old man moves out of his parent’s house after they took him to court. He had lived there for eight years with no signs of ever leaving. He said that there were never any expectations of him to pay rent, contribute to the household, or even clean. A report came out in December 2016 saying there are more millennials living with parents, relatives, grandparents, or step parents now than living on their own. There’s upwards of 40% of young adults living at home. It’s time for men to grow up. On the flip side, there are people like me who have thought they were adult since I was fourteen years old. I say this not to brag because I feel the intensity of not being able to slow down, be kind to myself, and enjoy the simpler things in life. Things just tend to be serious with me all the time. When is it time to be an adult and time to be a kid? In this show, we discuss both sides of the equation.

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139: From Desire to Creation – The Million Dollar Collar

Tue, 05 Jun 2018 10:00:00 GMT

After Rob Kessler’s wedding, he looked at the day’s photograph and was unhappy with how he looked. He described himself “looking like a beach bum”. Inspired, he started to look on the internet for the ideal shirt to no avail. Most people at this point would have given up. Instead, Rob created the “Million Dollar Collar” and has over 150,000 sales after two years. He is now known as the No Tie Guy after inventing the most dramatic enhancement to collared dress shirts in the last 70 years. His mission is to give men an alternative to the unbuttoned, sloppy dress shirt look. Rob combined his experience as a businessman and knowledge of the clothing manufacturing process to help make men more comfortable and stylish with a staple clothing item. Listen to his story about how he came up with the product and the success of being an entrepreneur.

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137: A New Framework For Your Evolution

Tue, 29 May 2018 10:00:00 GMT

In last week’s show, we discussed the hero’s journey as discussed and described by Joseph Campbell. In this week’s show, Robert will discuss his framework for your evolution (i.e. growth, expression, expansion, or just finishing a damn project). He will walking the listeners through his frame work and how it can add value to your life.

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135: Your Hero’s Journey

Tue, 22 May 2018 10:00:00 GMT

When we hear the phrase, “call to adventure” – we think of Alice falling down the rabbit hole, of Odysseus embarking on a ship, of Luke Skywalker receiving Princess Leia’s call for help in Star Wars Episode IV: A New Hope. They all had the nerve to follow the white rabbit, and just fall down the rabbit hole of endless possibilities. Joseph Campbell talked about the Mono-Myth concept in his epic book “The Hero with a Thousand Faces”, describing that every single major story or myth follows a very similar timeline. The book stands as a powerful guide for YOU if you ever feel lost inside your own odyssey of life. You might have some expertise in an item, you might be a great stockbroker or you might be a good soldier. There’s just a level where you’re living at your status quo and things are good or things are kind of bad but not horrible. It’s just sort of that middle status quo. Then you have the call to adventure. You have the opportunity to take the next step into your life. Time to become the hero in your own story!

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131: The Power of Being Selfish

Tue, 08 May 2018 10:00:00 GMT

What if we lived in a society where our desires are welcome, approved of and right, even if it conflicted with someone else’s? Are you shutting down your own desires in order to fit in, in order to please your partner, and in order to be a good person? In today’s world of desire and pleasure, there exists the power of being selfish which is being highlighted in nonprofit organizations like The Welcomed Consensus, Feed the Need, One Taste, and Fill Up America. Selfishness has a bad rap, but one can actually redefine selfishness through sensuality training like Taking Touch where you will learn how to please your partner by pleasing yourself first. Take a listen as we talk about basic human conditioning, how to touch your desire, and what’s underneath most of our actions.

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129: Brains Over Blonde with Anna Wood

Tue, 01 May 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Many women struggle with losing themselves in relationships. When they’re single, they can feel clear and connected to their sense of self and direction, yet when in a relationship, they lose connection to their own desires and collapse into the reality of the person they are with. Anna Wood, founder and CEO of Brains Over Blonde, says being raised watching Disney movies, women are conditioned to believe that in order to find love, on some level, they need to be saved. Brains Over Blonde is a feminist lifestyle platform for women who refuse to choose between femininity and success. Discover how women create empowered relationship dynamics where they are able to show up in their power, boundaries, and desires, and how they craft relationships on their own terms and not simply play into the role that Walt Disney and modern culture has crafted for them.

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128: Ending The Patriarchy

Tue, 24 Apr 2018 10:00:00 GMT

What is patriarchy? Wikipedia says patriarchy is a social system in which males hold primary power and pre-dominate in roles of political leadership, moral, authority, social privilege, and control of property. The word patriarchy is attributed to a guy named Sir Robert Filmer. Research shows that we started off as an egalitarian society. There was equality and there was not a huge difference in the genders. It was the rise of agriculture and domestication when patriarchy started to hold its roots. Patriarchy has been co-created by all the genders. So how do we end the patriarchy? Ending the patriarchy is going to take both parties being willing to listen, for the feminine to show up with the emotional and energetic feeling of it and the masculine to listen to the feminine, and to come together to create a solution that feels good to both them.

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127: Getting off the Merry Go Round of Stress with Randy Spelling

Tue, 17 Apr 2018 10:00:00 GMT

At some point in our lives, we’ve all felt like we were being dragged around by life and on a merry-go-round of stress instead of being in the driver seat. Randy Spelling knows that feeling all too well. Coming from a very prominent Hollywood family, Randy lived a life full of glitz, glamour, and wealth. You would think it’s perfect and he had it all together, but like most people, he struggled with a low self-esteem and trying to figure out his purpose in life. Randy talks about his journey from being clueless to freedom strategist. He digs deep into the concept of over-consumption and habits of people’s daily lives that cause them to be dragged around not knowing what to do about it. Learn how to connect with yourself and stop being dragged around by your life, take the reins to be more present, have a deeper connection with their true self, and get more fulfillment out of life.

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126: Six Conversations 2.6 – Embodiment, Transmission & Mastering Your Reality

Fri, 13 Apr 2018 10:00:00 GMT

On the Kinsey Scale, there’s the hetero, gay, and something in the middle called bi-curious. The Kinsey Scale is used in research to describe a person’s sexual orientation based on their experience or response at a given time. Jeff Jacobson, a coach, educator, and author, happily identifies himself as gay. He tackles issues such as societal chasms that exist between the two sexual orientations and the subtle misconceptions on being straight and being gay as he lays down the raw basics of the differences of views.

Welcome to Season Three of Six Vulnerable Conversations. This version is Six Vulnerable Conversations Between a Gay Man and a Straight Man. Saying that title just add some sensation in my body. I am very happy to admit that. I’m very happy to have my good friend and colleague, Jeff Jacobson, come onto the show for the first of this show and it’s called a Be Straight, Be Gay. Just the aspects of what it means to be these types of social orientation. My history, Jeff’s history, and we get right down to the beginning, to some real deep, intimate conversations about the chargey topic of gay and straight. In our society, really gay versus straight, that’s what I was going to say. Really it is this antagonistic between the two and three and many multiple types of orientation.

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125: What the Hell is ‘Great Sex’ Anyway? with Ken Blackman

Tue, 03 Apr 2018 10:00:00 GMT

There are many men in the world who seem to be succeeding at everything, except when it has something to do with women. Ken Blackman was once one of those men until he figured out that he needed to shut off that part of his brain that is asking for instructions and instead just let intuition take over. He has been teaching couples for 18 years on how to get to this channel of intuition, so they can get into a deeper level of intimacy and communicate each other’s emotions and energies. Ken defines great sex is one that gets better continuously and the ideal place to get this great sex life is through committed relationships.

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123: Isolation In The Modern Age

Tue, 27 Mar 2018 10:00:00 GMT

The concept and effects of isolation in the modern age as an adult has become one of the most important issues that is being dealt with today. It has been found that isolation has become a huge problem and has been described as a deadly epidemic in the US, especially for middle aged men. Learn more about the issues surrounding isolation and loneliness and how to combat it to avoid the chances of illness, death, broken relationships, and other pitfalls. Equip yourself with the knowledge on how to face the challenge and deal with it.

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121: The Achievement Trap: We Don’t Have To Do What We Think We Ought To with Brandilyn Tebo

Tue, 20 Mar 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Too often we find ourselves in the achievement trap, which is following what we think we’re supposed to achieve. We’ve been programmed to go after certain dreams and live in certain ways to truly be successful. We’re always trying to please, and look perfect and be perfect for everybody else. In the book, The Achievement Trap, Brandilyn Tebo talks about how to undo those beliefs and live your true, authentic commitments rather than in accordance to what is pleasing and satisfying to others.

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119: The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to Love In This Day And Age with Robert Manni

Tue, 13 Mar 2018 10:00:00 GMT

What does it take to be a man? With how contemporary culture has evolved, Robert Manni explores the idea of authenticity in present-day society where it has become confusing to be a man in today’s world. He delves into what it means to come out and be real with your partner, and stresses how important it is for men to start looking inside to realize who they are and what they can contribute so they can be comfortable with their own skin. In his novel, The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to Love, he illustrates the dynamics between flawed men and savvy women as they compete for love, sex, power, and money in the city where they play for keeps.

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117: Rise of the Awakened Masculine with Kevin Oroszlan

Tue, 06 Mar 2018 10:00:00 GMT

The culture that we have right now has made deep connections between masculinity and patriarchy. But cultures change with time so men need to see themselves in the man’s world. Kevin Oroszlan describes the rise of the awakened masculine as a journey of a man in man’s world, realizing that the myth of the masculine is dying. And when a myth dies, it means that life breathes anew in this awakening. Kevin shares that spiritual practice, like meditation, not only leads to peace and focus but also presence and attention.

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115: Control Toxic Masculinity To Control Violence

Tue, 27 Feb 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Guns in video games have been around since the 80’s. Has this fueled the idea in young men that taking the life of someone at the pull of the trigger is all okay granted they have their reasons? Perhaps, but it all boils down still to the mental health of today’s gamers. Gun violence happens mainly because of toxic masculinity which happens when men aren’t taught how to deal with their emotions. We can all talk about how we can stop people from getting guns or how we can control them, but the focus must still be in teaching men that they a have a space where they can understand and properly deal with their emotions.

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113: Relationship With Sexuality: One Man’s Confession

Wed, 21 Feb 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Men are just programmed to hide the things they think will make them look weak and vulnerable to the rest of the world. Things like being present with his emotions, accepting his feminine energy and a conscious relationship with sexuality. Remember what it was like to lose your virginity and how you felt the lack of knowledge about sex? Remember that time when you finally felt like you were the man who knows everything there is to know about being in bed with a woman, but you still felt there was this disconnection? You try to find yourself, and you eventually do. But then you finally meet the girl that will make you feel what love truly is. And then your relationship with your sexuality turns a new page where the connection and the love is there. One man shares his journey and relationship with his sexuality.

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111: The Way we show up for Sex with Jamie Thompson

Tue, 13 Feb 2018 10:00:00 GMT

The way we show up for anything is the way we show up for everything. Which is why showing up for sex is as important as showing up in the boardroom because it reflects character, personality and attitude. Intimate communication expert Jamie Thompson teaches her clients the Wheel of Desire where there is the light and the shadow of the mind and the body. The shadows of the mind is where the fantasies reside, whether you’re a man or a woman. Your primal desires lives in the shadow of the body. Jamie explains in full with her own experiences and distinguishes the differences between man and woman.

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109: Resolving to Drop your Sh*t

Tue, 06 Feb 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Holding onto to anger or grudge is one way of engaging with people. This seems twisted, but this is the truth because holding grudges bring some kind of value for angry people. It’s time to drop your shit because grudge is a form of pain, and this kind has a physiological and psychological effect on a person. Not only does this grudge hurt the person you hold it against with, but it will also hurt you when you never stop being angry. You just end up breaking your own heart. People often wear their broken hearts like a badge of honor. But the thing is, you can always choose to not always be angry. Learn why anger is as powerful an emotion as love and how we can let go of it to reframe ourselves and be better.

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107: The Art of Verbal Self-Defense with Kasia Urbaniak

Tue, 30 Jan 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Emotions govern judgement, which is why there a need for us to understand and use them as fuel for our passion. But the passion of a man is different from a woman. In a patriarchal society, women don’t have a voice and their passion burn out to the point that they just freeze. Kasia Urbaniak teaches women the Art of Verbal Self-Defense, a tool to use to get back their voices when their systems freeze . This is also a way to flip the power dynamic by asking questions about the question. Learn how safety can be built through experience and play back with society in a sassy and classy way.

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105: Powerful Lessons Confronting Addiction

Tue, 23 Jan 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Sometimes the seeds of addiction are buried so deep we aren’t even aware of them. Sometimes it takes a friend or an intervention to shine a light for us. But when we start to face this controlling force, we begin to take back our control and our lives.This negative connotation about addiction has never left our society fully, but there are programs and organizations that help in confronting addiction as an integral part of the recovery process. Al-anon and SLAA is just two of these organizations and programs that help addicts confront the shame of their situation. Willing addiction away is not possible, but handling this broken piece of yourself will make you run your life the way you want. This week’s show is going to be intense. It’s about this force in our lives that we don’t even want to confront. Come listen as I tell stories of what I’ve learned from my addictions.

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104: Your Brave and Beautiful Book with Kelly Notaras

Tue, 16 Jan 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Kelly Notaras came recommended. Recently transplanted to Boulder from NYC after a run of successful corporate jobs in the publishing industry, she was the perfect fit to work with us to help my business partner Nicole’s first book, Slow Sex. She came recommended because Kelly was more than an editor – she was a seeker, a meditator, and had incredible acumen on how to take ideas and transform them into a book. I’ve enjoyed a 7 year relationship with her where she’s shown up above and beyond time and time again. She’s in the final steps in publishing her own book for Hay House “Your Brave and Beautiful Book”. Come take a listen as we discuss strategies and secrets on how to birth your first or 10th book.

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103: It’s a Life Lesson, not a Life Sentence

Tue, 09 Jan 2018 10:00:00 GMT

Being unique and different is a way to live life for some people because it not only means they are standing out from the crowd, but they are being true to the integrity they stand for. When they follow the path of people who are successful, and start knowing what they didn’t know, they shrink into themselves and not like what they are seeing. But a life lesson isn’t a life sentence. Learning from others and reaching out for their support is necessary to get to the next phase of life. Mistakes in life will happen one way or another but the question is what you do when it happens to you. Fearing mistakes is part of the growth process, but making it part of you will make you a better person.

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102: Exploring Our Fear Body

Sat, 30 Dec 2017 10:00:00 GMT

For a lot of people, fear is an obstacle that is difficult but not impossible to overcome. When we walk into an unfamiliar street and get to a dark area, we stop moving out of fear. Fear makes us not want to ride a rollercoaster or swim in a backyard pool. We stop going to places and experiencing life because fear is weighing down on our shoulders. However, there are two kinds of fear; one that is unconscious and the other conscious. If we are aware of our fear, then we are given the time to make a smart choice and use that fear as a stepping stone instead of a wall. Learn more about the fear body and how it can serve and educate you.

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101: Our Fear of Intimacy

Wed, 20 Dec 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Men not being so attached to their emotions is a default program hard-wired in their maturity process. To face their fear of intimacy, they wear masks to become confident in their relationship, or they get angry a lot or just become sexually immature altogether. But women have an even greater fear of intimacy because they feel like once a guy gives his love, she somehow owes him a debt. A way around this is to find a partner who is also a reflection of your progress and shortcomings, sharing your experiences with each other through this step by step practice. Find out how to receive love and make a deep and lasting connection. Listen to the podcast here: Our Fear of Intimacy

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100: Celebrating The Most Dynamic Life with Morgan Kandell

Wed, 13 Dec 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Show 001 didn’t make it because I forgot to press record on Zoom. I even forget what it was about it was so long ago. I started my podcast because I was done, after 12 years, of running in-person workshops but still had plenty to say. “I’ll start a podcast. Why not?” 100 shows later, my life is radically changed. I’m married, step-dad to two powerhouse little ladies, live in suburbia, building an amazing business and writing my first book. Most importantly, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. Come join for my 100th celebratory show where I’ll be joined by my muse, Morgan Kandell. We’ll be talking about creating a dynamic life, supporting each other’s evolution, what our marriage means to us, and other fun topics.

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099: Initiating the Masculine with Gillian Pothier

Thu, 30 Nov 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Initiating the masculine of today’s men can happen in two ways. One is through making amends on what their addiction to power have caused. The other is through the willingness to surrender to the feminine. Join archetypal psychotherapist Gillian Pothier as she explains why men need to stop asking what it means to be a man.

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098: Breaking Contracts Deliberately

Mon, 20 Nov 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Our episode is on the concept of deliberately breaking contracts. Inspired by two of my clients who are in a deep, intimate friendship and relationship and business partnership and how they did the work in a coaching session to let go of the past and the process I took them through, and how it has enriched their process and their relationship and who they are in the world today. I also talked about my own personal breaking of contracts with myself really in my relationship to Morgan about open relationships and a really big insight I had on a recent journey. We then invite Toni and she shares with us her life, what’s going on, her pain and how she’s, on some level, given up but she still longs for a partner, that person to spend the rest of her life. We go through all the things she’s done and she’s done a lot of things. I give her one more shot, one more concept from me. It might work, it might not, but I’m so grateful she came on the show.

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097: Leap to Live the Life you Want with Antesa Jensen

Tue, 14 Nov 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The guest this week is Antesa Jensen. Antesa is the founder and visionary leading Adventure Awake, as well as co-founder of The Proteus Group. She recently left a 12-year career in the investment banking industry to scale and expand Adventure Awake, launch The Proteus Group and fully grow herself into a full-time entrepreneur. Rob and Antesa discuss the Adventure Awake experiences: Adventure Awake is a hybrid of coaching and travel, a retreat on the go.

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096: A Man’s Mission vs. Self Care

Mon, 06 Nov 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The concept of the show today is man’s mission versus self-care, and the strange balance that exists between the two. Many people, Rob included, have a challenge finding that balance. Morgan asked Rob why the show is called ‘a man’s mission versus self-care’ instead of ‘a man’s mission and self-care’, but it’s because to Rob, the two feel contrary to each other. It’s like the motherhood versus self-care conversation, and how most of us don’t know how to do both sides of the equation well.

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095: Dealing with Touch Deprivation with Jean Franzblau

Mon, 30 Oct 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. The guest today is Jean Franzblau, who is talking about the concept of cuddling. Once upon a time, Jean opened an in-flight magazine and saw a bunch of people chilling out and cuddling. As a single and sometimes lonely professional, she thought to herself, ‘That’s for me.’ Amazed by the wellness and happiness benefits she experienced, Jean founded Cuddle Sanctuary, the Los Angeles destination for consent and hug-positive events and professional cuddling since 2014. She has also expanded the reach of Cuddle Sanctuary by teaching consent on college campuses. Jean graduated cum laude with BA in Communications from UCLA. She has appeared in Buzz Feed, TLC, Comedy Central and Rolling Stone.

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094: The VERY important conversation about #meToo

Thu, 19 Oct 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This show is in response to the #metoo meme that has had people all over the world talking about the pervasive issue of sexual assault and harassment. Rob believes the truth is the most important impact we can have in this world, and if we’re not willing to speak up then that impact can remain hidden. You never know who you can help just by telling your truth. The #metoo meme has seen hundreds of thousands of people tell the truth about their experiences. It would be naïve to say it happens only to women, though predominantly it happens exceptionally more to women than men.

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093: Men’s Vulnerability vs. Control w/ Christopher Hoffman

Thu, 12 Oct 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. It’s been an exciting few week as Rob finished the book proposal, finished the Indiegogo campaign at 110% of the goal, and sent the book proposal off to Hay House! In the process of writing the book, Rob’s been reading as many books as possible to learn as much as possible from competitors. One book he read was Heart In Gear: An Engineer’s Erotic Journey to Freedom by Chris Hoffman. The concept is a geek who discovers his freedom through an erotic journey. Rob really enjoyed the book, and then a few weeks later they met and became fast friends. Chris is the guest on the show today.

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092: The Achievement Trap: Avoid It, Get Away From It with Brandilyn Tebo

Tue, 03 Oct 2017 10:00:00 GMT

In our heads, there are reasons that we tell ourselves we are the best at what we do but that can go the other way too. Trying to prove to others that you are good enough will leave you disconnected from yourself and your heart. Former model and now life coach Brandliyn Tebo helps her clients escape the Achievement Trap having been caught in it herself when she was young and taught wrongly that supreme thinness equals changing the world. Brandliyn shares her struggles as a student, model and achiever who learned that she doesn’t need to prove herself to make a difference in the world.

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091: Tiger-Tiger is it true?

Wed, 27 Sep 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with your host, Rob Kandell. Tuff love is always about ways to improve your life, ways to see how things are or are not working. The topic today is very interesting and possibly one of the unique Tuff Love episodes to date. There is no coachee in this show but it’s a great show regardless. It’s about a book that has changed Rob’s life. Everything you read, do or look at changes you in some way, but this has been a big book for Rob. It’s the children’s book Tiger-Tiger, Is it True? written by Byron Katie and illustrated by Hans Wilhelm.

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090: Integrating Shadow Desires with Dr. Carolyn Elliot

Thu, 14 Sep 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with your host, Rob Kandell. The guest today is Dr. Carolyn Elliott who is a 6-figure online business strategist and witch, with a bodhisattva vow. She founded Witch Magazine to give voice and prominence to the subtle witching in the world that’s not confined to tradition and convention. She uses it to teach Influence, the life-altering course on mastering practical magic. She runs a multi-6 figure online business specializing in helping people achieve dramatic positive change in their lives through shadow integration practices and applied occult philosophy. She’s also the author of cult favorite creativity book, Awaken Your Genius, which is based on the dissertation she wrote while getting her PhD in critical and cultural studies at the University of Pittsburgh. She also co-hosts the Grit and Grace podcast, with her partner Taia Kepher.

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089: Taking the Tougher Road

Thu, 07 Sep 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This week’s show is called Taking The Tougher Road. When looking at your life, your experience, your relationship, your job, there are an infinite amount of roads possible and on some level you know this. Which road do you want to take, the easy or the tough?

Rob tends to take the tougher road and there are pros and cons to this. It’s built his character, it’s gotten him in a lot of situations where he feels he could have done better, but the whole process of taking the tougher road has increased his capacity for service, expansion and life.

Rob recently completed 60 yoga classes in 80 days. It was hard. He was totally exhausted. There were days he was completely sick of the hot air and locker room process. He was relieved when the 80 days was over, but he knew he truly did it. There was total and absolute glee knowing he had the capacity and didn’t take the easy road. Rob has three clear examples of this choice showing up in life lately.

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088: The Anti-Male Cultural Narrative w/ Om Rupani

Thu, 31 Aug 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Om Rupani is the guest on the show today. Om is a New York based photographer, writer and sex educator. He has been teaching workshops and coaching people in the sensual arts and BDSM for over 10 years. His new book Prerequisites to Ecstacy deals with the common obstacles he sees couples getting entangled in that prevent them from going deeper into their relating and their sensuality.

Trigger Warning: This is an intense conversation that contains topics that may trigger some listeners.

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087: So You want to have a podcast?

Thu, 24 Aug 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This episode is all about starting a podcast, because Rob is broadcasting from the Podcast Movement Conference in California. There will be two different focuses for this episode. Firstly, the emotional motivations for podcasting and secondly, the technical nitty-gritty of the process.

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086: Your Masculine/Feminine Ratio

Thu, 17 Aug 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The topic of today’s show is the concept of masculine and feminine dynamics. Rob has been working with a team recently to help the people within that team with some very disparate personalities and views from separation and opposite sides of the playing field to come together, be more connected and find union. The takeaway from that experience for everyone was how amazing it is that people can find union and connection and we can create that in our lives.

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085: Reclaiming Lost Pieces with Nancy Levin

Thu, 10 Aug 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with your host, Rob Kandell. This week is a guest start week, with special guest Nancy Levin. Nancy is a successful author, speaker, Hay House talk radio host and an amazing person. Rob heard her speak earlier this year and was wowed by her story of saying ‘no’ to her own mediocrity and stuckness in order to reclaim the lost pieces of her.

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084: On Death

Thu, 03 Aug 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love with Rob Kandell.
This week is a sensitive show, and one near and dear to Rob’s heart. It’s the concept around death, which is very impactful. Part of this episode is influenced by Death and Dying, a book by Elizabeth Kublar Ross, Rob’s Mom’s mentor. It’s also inspired by a good friend who died recently, which affected Rob deeply. As he continues to take steps away from the friend’s passing, there are more and more feelings arising. So this is a perfect topic for Tuff Love because it’s always about your ability to feel your feelings, see what’s underneath and don’t avoid topic that affect us deeply.

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083: Unleash your Inner Dominatrix w/ Dana Pharant

Thu, 27 Jul 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Every week at Tuff Love Rob talks about what needs to be talked about, the issues, how to improve your life, social media, relationship types, communications, business etc. Today’s guest, Dana Pharant, has experience in a world Rob doesn’t, and that’s the dominatrix world. He’s always had a bit of a dominatrix fetish fantasy. Having known quite a few in his life, Rob knows they’re always very interesting, amazing people.

Dana is a master healer, life strategist, published author, Number 1 Amazon author, past CEO of a near 7-figure business and former dominatrix. She is currently a transformational coach who uses her dynamic tools for rapid change, kick ass energy and ability to perceive, pinpoint and pop the problem limited your body and business while having fun.

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082: My Love/Hate Relationship with Social Media

Tue, 25 Jul 2017 10:00:00 GMT

There are 61 social media apps present today and leading them are Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube and a handful others. Social media and the addiction to it actually started with Friendster and MySpace back in 2004, but it was Facebook that really put the social in social media. Are you one of the many who check their phones in the morning not for the email but for the likes you get from last night’s post? If you are, then that’s perfectly normal because that’s the culture that we live in today. But the thing is, as we feel connected, we also look disconnected. We go to restaurants and take pictures of the food first before we eat just so we can let everyone know we are eating something fancy. Learn how we should be conscious of the experiences around us while still being able to connect to the rest of the world.

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081: Start with Self-Love with Kat Courtney

Tue, 18 Jul 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The guest today is Kat from Afterlife Coach. She’s here to talk about the concept of your shadow, your darkness and the importance of loving it to be able to love others. To love the other you must love all parts of yourself and that includes the parts you don’t quite agree with and the skeletons in the corner.

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080: 22 Questions in 44 Minutes

Thu, 06 Jul 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The inspiration for this show comes from the song 88 lines about 44 women by The Nails. So Rob decided to do 22 questions in 44 minutes. The order of the questions is random, the identities of the people who asked the questions has been kept private and Rob hasn’t pre-prepared these answers so they’re all genuine responses in the moment.

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079: Drop your Ego, Meet Women w/ Ryan Black

Thu, 29 Jun 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The guest on today’s show is Ryan Black and he’s here to talk about talking to women, lowering your ego and improving all of your relationships. Ryan Black is the Chief Marketing Officer and Marketing Director of Sasha Dating Systems. He is UK’s highest paid Direct DayGame Coach, he has 6 years experience in the industry, is an alumni speaker of the 21 Convention and a co-founder of the Infinite Man Summit. Reading his bio, you might have some bias, as Rob did, stemming from what you know of the seduction community. Suspend your bias, listen to the story of how Ryan got to this position and you will be able to learn from his story and his wisdom.

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078: What do you do when your partner is DISTRACTED?

Thu, 22 Jun 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This is episode 78, and it’s a very personal show today. This episode is about Rob’s thoughts and feelings about a new experience he’s having in his life and relationship. Tuff love has to be talking about the things that are uncomfortable to talk about. We are dynamic human beings and every time we don’t relay the truth and hold something inside that’s bugging us, it creates distance in relationships. This episode is about exactly that, and it’s so close to home that Rob knew he had to do this show.

Rob’s relationship with Morgan is so good, and he likes to brag about it. But it’s also challenging because unlike in previous relationships, everything that arises between them has to be talked about. The current experience has to do with distraction and feeling ignored or abandoned. The storyline is that Rob was away for a business trip, and then when he got back the two kids got really sick over successive days. Add to this a birthday party and Morgan’s mother visiting, and it made for a really busy week where Morgan has been very focused on everyone other than herself and Rob. And Rob fully appreciates and understands this, and yet there are feelings of abandonment and lack of attention.

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077: Introvert –> Extrovert

Thu, 15 Jun 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This is Episode 77 and the topic is introversion vs. extraversion, and the journey from point A to point B. Rob shares some of his own story, as well as research about the topic. Then Jo and her partner Elvis jump in to share some great insights around the differences for men and women around this topic.
Rob was a really shy kid, and still considers himself shy when it comes down to it, but here he is doing a live show. To all the people who think they don’t know how to be in the world or handle their own shyness: you can do anything with what you perceive as a limitation. You can move from shyness into being connected in the world. If Rob can do it, you can do it. No more excuses!

There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert, because they would be in a lunatic asylum! It’s a spectrum, a continuum, and you fall somewhere along the line in the middle. You can move from one to another. There are skills and things you can do to migrate into more extroverted if that’s what you desire.

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076: War Stories with Erwan & Alicia Davon

Thu, 08 Jun 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This episode has two very special guests, Erwan and Alicia Davon. One of his first teachers, Erwan Davon has been one of the most influential people in Rob’s life. Rob was a numb, dumb, chauvinistic, misogynistic yuppie on March 20th 1999. He sat in a room full of people, Erwan mirrored back parts of himself Rob couldn’t see, including the shadows, and he basically said the solid truth. One of the greatest gifts we can give people is mirroring back what we see with approval, with intention and not saving us from ourselves. Erwan just let Rob sit and that morphed him and changed him.

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075: Dealing with Debt

Thu, 01 Jun 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This is episode 75, and the topic is Dealing with Debt, which is something people have commented is important and very timely. Debt is something that everyone in the modern world has to deal with, and a big part of personal growth and expansion is the ability to consciously deal with your debt instead of letting it run you. In this episode Rob shares his lessons around debt, and then coaches Chantelle around her current situation with life and money.

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074: Getting OUT of your Comfort Zone with Tripp Lanier

Thu, 25 May 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. In this episode Rob interviews Trip Laneer from the New Man Podcast about getting out of your comfort zone. Trip has been coaching for 10 years. He has worked with men and women all around the world, but primarily works with men and especially with folks who want to do good work in the world. They want to make a great living doing good work in the world but there’s resistance and fear to get out of their professional comfort zone or level up to the next place for them.

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073: Exiting the Prisons we Create

Thu, 18 May 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. In this episode, Rob explores the concept of the prisons we create for ourselves, as well as how to escape. Remember, 99.9% of the time it is us creating the prisons. There is that 0.01% of other people doing stuff to us and creating prisons around us, but that isn’t what this show is about. It’s about the prisons we create and how we respond to them.

This relates to Tuff Love episode 49, from November 2016, called The Lure of Freedom. That episode was about how freedom is so attractive and we think we want it, but at the time we don’t. If you haven’t listened to that show yet, go back and do so because it explores some different things to this episode.

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072: “Never Say this on a Date” with Jeffrey Platts

Thu, 11 May 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Jeffrey Platts is the fun and well-dressed guest today and he’s here to share what not to say on a date! Jeffrey is a men’s coach and authentic communication expert who is passionate about helping men own and express their value with women, and the world. Rob is always touched by the way Jeffrey approves of men and what they’re going through in this disapproving world.

Jeffrey and Rob have both heard a lot of complaints over the years from women who feel frustrated that guys are ambiguous when asking for a date. Instead of being upfront, they ask to ‘hang out’ or ‘get coffee’ or ‘go for a walk’. A lot of guys do this because it dilutes the fear of actually asking a woman out. If you hang out and there’s no chemistry, then it’s easy to say it wasn’t a date to begin with. Then, if there is chemistry, it’s a surprise bonus.

While it may make sense from the perspective of not wanting to be rejected, Jeffrey warns that it isn’t the optimal way to approach it. If two people are spending time together either one has to ask the question, ‘is this a date?’, something’s wrong because it hasn’t been expressly communicated. The mistake most guys make when asking women out is in not actually using the word date!

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071: WTF is up with Romance Today?

Thu, 04 May 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This is episode number 71: WTF is up with romance? In this episode, Robert discusses the concept of romance in the 21st Century. In 1997, David Deida wrote the book The Way Of The Superior Man and gave the reality of how things were becoming f****d up between men and women. He eased people’s souls in reassuring them they weren’t alone in what they were feeling. However, 20 years later things are even worse. If you Google “Millennial Dating” the first 5 articles suggest negative experiences.

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070: Sexual Self-Mastery w/ Destin Gerek

Thu, 27 Apr 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Destin Gerek is here to talk about the concept of sexual self-mastery. Rob met Destin in 2005, and had the honor of working with him for about 5 months as he put on something called Evolve Live in January 2015 in Los Angeles. Rob has deep respect for Destin’s dedication to his craft and practice, his profound professionalism, caring and service. The vast majority of his work these days is with men, so while there is certainly overlap between men and women in the concept of sexual self-mastery, the majority of times Destin is speaking about the man’s experience.

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069: Confronting Fear and Scarcity

Thu, 20 Apr 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This show is around the concept of fear and scarcity, which follows on from an episode from November last year called ‘One Unit of Fear’. This episode won’t duplicate that too much.

We all have fear. We actually swim in an ocean of fear and scarcity. You might not even be aware that we live in a fear-based, scarcity-based society. It’s all we’ve ever known. Society is always saying ‘You’re doing it wrong, you’re not good enough and you’re not good looking.’ It actually takes an incredible amount of energy, courage, motivation and agency to move away from that.

Rob is not immune to this, he experiences fear and has barbarians and phantoms in his mind just like everybody else. Even after 18 years of work on himself, the fear is still there, the fear of the flame, the fear of the haters. He still struggles with this every single day. However, it’s easier than it was 18 years ago and he likes himself a lot more, but there’s still a battle against society’s message.

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068: A Woman’s Ego with Arielle Brown

Thu, 13 Apr 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Saying the truth and generally trying to get some good nookie into the world.

On the previous episode Rob talked about a man’s ego and it kicked his ass in a positive way. So when it came to doing a show about a woman’s ego, it scared the shit out of him. Even though Rob could tackle it in an entertaining and somewhat informative way, he felt it would be much more powerful to ask his friend Arielle Brown.

Arielle is a coach who specifically helps people create the relationship that they truly want but have never experienced. Along with one-on-one coaching, she facilitates groups called Essential Intimacy, where a bunch of people gather together and play some different communication games that allow you to reveal your true essence. She helps people create authentic, real relationships that have meaning and substance and juice.

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067: A Man’s Ego

Thu, 06 Apr 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This show is about a very interesting topic and that is the concept of the male ego. To start off the show, Rob wants to remind everybody: we are bad asses! He is a very healthy male with a very healthy, large ego. Rob’s ego serves him and the universe well because he has worked on it. But he didn’t always have such a strong ego. Rob had a lot of negative viewpoints about himself growing up. An overweight kid with low self-esteem, he used a lot of techniques and tactics to look for external approval. There was always a chase to like himself.

A lot of people live in this world where they don’t love themselves. If that’s you, then that’s something to look at and explore. To move around in this world in a healthy manner is extremely important. If you don’t have a strong ego, then you’re looking externally for validation. That’s where everything fucked up begins because on some level you’re looking for external sources to feel good about yourself.

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066: Reigniting your Mojo with Deborah Kagan

Thu, 30 Mar 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The guest on the show today is Deborah Kagan and she’s talking about the concept of mojo. Rob loves having experts on the show because they always help him learn something new. Deborah helps women conquer self-doubt and indecision to step into their full power, love who they are and live a turned on life. Although she primary serves women but the information is not gender specific.

With the rise of feminism, women have lost touch with their mojo because it lives in our bodies as opposed to being up in their heads. Deborah got into this work from a complete disassociation from her mojo. She grew up in a house of domestic violence and her first sexual experience was rape. Disassociation from her body was what followed, as is common following trauma. She is here today to share that it is absolutely 100% possible to connect back to your mojo regardless of what you’ve gone through.

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065: Superior Communication Techniques

Thu, 23 Mar 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The topic today is something Rob talks about a lot and that is communication. But even though it’s a topic that comes up in a lot of the other show topics, there has never been a show completely devoted to communication tips and tricks and techniques. In this episode, Rob shares his 8 favorite communication tips so you can take them and get working with them!

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064: How to Set & Keep Goals

Thu, 16 Mar 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This show is about how to set and keep goals. For some that is very easy, but for most it’s very challenging. On some level, that’s why the coaching business exists—to help people to set and achieve their goals.

Rob has been pretty good at this his whole life, innately. However, from his thousands of conversations in workshops and one-on-one coaching he knows most people suck at it. They set goals and they think it’s really important, but all of a sudden they’re miles away from their goals.

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063: Coping with BETRAYAL

Thu, 09 Mar 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This episode is about betrayal, and about believing that a friend and business partner could turn their back. It’s also about all the feelings that arose around that situation for Rob. It’s been interesting and painful but the life lessons that have arisen for him have been truly amazing.

Surely everyone listening and reading this can connect with that feeling of betrayal because it happens to all of us in small and large doses. There are big betrayals that are obvious and flagrant, and then there are small, baby betrayals that go on all the time. And all of them hurt. There’s no other way to put it: it hurts. It’s also a feeling of powerlessness, which is almost as angst-ful and negative a feeling as the actual stimuli of the betrayal itself.

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062: The Ever-Changing Identity

Thu, 02 Mar 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to another episode of Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Rob is feeling an interesting piece around identify recently that is showing up in a lot of different ways.

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061: Attainable Perfection

Fri, 24 Feb 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Life continues to evolve as life keeps getting better, and Rob has been really thinking about the show. The topic of the show today is “attainable perfection.” The paradox of perfection is that you can use it to make your life and who you are in the world better and better. The most important piece of the message that Rob wants to get across is this: you can perfect and imperfect and everything in between at the same time, and it doesn’t stop you from making yourself better. It’s down to the concept of how you use excuses in your life—excuses like ‘I’m not perfect’—to slow down, whine and complain and stop making your life better.

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060: How to Flirt

Thu, 09 Feb 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This show is on one of Rob’s favorite topics: how to flirt! This show is about being truthful and real, and if something happens that affects the show, Rob will talk about it. So a small caveat to this episode is that he is feeling a little down today due to a conversation about this very topic with Morgan.

Rob has found that there are Perils of Flirting. One of which is that other people will be affected. Rob has an open, honest relationship with Morgan. The concept that Rob has talked about many times on the show is that withholding is lying. When you withhold information, you lie. So Rob has an agreement with Morgan to discuss the people he flirts with. Recently he started flirting with somebody and Morgan got triggered. Then her trigger hit Rob’s trigger.

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059: How to Bend Time

Fri, 03 Feb 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The show today is about the concept of bending time—Rob’s version of time management. Morgan always asks how Rob gets so much done and it’s because of this bending time ability. When he did some research on the concept of bending time he found references to it being sort of a Buddhist meditative way, to do with time not being linear and linking it with Einstein’s theory of relativity.

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058: Courageous Communication with Elizabeth DiAlto

Fri, 27 Jan 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The guest today is the amazing Liz Dialto, author, speaker, teacher, mentor, podcaster, and she’s here to talk about courageous communication.

Back in the day, Liz used to sell Cut Through Knives, and was brought up in this culture of community, working with people, sales and marketing, lots of sales stuff is rooted in personal development. When she left that industry she became a personal trainer and then a couple of years into that, she started noticing that without fail, any kind of mental, emotional, financial, relationship issue could come up and swiftly wipe out any results people had gotten with their diet and exercise. So she became fascinated with working IN as opposed to just working out, and how the two work together.

Having received a lot of feedback over the years that she was intimidating, too masculine or that she needed to soften, Liz started studying femininity and feminine archetypes. She realized there are many archetypes and she embodies more of a fierce warrior type of energy, and that that was okay. From there it she was interested in how to be a woman in the 21st Century that raises us to be lovelier versions of men. So that’s where it all started. The transition from being a trainer to what Liz’s doing now took a couple of years. She started studying, doing energy work, learning Reiki, personality typography, seeing what works and what didn’t.

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057: Traveling? Me? Part 2/2

Thu, 19 Jan 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with your host, Rob Kandell. This is part 2 of Traveling? Me? Two weeks ago, Rob went on a trip with Morgan to Costa Rica. She was in a week long training, and Rob ended up with a week in Costa Rica by himself and he was nervous. It was out of his element, he was uncomfortable with the concept of travelling. The reason? Fear of the unknown.

How often do we live in the fear of the unknown? For some travellers and gypsies, jumping into a new country without a plan is heaven. For control freaks like Rob, who like order and schedules and structures, a week by himself without a plan was scary. It was scary for Morgan in a way too because she was nervous that Rob would had a bad time.

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056: Traveling? Me? Part 1/2

Thu, 05 Jan 2017 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This show is about the concept of travelling, change and structure. 2016 was a really rough year for Rob, so 2017 is the year of being authentically who he is, fully. Rob is a pretty authentic guy but he’s learning how much more of him that wants to show up and come out. He doesn’t really know who that person is that wants to evolve. It’s exciting! He’s realized he has been living his entire life in other people’s shadows, and in a place where he didn’t feel comfortable being the front man. But that’s what 2017 is all about—look out world!

Rob hasn’t done much travelling in his life. He spent a month in Israel between high school and college with an Israeli friend, on a Hemmingway kind of trip. They moved from town to town without really a goal, eating good food, chasing women and having an experience of finding themselves in friendship. That was 1988 and Rob hasn’t really done it since then. He planned to go to Europe after college, but it never eventuated and life has been a progression of work- and school-related things ever since. He has done little trips, like 8 days in Barcelona in December 2014.

Rob feels he’s always had a rigid, stubborn way of needing to be in structure, having the next job, creating the next thing. He is uncomfortable with being unstructured, free, not killing it every day. Rob loves structure, he loves his calendar, he loves knowing where he’s going to be. He likes things clean and organized and in tune. He’s not very good at travelling and vacations. He does the same things in other cities that he could in his home town: movie theatres, coffee shops, bookstores.

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054: Confronting Money

Thu, 22 Dec 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The topic today is near and dear to Rob, and that is the concept of confronting money. Rob is a first born male, New York Jew which means money is a part of his life and culture. He’s had so many different experiences around this topic of money, and how to confront it, understand it and be aware of it. The main focus of what Rob helps people with is confronting money, which can be daunting for many people. Most people don’t want to confront it, they’re scared of it, they get overwhelmed. They think they can’t handle it or don’t know what to do, which is bullshit. We all have the ability to confront it and understand it and look at it. Turn the fear into power. That’s what the hero’s journey is all about!

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053: Many Fish in the Sea

Thu, 08 Dec 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The official topic for this episode is around the concept of fish in the sea. But first, an update. Last week Rob’s Dad had a stroke and went to hospital. It’s been very emotional week and there were some very intense conversations. His Dad is much more stable now and getting back to the status quo. But things change when you face death for real. Death is always theoretical but when it comes down to it, it’s different, and Rob saw the change in his father. He faced his own mortality, his fighter came out and it was impressive to watch. So things are better.

This topic of Fish in the Sea was inspired by a friend of Rob’s. She’s an attractive woman, and has been in an on-again-off-again relationship for years. At the moment, her partner is being distant again and Rob can feel inside her the fear of taking the step to migrate out of this relationship. On some level, this relationship has been her foundation and so there’s fear. Rob sees it a lot: people are scared to death to let go when they find someone. After investing six months, a year, three years, when things start to go awry, we have a fear of letting go.

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052: The Foundation of Self-Love

Fri, 02 Dec 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with your host, Rob Kandell. In this episode, Rob is dealing with the emotion of his father being in the hospital. He had a small stroke the day before this episode was recorded. Rob’s Dad has been an ox in terms of his health for Rob’s whole life. He’s been solid and strong, and the first time he’s in hospital. You can prepare as much as you like but life still happens, that’s the beauty of it.

This experience ties in to the topic of the show, which is self-love. Believe in yourself every single day. Every moment of your life is totally valuable and if you don’t treat every single moment as valuable, and just think ‘I’ll do it tomorrow’, that tomorrow may not come.

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051: One Unit of Fear

Thu, 17 Nov 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with your host Rob Kandell. The topic is “One Unit of Fear” and comes from a conversation Rob had with a coaching client who felt overwhelmed by fear. Rob was helping him move through the fear and get back into life, the idea being that you could live ten units of life if you just move through one unit of fear.

There is an excessive amount of fear going on in the world today, post US election. All over the world there is a new level of fear. People are talking about leaving the country now that Trump is President. There’s a lot of future planning and thoughts based on fears.

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050: #TruthMoment

Fri, 11 Nov 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with your host, Rob Kandell. The topic today is around the concept of truth moment. Rob’s basic viewpoint is that we’re all a bunch of liars. The effect of that is that intimacy and connection decreases greatly because we’re not telling the truth. When we lie we present a part of ourselves that isn’t true. If we lie and someone accepts it, then they start to judge who we are, based on our lies, and then we know they’re judging us on the façade we’ve created, which means we trust them less.

It’s about telling the truth and creating relationships and connections where your partner can receive the truth. Most people want to tell the truth, but the other person does a really shitty job of receiving it and punishes us for telling the truth. We’re in fear of repercussions from our partners for telling the truth, and we live in façade, people don’t connect and we live in a world where people don’t tell the truth.

The concept of the truth moment is a new game. It’s a take off of a few other games Rob’s learned in his life. The goal is to create a circumstance so you can tell the truth more, and this is a game Rob created to help with that.

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049: The Lure of Freedom

Fri, 04 Nov 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. Tuff Love is an opportunity to see more, have more and be more. It’s also an opportunity to talk about the shit that matters. The topic today is around the concept of freedom. We all want freedom.

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048: The Patriarchy with Heather Higgins

Thu, 27 Oct 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. The guest today is Heather, who is part of the authentic relating community in Boulder, and very passionate about feminism and looking for a better world outside of patriarchy for everone. Bringing together these two worlds is incredibly important. She’s in a place of exploration about how men and women can relate to one another in a system that continually favors men and masculine energy over women and feminine energy, and how to honor everybody’s experience within that. How do we honor women who’ve been socially trained not to say no and not have boundaries, and honor men who have been taught to win, conquer and not take no for an answer? It’s an interesting exploration on how to relate and have options to show up in a way that creates intimacy and authenticity.

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047: Levels of Engagement

Thu, 13 Oct 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. The topic today is around levels of engagement, which is one of the core things Rob lives his life. He is constantly in this scale of levels of awareness. It’s important to be deliberate with how you engage with the world, with other people, with your romantic partners, with your job, with life. There are six basic levels of engagement, although in time there may be more as Rob has been exploring the concept with others. The six basic levels are: Avoidance, Non-confrontation, Curiosity, Inquiry, Educating and Attack.

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046: Stop Apologizing

Thu, 06 Oct 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This week’s show is on the concept of over-apologizing and how it’s endemic and systemic in today’s society. We feel we must apologize to create a bridge or to avoid intimacy. It happens time and time again and it pisses Rob off. This show is about the motivations, thoughts, practices, places not to over apologize. Rob explores where to go underneath to find out what you truly want to say and the need to use deliberate language, like ‘thank you’ instead of ‘I’m sorry,’ or ‘I have a different viewpoint.’

How annoying is it when someone is apologizing and you don’t know what they’re apologizing for? They didn’t do anything wrong. Are they apologizing for being human? For not being human? For living life?

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045: Graceful Breakups with Kelsey Grant

Thu, 29 Sep 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The topic today is how to have a healthy break up and the guest star is Kelsey Grant, a love and relationship coach. Rob’s viewpoint on break ups are that they’re part of the natural cycle. There’s all this cultural bias around breaking up and how it’s bad and means that you didn’t succeed, however Rob thinks that’s a load of crap. This show is about how to transition from a relationship and gracefully move into the next scene.

Kelsey is passionate about living in a world where people are inspired, fulfilled, balance and happy within the expansiveness of their intimate relationships. As a love and relationship educator rooted in radical self-love methodology, she writes, speaks, and teaches coaches, thought leaders and game-changers on how to access greater alignment with love for their leaderships to thrive. She is a founder and facilitator of a local sisterhood circle, and currently she is teaching A Year of Love, her flagship 12-month program that focuses on the essential tools we don’t know we don’t know.

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044: The Effects of Projection

Thu, 22 Sep 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The show today is around the topic of projection. It’s a very unconscious act. Wikipedia says, “psychological projection is a theory of psychology in which humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities ( both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing it to others.”

There are parts of you that you don’t want to see inside of you and so you project them onto someone else. This happens all the time, it’s part of our human condition. It’s that part of the unconscious that’s the danger. One example from Wikipedia is a person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse others of being rude. This incorporates blame shifting. It’s taking the energy you see inside of yourself and putting it elsewhere, rather than looking at our own bullshit.

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043: The Pursuit of Purpose

Thu, 15 Sep 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. The topic for the show today is the concept of purpose. Purpose is something Rob has been examining on some level his entire life. He grew up normal, and did all the usual paths that you’re ‘supposed to do’ in this life. Then, at the age of 28, his life got etcha-sketched.

Before the age of 28, his purpose was to follow the path laid out to him by society: get a good job, do social security planning, produce grandchildren and pay taxes. There were good times, Rob was very lucky in a lot of ways. However, he realized he was bored. It felt normal to be bored, which is what happens when you’re stuck in the status quo. His purpose was to be a good citizen.

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042: The Challenges of Co-Parenting

Fri, 09 Sep 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This episode is about co-parenting, which is a concept near and dear to Rob’s life. These days Rob is co-parenting with Morgan and it’s been a journey of learning and growth. In this show Rob shares some of the back-story to this co-parenting and also what he’s learned through research about blended families.

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041: The Cost of Men’s Sexual Shame

Thu, 01 Sep 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This show is pretty intense, so be warned: if you don’t want your life to change, run and hide quick! The topic today is one of the most important things to talk about in Rob’s work: shame. This is something we all have to deal with on a constant basis, internally and externally, because we live in a culture that encourages shame. Shame is an endemic part of our society. Our society is one of disapproval and from that we have shame.

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040: Modern Sex Talk with Ryan Thomas

Thu, 25 Aug 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The guest star on the show today is Ryan Thomas, who runs the podcast Modern Sex Talks. Rob was on that podcast and now Ryan is here to talk about the concept of sex in the modern age.

How Ryan ended up teaching and running a podcast called Modern Sex Talks is a bit of a long story. His background is in the military, he was an Army Captain and he served in the Canadian Army for 11 years. In that environment, it’s not very emotionally intimate. For Ryan growing up, he didn’t get a lot of sex education, and learned a lot from pornography and the internet. As he got older, he started using sexuality as a way to build confidence, which led him down some very dark paths. He started to hate women, which isn’t a healthy place to be. He realized he was the only common denominator in all the problems he was experiencing in relationships. That wasn’t an easy thing to realize.

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039: Navigating Parental Approval

Fri, 19 Aug 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This show is very personal to Rob, and it’s about parental approval. He just spent the last weekend with his parents, in Marin County, north of San Francisco. He goes to visit whenever he can. Rob’s Mom is a big listener of the show, so even though he’ll be talking about her and knows she’ll be listening, they have an adult enough relationship where he can be real and honest on the show and it will translate. His Dad doesn’t listen to the show.

A friend asked Rob recently what the key to success in a relationship is. He said, just tell the truth. That’s what Tuff Love is: being willing to tell the truth in a manner that is connective, not disassociating. Most people lie and withhold and don’t tell the truth. We don’t say the things that really hurt us and we’re not clear in our communication. From the truth, both parties have the option to have a better and more connective relationship. But if you don’t tell the truth, nothing happens.

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038: Tales of One Successful Relationship w/ Morgan Mellas

Thu, 11 Aug 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The show today is special because Rob’s love Morgan is on the show. Together they talk about their relationship and how things work for them.

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037: How to Touch Deliberately

Thu, 04 Aug 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The topic of the show today is touch, and more specifically how to touch deliberately. Rob is really excited about this topic because he watches a lot of people and cringes at how they touch. As someone who has been training for 14 years now on how to touch, he has some things to say on the topic.

Before Rob started doing this work, he never knew how important touch was or that there was a process of learning to touch well. It’s been an incredible experience over these 14 years to have to keep reinventing himself. He started this work at 28 years old, married with a mediocre sex life. He was enthusiastic but un-deliberate. Rob would constantly touch her for some kind of security. He was always reaching out, massaging, touching. There’s a lot of touch that’s un-deliberate, especially between couples.

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036: Authenticity with Kendra Cunov

Fri, 29 Jul 2016 10:00:00 GMT

au·then·tic·i·ty Noun : real or genuine : not copied or false : true and accurate its a simple word really… authenticity. Just be real, right. Easy? Right? Well.. no, its not so easy. In matter of fact, its f’in hard to be authentic in this world because the world rarely rewards you if you are truly who you are. > Want to talk to that attractive guy across the room? Gotta look cool. > Want to wear those comfy very out-of-fashion jeans and birkenstocks? No way. > Want to go art to school and not your parents dream of med school? Going to be a rough ride. Or do you want to reveal yourself to your partner. The real you? The kinky you? The dirty, nasty, bad bad bay you? You better be careful. In this call, I invite my old friend Kendra Cunov (met her in 1999!) who was an integral creator of AuthenticSF and Circling. She is now a full-time coach, teacher and bad-ass mother in Northern California. Please check out her website at www.kendracunov.com.

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035: Having Integrity

Thu, 21 Jul 2016 10:00:00 GMT

This week’s show was off-script. In other words, it’s more real and vulnerable than I expected it to be. We start off with Robert Burns’ 1785 poem: > The best-laid schemes o’ mice an’ men > Gang aft agley The best laid plans of mice and men often go askew. In my life, I am suffering a loss of LA Mother. Not so much the business itself or my responsibilities but what it represented and what it was in my life. Integrity is showing up and being truly who you are. Not who someone else expects you to be. No. YOU. 100% you. I wasn’t in integrity with myself for my business and it got stripped from me. I’m grateful on many levels but also finding out who I am in the aftermath. Come take a listen.

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034: Surviving and Thriving in Transitions

Fri, 08 Jul 2016 10:00:00 GMT

I am in the middle of a transformation. Details will be made public soon. The question, really is how I handle this transition will be a true test of my commitment to being an entrepreneur and a man. As Tony Robbins says, “We all want stability.”

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033: Breaking The Old Relationship Paradigm with Ray Doktor

Thu, 30 Jun 2016 10:00:00 GMT

My buddy Jason said that I had to meet Ray that we are like-minded souls. We were like two cats when we first met. Sniffling at each other, our ears pinned back, but with a definite kinship. Since then, we’ve become friends and colleagues.

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032: Handling the Heat

Thu, 23 Jun 2016 10:00:00 GMT

I grew up an overweight kid in the suburbs of Long Island which meant the heat of the hazy and humid summers was something to be feared. I feared how my shirt would cling to my body, bring the cotton t-shirts to conform to the body I was ashamed of.

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031: Be Nice

Thu, 16 Jun 2016 10:00:00 GMT

A teacher once told me the viewpoint: “Being ‘Nice’ is telling the truth without anger.” I always liked that. – Last weekend, Morgan and I had the opportunity to coach a couple who were in a rough spot.

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030: Stop Creating Problems (Where there are none)

Fri, 10 Jun 2016 10:00:00 GMT

There was an epic fire in my new home of Calabasas, California on Saturday. We could see huge billowing smoke, fire, helicopters, planes, fire trucks over the ridge from our home. I was home cooking dinner waiting for Morgan and the kids to come home.

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029: Start with Why for Better Results

Fri, 03 Jun 2016 10:00:00 GMT

The first time I saw Simon Sinek’s presentation, “Starts with Why,” I was blown away. I saw the wisdom in his words and his eloquent way of explaining a new paradigm of how to approach business and life. It has become the first thing I often discuss with.

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028: Education around Gender Identity with Amy Jo Goddard

Fri, 27 May 2016 10:00:00 GMT

I am a heterosexual white male born and raised in an upper middle class neighborhood who really has never wanted for anything in his entire life. When they define “privilege,” it would be appropriate to use my life as an example.

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027: The Conundrum of ‘Unconditional Love’

Thu, 19 May 2016 10:00:00 GMT

The song says: Unconditional Love is what we all strive for. To have it and to receive it. The parents say: We love our children unconditionally. The cynics say: There is no such thing as conditional love. The Lovers say: I love – is it possible?

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026: Mother’s Day with Netta Kandell

Fri, 06 May 2016 10:00:00 GMT

I once read a “joke” on Facebook that your parents know how to push your buttons because they are the ones who installed them. – My mother, Netta Kandell, was born into a different time, raised to abide by certain rules.

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25: Sexual Polarity with John Wineland

Fri, 29 Apr 2016 10:00:00 GMT

I once told my good friend John… “I don’t believe in polarity.” He was quiet about it for a while and then his face turned red and I thought he might pop a blood vessel. We debated about it and teased each other about it and finally I got a clue.

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024: Stop Stressing Out

Fri, 22 Apr 2016 10:00:00 GMT

They say stress is a killer but it’s also the first step to losing your vision. When we stress, we stop seeing and when we stop seeing, we stop performing optimally and then we don’t do well and then guess what? We stress the f*&K out.

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023: Empowering Your Chaos

Fri, 15 Apr 2016 10:00:00 GMT

You know who you are. You call yourself disorganized or messy. You kinda like it and you kinda hate it. It’s chaos. However, power comes from taking the inherent force of chaos and harnessing it. Learn how here.

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022: The Conspiracy of Cool

Thu, 07 Apr 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Doesn’t everyone just want to be cool? You know that one in the crowd that has it all together? Cool under fire? Strong and silent. Never let them see you sweat. We all want to be suave and know what to say and how to say it.

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021: Eradicate Obsession with your Ex with Eva Clay

Thu, 31 Mar 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love, a weekly podcast hosted by Robert Kandell. We get together every Thursday at 10am PST to discuss the issues that are impacting our society today in relationship, communication, self-esteem and love.

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020: Stop F&*king Self-Sabotaging

Thu, 24 Mar 2016 10:00:00 GMT

After a one-week break, Tuff Love returns with a vengeance with a topic that’s near and dear to my heart, Self-Sabotage. We all do it. I do it. And it’s what’s keeping us in this small little box we call comfort.

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018: What Women Want

Fri, 04 Mar 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Hello and welcome to Tuff Love, a weekly all from Venice, California with your host, Robert Kandell. Each week, I pick a topic on something that I see in the world that needs discussing.

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017: The Role of Monogamy in Today’s Society with Ken Blackman

Fri, 26 Feb 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Greetings and Salutations world… My name is Rob Kandell and this is Tuff Love: A Live Group Coaching call which takes place every Thursday at 10am PST live from the lovely city of Venice, California.

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016: The Power of Jealousy

Fri, 19 Feb 2016 10:00:00 GMT

I asked a teacher once about how to handle jealousy. He has been having dynamic relationships for about 25 years. He looked me straight in the eye and said, “Handle jealousy? You CAN’T! You’re SCREWED! Go mow the lawn or something.”

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015: The MRA Issue (*men’s right activism)

Fri, 12 Feb 2016 10:00:00 GMT

In February 2015, a MRA (men’s right activist) named Roosh V tried to organize a set of Meetups across the globe that basically encouraged or at least supported the concept of non-consensual rape.

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014: What Happens when Partners Don’t Agree

Thu, 04 Feb 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love, a weekly live call from Venice Beach, California. My name is Rob Kandell and I am your host because I love spreading the tenets of Tuff Love in the world.

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013: Craziness Around Body Image

Thu, 28 Jan 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love, a weekly podcast with your host, Rob Kandell, live from Venice Beach, California. This is your weekly inspiration to live your life EXACTLY that way you want it. We don’t mince the words here.

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012: The Wisdom in Temper Tantrums

Thu, 21 Jan 2016 10:00:00 GMT

Hello and welcome to Tuff Love, a group coaching call with your dedicated host, me, Rob Kandell. Every Thursday at 10am PST, live from my home office in lovely Venice, California. We talk about the topics of the day through the filter of Tuff Love.

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011: What’s up with the Shame around Desire

Thu, 14 Jan 2016 10:00:00 GMT

My name is Rob Kandell. Welcome to the Tuff Love, my fastest 40 minutes of the week, every week. Why? Because we talk about the issues that I want to talk about. And I rant weekly on things I care about. This one was special to me because we talk about SHAME.

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009: Ghosting

Thu, 17 Dec 2015 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love, a weekly live group coaching call with your host, me, Rob Kandell. I am excited about this call because I talk about a topic that are near and dear to me. – GHOSTING.

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008: Patience

Thu, 10 Dec 2015 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love, week eight with your loving host, Rob Kandell. This call was recorded in the suburbs of Washington DC after my first redeye flight in a long time.

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007: The Tyranny of “I Don’t Know”

Fri, 04 Dec 2015 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love, week seven, a live call from lovely Venice, California with me, Rob Kandell. A man who just plain cares! This week we continue our attempt to spread love and harmony throughout the world with intense, raw truth on topics of love

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006: It’s Not the Circumstances, It’s You

Thu, 19 Nov 2015 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love, my weekly blast of ecstatic approval from the lovely city of Venice, California. Each week at 10am PST, I do my live show to share the gifts that were bestowed upon me through 16 years of personal development.

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005: Why does ‘Brash, Brilliant and British’ Piss People Off

Fri, 13 Nov 2015 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love, a weekly live coaching call from Venice, California with me, Robert Kandell, coach, consultant, teacher, lover of communication and always a little disturbed on how people in the world aren’t having their lives exactly the way

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004: Gas-lighting in today’s world

Fri, 06 Nov 2015 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Tuff Love: A group coaching call with me, Rob Kandell, your favorite part football coach, part drill sergeant and part-loving dad. It is week four, recorded live here in Venice, California.

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003: Taking 100% Responsibility

Fri, 30 Oct 2015 10:00:00 GMT

Welcome to “Tuff Love: A live group coaching call,” week three, live from Venice, California with me, Rob Kandell, your loving host. This week’s rant is about “Taking responsibility in your life.” I start off with a current event in my life

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